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The provider does not have your best interests in mind.

Posted 6/13/2011 at 7:16:54 PM

And it would be unrealistic to expect that she would.  

You know that you are very vulnerable until you have had a chance to do the necessary emotional processing that comes after a "broken heart" type of breakup.  

One-night sexual stands are fine if you want a sexual outlet, but developing "fondness" for a provider is a very bad idea in your situation.


Posted By: captjsparrow
I recently broke up with my gf of three and a half years and was feeling mighty low. After extensive TER research, I found a beautiful, well reviewed 30 year old upscale provider who, after a number of email exchanges, agreed to see me on an extended 4 hour dinner date. I explained I wasn't ready for sex, but needed some companionship and an enjoyable evening out. The donation was to be $1,200, with a "bonus" if we wound up in bed.

I met her for a cocktail and she was more than I expected in every way. Once we both felt comfortable, we dined at an upscale restaurant and then took a walk on a beautiful spring night. Sitting on a bench watching the world go by, I completed my sad story. She listened carefully, offered some advice and we parted after she gave me a kiss on the cheek and a hug. She got into a cab and off she went, leaving me wistful, but happy in a muted sort of a way.

Next date was similar, same price, etceteras, but it consisted of a pre-theater dinner and a play, which we both enjoyed immensely. As we left in a cab, she took my hand, kissed me and slid my hand up her skirt. She was not, as it turns out, wearing any panties. She whispered in my ear that I needed to move on with my life and she was available to assist me in doing just that. That's as far as the evening went.

Now I'm $2,400 into this fantasy (plus dinners, show tickets, etceteras) and have booked her for a 24 date this coming Saturday, having reserved a room at a luxury hotel for the event. Quite frankly, my concern is that I may not be able to perform due to the recency of my breakup and the fondness I've developed for this provider.

Am I making a mistake in seeing her again for an extended time this weekend? Should I keep it platonic, or perhaps move on? I know she is an emotional crutch at this stage of my life, but I also know that I'm nowhere near ready for another "civvy" relationship yet. My broken heart needs time to heal before I can think of another relationship. I'm not going to "fall in love" with this provider, but I fear becoming emotionally dependent on her as she is fulfilling a need for companionship that I'm not ready to seek in a more conventional context.

Should i go through with the planned 24 hour "date"? Anyone else ever have a similar situation?

Comments, please. provider comments welcome as well. Thanks in advance for your thoughts.


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