Hi LG,

I have a question on vaginal tightness and wetness.  My current gf is not very tight.  She's not extremely loose, but far from tight.  Along with the fact she gets very wet (a real turn on, but not helping matters), it can make intercourse less than fulfilling.  If we abstain from anything for 4 or 5 days (complete absence of orgasm or touching of me), then I have no problem keeping an erection and getting an orgasm from intercourse.  But I'm usually "one and done" in that department with her, and we have to change to other activities during later attempts.  With other women who were tight, I can sometimes go several times a night, and multiple nights in a row.

It's not hurting our sex life much.  The sex is just great and this is the only area where we have problems.  The sex is extremely good, and that's part of the problem.  We want it all the time!  So for me to abstain from orgasm but for once a week is certainly not a good answer, and also pretty much impossible since we live together!  And while we both get a huge turn on from other activities like oral, mutual masturbation, etc., that doesn't help keep me very sensitive, and we both want the connection of intercourse more than it's happening.

What would be the best way for her to increase her tightness?  Do kegels really work?  And what would be a very gentle way to approach her about it?  We are very open with each other, but I think this news could sting a bit no matter how gently it was approached.