- Email attracts more successful dates vs. inquiries.
- I can have a record of date, time & length of date - more accountability, and easier for me to remember. - A phone on an ad attracts more contact, and mostly from people who prefer last minute appointments with whoever decides to answer their phone. - My email is my secretary. If I miss a 'call', it's still there 10 minutes later - AND a response in 10 minutes in an email is seen as a very speedy response. On the phone? They're on to the next person. - It enables me to properly research the person, think before I speak (write) if something catches me off guard. (Still have to work on that lol.) - I am a nervous phone talker. I could never be a sex phone operator lol. - It is much more convenient to open an email than to answer a phone when with friends & family, at the doctor's office, or around children. - It minimizes one sentence texts to initiate an appointment. "Hey, u avail tonite?" Good luck screening that guy lol. - I can see if the person is a good match by the second or third email. I.E. I guide them to my booking form and there can be one of three responses: 1. The screening form comes through (most inquiries). 2. "Why can't you just do it like this?" and 3. "I'm sorry, I'm uncomfortable with this. Can we find another way?" (1 & 3 are respectful and polite. Guy 2 may be a tad tougher to get screened. If three inquiries are in my email, I'll choose a 1 or 3 because 2 may turn out to be bossy, or not listen to boundaries during the date. They also usually end up doing that with rates too. (It has happened many times, actually!) - Less likely to have someone I potentially know in the area hearing my voice on the other line. If I can get an email, screen them, and see that they're not someone I know or someone I wouldn't want to know what my voice sounds like, I can confirm the date via phone.- Email etiquette is different than the phone and it also gives me privacy in both sides of my life. If I can't answer an email right away, no biggie. I will read it, use the information I have to look up my schedule, location, and time constraints/or free times. On the phone, I'm fumbling and may not even have my calendar with me. It eliminates a lot of wasted time on his part, a lot of phone tag, missed calls, disappointments.
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- Email attracts more successful dates vs. inquiries.
- I can have a record of date, time & length of date - more accountability, and easier for me to remember.
- A phone on an ad attracts more contact, and mostly from people who prefer last minute appointments with whoever decides to answer their phone.
- My email is my secretary. If I miss a 'call', it's still there 10 minutes later - AND a response in 10 minutes in an email is seen as a very speedy response. On the phone? They're on to the next person.
- It enables me to properly research the person, think before I speak (write) if something catches me off guard. (Still have to work on that lol.)
- I am a nervous phone talker. I could never be a sex phone operator lol.
- It is much more convenient to open an email than to answer a phone when with friends & family, at the doctor's office, or around children.
- It minimizes one sentence texts to initiate an appointment. "Hey, u avail tonite?" Good luck screening that guy lol.
- I can see if the person is a good match by the second or third email. I.E. I guide them to my booking form and there can be one of three responses: 1. The screening form comes through (most inquiries). 2. "Why can't you just do it like this?" and 3. "I'm sorry, I'm uncomfortable with this. Can we find another way?" (1 & 3 are respectful and polite. Guy 2 may be a tad tougher to get screened. If three inquiries are in my email, I'll choose a 1 or 3 because 2 may turn out to be bossy, or not listen to boundaries during the date. They also usually end up doing that with rates too. (It has happened many times, actually!)
- Less likely to have someone I potentially know in the area hearing my voice on the other line. If I can get an email, screen them, and see that they're not someone I know or someone I wouldn't want to know what my voice sounds like, I can confirm the date via phone.
- Email etiquette is different than the phone and it also gives me privacy in both sides of my life. If I can't answer an email right away, no biggie. I will read it, use the information I have to look up my schedule, location, and time constraints/or free times. On the phone, I'm fumbling and may not even have my calendar with me.
It eliminates a lot of wasted time on his part, a lot of phone tag, missed calls, disappointments.
You covered all the reasons why I prefer using e-mail too. I hate the phone LOL
I much prefer email, because those that actually get to my contact form have read the particulars and are often more likely to book.
I don't mind text messages. Most can be quick and to the point, which is fine; I can also gather verification info via text and have the session negotiated in "writing" that way as well.
I honestly don't care to talk on the phone about sessions period. I'm often times not in a place where I can talk openly, and I state in my ads that text is always preferred vs phone call. Plus, if i'm not in a situation where i can openly discuss session details and negotiate a scene, I'm probably not in a place where I have access to pen/paper/other recording instruments. It's so much easier for someone to gather their thoughts into an email. Oftentimes, phone conversations concerning sessions can be garbled and misunderstood.
Considering my emails are forwarded to my phone every 15 minutes or so, it's a fairly efficient way to get a hold of me, unless someone is trying to book a last-minute session.
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I do not wish to heighten the already extremely high paranoia some have with setting up appointments with providers but I must point out to some of you who like "phone only" as the method that it is not safer than email.
With all the smart phones around do you guys know how easy it is to record a phone conversation?
Not hard at all, my teenage niece showed me how she and her friend recorded other friends while doing a couple prank calls (nothing harmful just innocent funny pranks).
I am not going to go into specifics or legality that all can be looked up. Just saying people. You think you are being SO safe on the phone vs email hiring a heaux (that means HOE side chick if you did not know, now you know that too) think again.
You are not all that safe and some who are BSC can do it easily and may use that against you. How or what they could do with it I do not even know. EVEN if you were to follow proper protocol and refrain from saying anything specific about services someone could still have your clear voice recorded, with your phone number showing up as the caller, saved in their heaux phone or stored on some database that stores these recordings. WTF is right, google that if you do not believe me. Only thing thing this as pro-heaux made me certain of was to keep refraining from using the phone for booking appointments.
I am an email ONLY type of girl and never use the phone but for a quick text before meeting. I verify very well and have not ever met any crazies so I know what I am doing works. I know there are some of you HIGHLY against email because of blah blah blah but realize phone is not safe either. You simply have to use established providers and research research research!!
Stay safe everyone!
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For me, the phone is a 60 second interview for both sides as well as feeling much safer not having "hard copies".
Conversation connection is very important to me, as I am able to feel what type of energy is being sent to me from the person on the other side.
I suppose you could say I am a verbal communicator, and not a cyber typist.
Just my 2 cent