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Re: Is there anyway to keep hobbbysits from getting obsessed over you?
TheLoveGoddess
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... In your post you come across as a very sweet, caring person who is a great GFE. You have gone above and beyond the call of duty in putting up with him.
I personally found LG's response to this narcissistic OP to be restrained in nature, but then again LG is a professional therapist and perhaps did not want to burst the OP's bubble in reply to the OP's first post, while sending her off crying to her bed!In no way, shape or form do I condone the actions of such (allegedly) creepy and possessive clients, but come on, you get no brownie points from Johns like me, for smothering the OP with kid gloves made out of silk! The OP seems to have major personality issues of her own and needs help which comes better in the form of some tough love, rather than your tickle-me-with your-feathers response!
Dear Ms. Love Goddess:
I am full GE provider and tend to do a lot of overnight and extended appointments with clients. Although I'm intellectual and share personal info about myself (most of it made up or important details left out, and don't give my real name, but sometimes a made up one), a lot fo the guys I see say I treat them like a true friend and they call me not ony for my hot body (I'm actually a model and an intern with a casting director, and am a theatre major in college) and open-minded service, but because I'm not fake and really make them feel like a friend who loves every minute of our time together (I don't always LOVE it, but I do enjoy myself and find this work to generally be fun and better than waiting tables, LOL).
So many of my clients are great, but I have a few that have become obsessed and jealous, trying to control me. I have one lonley old widow who calls me sometimes 10 to 15 times A DAY, drunk, leaving pointless message about how he can't see me, he has to work, a running total of how much he's spent on me since we've met (he has done a lot of overnights and bought me many unsolicited gifts, so it's over $45,000), how over-priced I am (I'm much more expensive than other ladies he sees), etc. I've had to block his number out on several occassions, but he finds ways around it. I rarely answer my phone, and on Saturday nights that I'm not with him he'll call sometimes 100 times, and I know it's all in an effort to try to "ruin" the appointment he thinks I'm on (he even says this in his drunken slur sometimes). It's a shame because when we do hang out I think he has a great time and he's actually a pretty easy date. It's the in between time that he'a a mess, plus he is wasting my time and trying to keep me from being with anyone else (and from making money, more importantly) when I'm not with him.
This is not the first time this has happend to me, although he is the worst "business sabatoger" I've dealt with. He's a drunk and gets nasty and mean on the phone and even in person sometimes when I say I can't see him when I he wants to see me next (I have a life and it's not always possible). Why do some men want to jeopardize a lady's business? I've never asked him to be my sugar daddy and he gets all sorts of special treatment because when I do see him he does an overnight.... I don't call him out on the 100s of other escorts he sees, so why does he feel it's okay to keep me form having other clients?
I have another guy that if we have a great overnight or dinner date that trys to short change me a little because he thoguht that I was giving him extra time because I was having such a good time... I told him won't see him anymore. He wrote me a fake bad review as revenge (I got it removed, thank god). He's also a drunk and leaves me message every week from a blocked number.
Is there something that I could be doing that's attractnig these guys? And so many of them are drunks?! I haven't dealt with a lot of peole with substance abuse problems in my life so It's hard for me to understand or relate to it. When I call them out on their behavior or refuse to see them they always use the way I treat them as an excuse... I'm TOO much of a GFE, I tell them personal things (ummm, mostly stuff I don't care about or lies!)... Maybe I'm too good of an actess, LOL!? I find that hard to believe, especially when this site is loaded when 100's of 1000's of reviews of ladies that are GFE. Perhaps most ladies have these problems and I don't realize it. And is there some sort of psychological profile that alcoholics are attracted to? I am constantly meeitng guys that drink too much and become co-dependent... and won't stop calling me.
Just wondering if you had any research or info that could possibly shed some light on this. I don't plan on changing my method of escorting, but I'm having a lot of problem clients right now and I'm trying to keep those types at bay. It's very puzzling to me.
Thank you!
I am full GE provider and tend to do a lot of overnight and extended appointments with clients. Although I'm intellectual and share personal info about myself (most of it made up or important details left out, and don't give my real name, but sometimes a made up one), a lot fo the guys I see say I treat them like a true friend and they call me not ony for my hot body (I'm actually a model and an intern with a casting director, and am a theatre major in college) and open-minded service, but because I'm not fake and really make them feel like a friend who loves every minute of our time together (I don't always LOVE it, but I do enjoy myself and find this work to generally be fun and better than waiting tables, LOL).
