When a guy asks you that question it's like a woman asking "does this make me look fat"?
Possible correct responses for either question:- Say "no" and hope he/she doesn't pursue it further
- Pretend you didn't hear and change the subject
- Immediately offer fellatio/cunnilingus and make them forget what they were talking about
Was with my ATF provider, (no longer now), when after a brief conversation during our meeting, she said something that hurt both my ego and my feelings. To her credit, she new she had screwed up, and she tried to apologize but the damage had been done. Probably my fault, because I've seen here so often, 3 or 4 times a month, I allowed the line between client and provider to become blurred. So now I'm gone.
So have you ever said something to a client, (or guys to a provider for that matter), especially a good one, that you wish you could take back?? And were you successful with smoothing things over to make it seem like it had never happened??
Just curious..............
But in my defense I was usually about 10 seconds away from cumming. There's a weird curve wherein the closer I get to orgasm the stupider I become. Heh.
but, in person, it's even harder to take back. Generally best just to move on...
That said, I did apologize and offer to meet with them after I realized my mistake.
I jumped to a wrong conclusion when I recieved a blank email (which showed up 2 days later with message) and then recieved a follow up that suggested I understood more than I did. Plus, I mistook two different email addresses as coming from one client.
A lot can be lost communicating via emails and texts, but it's even harder to take back spoken words when they're wrong.
If I say something, it's because I thought it first and if I share that thought, I can't take it back. I can only explain why I thought it...
And if her thought was hurtful then taking back her words makes no difference. The thought still exists.
Next.
Not your first............oops ;0
That said, I did apologize and offer to meet with them after I realized my mistake.
I jumped to a wrong conclusion when I recieved a blank email (which showed up 2 days later with message) and then recieved a follow up that suggested I understood more than I did. Plus, I mistook two different email addresses as coming from one client.
A lot can be lost communicating via emails and texts, but it's even harder to take back spoken words when they're wrong.
If I say something, it's because I thought it first and if I share that thought, I can't take it back. I can only explain why I thought it...
And if her thought was hurtful then taking back her words makes no difference. The thought still exists.
Next.
I've never met anyone in rural areas, but I always think about how would and should we behave and what to say and what not to say and how, without creating any awkwardness, affecting our lives, or hurting business and hobby.
but you can apologize and explain where the words came from and why they were wrong. You can also say what you think now that you realize your mistake.
Personally, I can't view any person as "disposable", walk away and leave my ugliness out there. I'll do my best as described above, and leave the person I hurt/offended to decide whether to "forgive" me or not.
I'd rather own my mistakes and try to make them right than ignore them and walk away because it is simply easier or more convenient.
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EVERYONE says things they wish they hadn't. Communication is very powerful, and errors in this area are usually the reason relationships and friendships fail in all walks of life.
The hardest thing is figuring out if the person is a malicious person, or simply learning new communication skills.
We all have a responsibility to teach people how we communicate and teach them how to best communicate with us. We also have to be patient as they learn.
No one is perfect at relationships, but one way of showing that they are trying is by apologizing and trying to make it right.
The healthiest relationships consist not of perfect people, but imperfect people who know how to forgive. It's all about seeing the big picture instead of a few words.
A guy who was definitely very small asked me, precisely, how he measured up.
I said, "Oh 30th? 40th? percentile." He was crushed! "So...smaller than average then?"
Averages are PUBLISHED NUMBERS!!! How... Aaargh... I was obviously padding the numbers, but still...
I'll know better next time...
When a guy asks you that question it's like a woman asking "does this make me look fat"?
Possible correct responses for either question:
- Say "no" and hope he/she doesn't pursue it further
- Pretend you didn't hear and change the subject
- Immediately offer fellatio/cunnilingus and make them forget what they were talking about
Pretty much everybody thinks they're above average in everything. There was a study of people hospitalized after automobile accidents for which they were at fault. Something like 80% thought they were above average drivers. I never thought about someone with a small, er, tool thinking he was above average. I would have thought he would brag about being great at technique. But maybe not.
Everybody slips and says things they wish they hadn't. Even obvious things can hurt someone's feelings, sometimes because the person feels bad about it in the first place. All you can do is apologize.
So have you ever said something to a client, (or guys to a provider for that matter), especially a good one, that you wish you could take back?? And were you successful with smoothing things over to make it seem like it had never happened??
Just curious..............
As far as me saying anything I regret to a Provider, I have not. I'm pretty friendly with the current Provider I'm seeing.