...when I first started providing, I thought my age (39 at the time -- 41 now) would be a detriment. In fact, it has definitely proven to be an advantage. Lots of men prefer "mature" providers, not just because they can't get past the idea of fucking someone their daughters' age, but also because we have more in common and may be better at connecting on an emotional level. I understand references to past events, for example.
I am just new to this hobby and have only done massages so far but I am really getting into this now. All ladies I have been with were in the 25 to35 age range. As everyone knows, there are some really hot younger providers out there in the 19-22 age range. Thus far I have held off getting a massage from any of the hotties in that age range because I am having a liittle trouble mentally with being with a naked lady younger than my son who is in college. However, I think that worry is starting to go away as the little head is starting to think for the big one a little more which is often the case.
Has anyone out there who has done this type of thing with someone younger than their kid had any psychological backlash after they have done it? It just seems so hot and so naughty!!
All I can tell you, littlecheddar53,
Is that no one has come on this board claiming "psychological backlash" from paying someone significantly younger for sexual services. Unless the woman in question is coerced, mentally disordered or otherwise enslaved, she goes willing to the party, so to speak. Please see it from her side - to her you're a client, never mind that she might have a father who happens to be younger than you. As long as you see this as a commercial transaction - which it is, quite frankly - her age should be immaterial.
Enjoy yourself and don't worry about it,
The Love Gpddess
I understand it is a client/provider relationship. Just the same, I choose not to see providers that are the age of my daughter. Mentally it is a little weird for me.
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...the first time I saw a sweetie 2 months removed from her 18th birthday. Yes, it was strange, but I have since left behind those feelings. If I like her, I don't care what age she is.
I choose not to see anyone younger than my kids and at my age that is getting harder to do 
...when I first started providing, I thought my age (39 at the time -- 41 now) would be a detriment. In fact, it has definitely proven to be an advantage. Lots of men prefer "mature" providers, not just because they can't get past the idea of fucking someone their daughters' age, but also because we have more in common and may be better at connecting on an emotional level. I understand references to past events, for example.
My daughters are some of the last people on my mind when visiting a young lady. For me it is more a revisiting of being young again rather than incest.
This comes up regularly - anxiety about having sex with women younger than one's kids, or just women that are a lot younger than the guy. I know it is both a fantasy and a taboo, younger is considered better and popular media so often portrays young women as the height of attraction, while if a guy actually acts on that he is seen as "robbing the cradle," or "having a midlife crisis." These are not terms of approval.
And, as a kid whose Mom had boyfriends later in life who were not that much older than my siblings and I, I can say it was a little creepy. Thing is, I am not sure whether the creepiness was simply that my Mom had boyfriends and I was far more aware of it than I wanted to be, or that their age was the issue - I tend to believe it was the former, not the latter. Kids, or at least this guy when he was a kid, do not really want to have to confront their parents' sexuality. The age thing was just a way of explaining a much more general distaste for the situation.
Anyway, the question is this - do you have any thoughts on the source of this anxiety about seeing young providers, particularly ones who are younger than one's children? Seems like it could be an internalization of the societal disapproval (though why the hell someone who is already paying for sex would worry about people disapproving of the age of the provider eludes me), or something more Freudian like avoiding acting on latent, incestuous desires, or being seen to be acting on them (which I guess gets back to trying to P4P in a way that people would approve of, good luck with that). I know that if I saw a provider and found myself unable to stop thinking about my daughter, I would never see that lady again, possibly stop hobbying, and pursue some counseling, but fortunately that has not happened.
There are perfectly good reasons to only see older providers, of course. As noted, those include the likelihood that the older lady will be more interesting to get to know, more comfortable with and skilled at the art of providing (though these are just generalizations, and there are many wonderfully engaging and very skilled young ladies around), and more organized and professional in her approach to the business. And then there is the risk that a provider who says she is 19 or 20 is actually younger, obviously a major moral and legal issue. So there are a lot of reasons to not see anyone under a certain age, probably somewhere in the mid to late 20s at least. But those reasons have nothing at all to do with the ages of my children.
Just some questions this thread brought to mind.
TIA,
Zig