So many of my clients are great, but I have a few that have become obsessed and jealous, trying to control me. I have one lonley old widow who calls me sometimes 10 to 15 times A DAY, drunk, leaving pointless message about how he can't see me, he has to work, a running total of how much he's spent on me since we've met (he has done a lot of overnights and bought me many unsolicited gifts, so it's over $45,000), how over-priced I am (I'm much more expensive than other ladies he sees), etc. I've had to block his number out on several occassions, but he finds ways around it. I rarely answer my phone, and on Saturday nights that I'm not with him he'll call sometimes 100 times, and I know it's all in an effort to try to "ruin" the appointment he thinks I'm on (he even says this in his drunken slur sometimes). It's a shame because when we do hang out I think he has a great time and he's actually a pretty easy date. It's the in between time that he'a a mess, plus he is wasting my time and trying to keep me from being with anyone else (and from making money, more importantly) when I'm not with him.
This is not the first time this has happend to me, although he is the worst "business sabatoger" I've dealt with. He's a drunk and gets nasty and mean on the phone and even in person sometimes when I say I can't see him when I he wants to see me next (I have a life and it's not always possible). Why do some men want to jeopardize a lady's business? I've never asked him to be my sugar daddy and he gets all sorts of special treatment because when I do see him he does an overnight.... I don't call him out on the 100s of other escorts he sees, so why does he feel it's okay to keep me form having other clients?
I have another guy that if we have a great overnight or dinner date that trys to short change me a little because he thoguht that I was giving him extra time because I was having such a good time... I told him won't see him anymore. He wrote me a fake bad review as revenge (I got it removed, thank god). He's also a drunk and leaves me message every week from a blocked number.
Is there something that I could be doing that's attractnig these guys? And so many of them are drunks?! I haven't dealt with a lot of peole with substance abuse problems in my life so It's hard for me to understand or relate to it. When I call them out on their behavior or refuse to see them they always use the way I treat them as an excuse... I'm TOO much of a GFE, I tell them personal things (ummm, mostly stuff I don't care about or lies!)... Maybe I'm too good of an actess, LOL!? I find that hard to believe, especially when this site is loaded when 100's of 1000's of reviews of ladies that are GFE. Perhaps most ladies have these problems and I don't realize it. And is there some sort of psychological profile that alcoholics are attracted to? I am constantly meeitng guys that drink too much and become co-dependent... and won't stop calling me.
Just wondering if you had any research or info that could possibly shed some light on this. I don't plan on changing my method of escorting, but I'm having a lot of problem clients right now and I'm trying to keep those types at bay. It's very puzzling to me.
Thank you!
I'm narcassitic for asking a question? Please, Mr. Know-it-all-hobbyist, tell me EXACTLY where I was being narcassitic. I can tell you that you're bring a self-rightous asshole for assuming that you know that I'm sooooo self-centered. Self-centered people ususally don't go asking for help, now do they? Geez, get a back bone and stay of out my honest inquiry. If you have better things to do, they go do them. Your bad attitude and sense if entitlement are not needed here.
Live Goddess, do you have a recommendation for avoiding assholes who think they're better than the ladies they pay for services from, LOL?!
Live Goddess, do you have a recommendation for avoiding assholes who think they're better than the ladies they pay for services from, LOL?!
Dear Ms. Love Goddess:
I am full GE provider and tend to do a lot of overnight and extended appointments with clients. Although I'm intellectual and share personal info about myself (most of it made up or important details left out, and don't give my real name, but sometimes a made up one), a lot fo the guys I see say I treat them like a true friend and they call me not ony for my hot body (I'm actually a model and an intern with a casting director, and am a theatre major in college) and open-minded service, but because I'm not fake and really make them feel like a friend who loves every minute of our time together (I don't always LOVE it, but I do enjoy myself and find this work to generally be fun and better than waiting tables, LOL).
So many of my clients are great, but I have a few that have become obsessed and jealous, trying to control me. I have one lonley old widow who calls me sometimes 10 to 15 times A DAY, drunk, leaving pointless message about how he can't see me, he has to work, a running total of how much he's spent on me since we've met (he has done a lot of overnights and bought me many unsolicited gifts, so it's over $45,000), how over-priced I am (I'm much more expensive than other ladies he sees), etc. I've had to block his number out on several occassions, but he finds ways around it. I rarely answer my phone, and on Saturday nights that I'm not with him he'll call sometimes 100 times, and I know it's all in an effort to try to "ruin" the appointment he thinks I'm on (he even says this in his drunken slur sometimes). It's a shame because when we do hang out I think he has a great time and he's actually a pretty easy date. It's the in between time that he'a a mess, plus he is wasting my time and trying to keep me from being with anyone else (and from making money, more importantly) when I'm not with him.
This is not the first time this has happend to me, although he is the worst "business sabatoger" I've dealt with. He's a drunk and gets nasty and mean on the phone and even in person sometimes when I say I can't see him when I he wants to see me next (I have a life and it's not always possible). Why do some men want to jeopardize a lady's business? I've never asked him to be my sugar daddy and he gets all sorts of special treatment because when I do see him he does an overnight.... I don't call him out on the 100s of other escorts he sees, so why does he feel it's okay to keep me form having other clients?
I have another guy that if we have a great overnight or dinner date that trys to short change me a little because he thoguht that I was giving him extra time because I was having such a good time... I told him won't see him anymore. He wrote me a fake bad review as revenge (I got it removed, thank god). He's also a drunk and leaves me message every week from a blocked number.
Is there something that I could be doing that's attractnig these guys? And so many of them are drunks?! I haven't dealt with a lot of peole with substance abuse problems in my life so It's hard for me to understand or relate to it. When I call them out on their behavior or refuse to see them they always use the way I treat them as an excuse... I'm TOO much of a GFE, I tell them personal things (ummm, mostly stuff I don't care about or lies!)... Maybe I'm too good of an actess, LOL!? I find that hard to believe, especially when this site is loaded when 100's of 1000's of reviews of ladies that are GFE. Perhaps most ladies have these problems and I don't realize it. And is there some sort of psychological profile that alcoholics are attracted to? I am constantly meeitng guys that drink too much and become co-dependent... and won't stop calling me.
Just wondering if you had any research or info that could possibly shed some light on this. I don't plan on changing my method of escorting, but I'm having a lot of problem clients right now and I'm trying to keep those types at bay. It's very puzzling to me.
Thank you!
I am full GE provider and tend to do a lot of overnight and extended appointments with clients. Although I'm intellectual and share personal info about myself (most of it made up or important details left out, and don't give my real name, but sometimes a made up one), a lot fo the guys I see say I treat them like a true friend and they call me not ony for my hot body (I'm actually a model and an intern with a casting director, and am a theatre major in college) and open-minded service, but because I'm not fake and really make them feel like a friend who loves every minute of our time together (I don't always LOVE it, but I do enjoy myself and find this work to generally be fun and better than waiting tables, LOL).
So many of my clients are great, but I have a few that have become obsessed and jealous, trying to control me. I have one lonley old widow who calls me sometimes 10 to 15 times A DAY, drunk, leaving pointless message about how he can't see me, he has to work, a running total of how much he's spent on me since we've met (he has done a lot of overnights and bought me many unsolicited gifts, so it's over $45,000), how over-priced I am (I'm much more expensive than other ladies he sees), etc. I've had to block his number out on several occassions, but he finds ways around it. I rarely answer my phone, and on Saturday nights that I'm not with him he'll call sometimes 100 times, and I know it's all in an effort to try to "ruin" the appointment he thinks I'm on (he even says this in his drunken slur sometimes). It's a shame because when we do hang out I think he has a great time and he's actually a pretty easy date. It's the in between time that he'a a mess, plus he is wasting my time and trying to keep me from being with anyone else (and from making money, more importantly) when I'm not with him.
This is not the first time this has happend to me, although he is the worst "business sabatoger" I've dealt with. He's a drunk and gets nasty and mean on the phone and even in person sometimes when I say I can't see him when I he wants to see me next (I have a life and it's not always possible). Why do some men want to jeopardize a lady's business? I've never asked him to be my sugar daddy and he gets all sorts of special treatment because when I do see him he does an overnight.... I don't call him out on the 100s of other escorts he sees, so why does he feel it's okay to keep me form having other clients?
I have another guy that if we have a great overnight or dinner date that trys to short change me a little because he thoguht that I was giving him extra time because I was having such a good time... I told him won't see him anymore. He wrote me a fake bad review as revenge (I got it removed, thank god). He's also a drunk and leaves me message every week from a blocked number.
Is there something that I could be doing that's attractnig these guys? And so many of them are drunks?! I haven't dealt with a lot of peole with substance abuse problems in my life so It's hard for me to understand or relate to it. When I call them out on their behavior or refuse to see them they always use the way I treat them as an excuse... I'm TOO much of a GFE, I tell them personal things (ummm, mostly stuff I don't care about or lies!)... Maybe I'm too good of an actess, LOL!? I find that hard to believe, especially when this site is loaded when 100's of 1000's of reviews of ladies that are GFE. Perhaps most ladies have these problems and I don't realize it. And is there some sort of psychological profile that alcoholics are attracted to? I am constantly meeitng guys that drink too much and become co-dependent... and won't stop calling me.
Just wondering if you had any research or info that could possibly shed some light on this. I don't plan on changing my method of escorting, but I'm having a lot of problem clients right now and I'm trying to keep those types at bay. It's very puzzling to me.
Thank you!
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