Did u find out why u were booted off? They don't boot peeps off for no reason... I'm only relating my experience.... I requested to be part of PO board & w/in 24 hrs I was there,... But then again, I had like over 20 reviews when I realized how to utilize TER & my reviews are very current & very very consistent...
Hello Darlings!
I would place this in the providers only board but TER's admin has decided I am not ready nor allowed to access it. Anyway I'm curious to know ladies, how many of you provide OTC time? And do you feel this is something that really boots your relationship with your clients or does it blur the lines?
I have a client whom I truly enjoy and don't really see the problem with taking an hour or two out of my weekend to see him for dinner or just hangout.
And hobbyist do you feel that after a certain amount of time with a provider she should give you OTC time?
Kisses,
Miss Lola Luxe
Wow, I got onto the PO board on my first month on TER... But I also had many reviews by then, when finally realized there was a PO board they gave me access immediately...
Girl, if you enjoy a client & his company, why NOT!!! It's just giving back appreciation.. I do that with my ATFs... They appreciate it but as stated I do it for my ATFs only... Loyalty is everything!!!
Yes it's DISTURBINGLY DIFFICULT, I've asked multiple time and get the same "well you're new so nah.." Pretty much it's crazy! But whatevs their website I can't do much about it.
And yes loyalty is everything. I feel totally comfortable and okay with it, I ask because on the other major board, I've seen girls complain about it. I understand their time is valuable but it's not actually tangible so I don't get it lol
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Most ladies complain about it when a new guest or a past guest expects the OTC time. Since it is OTC it should be up to us if and when we want to give it. I know many ladies with young children who really can't provide added time, I also know several of my provider friends who also have other jobs and are very busy and unable to provide extra time due to barely fitting in the appt's.
I myself occationally provide OTC time to guests who visit multiple times a month, sometimes for those a see at least once a month or they are helping me out with something(help me when I need it and you get more time). It is all about respect.
Now when a new guest pushes for OTC time or just will not take the hint that time is well over, sometimes even getting grabby and trying to push for more play time it is almost never going to go over well. An infrequent past guest doing the same may also get the same treatment. My thoughts are if you are not a frequent visitor or a new one schedule how long you REALLY want to stay so you are not disappointed if she can't stay longer then you booked. OTC time is a luxury offered to those we enjoy and visit often, not to those who walk in barely knowing us booking the minimum and wanting to stay 2-3 times that. It is, well, for lack of a better word, rude to do that to a lady.
Anyway, that is neither here nor there. Most of my guests are so darn spent by end of our time together they couldn't do more if they tried, some are even scared I might grab them again for another throw down and leave slightly early because they are so spent and exhausted.... You know how it is... Hot tea anyone?
Thanks girl! I understand! It is a balancing act.
I myself occationally provide OTC time to guests who visit multiple times a month, sometimes for those a see at least once a month or they are helping me out with something(help me when I need it and you get more time). It is all about respect.
Now when a new guest pushes for OTC time or just will not take the hint that time is well over, sometimes even getting grabby and trying to push for more play time it is almost never going to go over well. An infrequent past guest doing the same may also get the same treatment. My thoughts are if you are not a frequent visitor or a new one schedule how long you REALLY want to stay so you are not disappointed if she can't stay longer then you booked. OTC time is a luxury offered to those we enjoy and visit often, not to those who walk in barely knowing us booking the minimum and wanting to stay 2-3 times that. It is, well, for lack of a better word, rude to do that to a lady.
Anyway, that is neither here nor there. Most of my guests are so darn spent by end of our time together they couldn't do more if they tried, some are even scared I might grab them again for another throw down and leave slightly early because they are so spent and exhausted.... You know how it is... Hot tea anyone?
You have 4 reviews give it a few more & you'll get into the PO board, it's a very helpful tool...
OTC is def up to you and your client, it's no ones else's biz & if others want to judge, then it's their problem.. This biz is all about human interaction/chemistry with the other person & if it works then WHY NOT!!! I def enjoy OTC with those I do it with...
Good luck!!
OTC is def up to you and your client, it's no ones else's biz & if others want to judge, then it's their problem.. This biz is all about human interaction/chemistry with the other person & if it works then WHY NOT!!! I def enjoy OTC with those I do it with...
Good luck!!!
And yes it is ultimately my decision and I feel I can determine who deserves OTC and why. I can totally see how some guys could potentially get wild with power though. Haha
But thanks for replying doll!
Once you get on the PO board (which shouldn't take long) it will be all good. 
As far as the extra time. Just have fun and do what you think is good for you. Don't let anyone take advantage of you or your time but if you are comfortable with someone then go for it. I have had a lot of fun with some clients that turned into good friends and actually more. So you never know. Good luck honey!
Love
Zana
OTC is def up to you and your client, it's no ones else's biz & if others want to judge, then it's their problem.. This biz is all about human interaction/chemistry with the other person & if it works then WHY NOT!!! I def enjoy OTC with those I do it with...
Good luck!!!
I totally agree!
AJ
off topic, but yes Gemma.. it's that hard.
I was on the providers board for years, then all of the sudden booted off. I've asked many times to be reinstated to be told I do not post enough. After being a member for 10 years, have over 120 reviews, I still do not have access.
Give it up, I say, being on the providers board...
Now I'll go and read the op's thread.... LOL
Jazz
Thank god someone understands this (I'm sure more ladies do). Idk what it is and how I can prove myself to be the provider I say I am? How many reviews should it take? I honestly think 3 reviews is enough, this is apparently a hobbyist friendly board. If 3 different hobbyists with reviews done previously have written reviews about me shouldn't TER trust them enough to know if I'm a real provider or not? Or my ratings in said reviews? Or the fact I spend a minimum of 500+ on advertising.
But no, according to them I'm still not valid. Cool.
Did u find out why u were booted off? They don't boot peeps off for no reason... I'm only relating my experience.... I requested to be part of PO board & w/in 24 hrs I was there,... But then again, I had like over 20 reviews when I realized how to utilize TER & my reviews are very current & very very consistent...
Definitely a factor in deciding the frequency of future dates.
I am always ready to leave when my time is up, so the lady doesn't have to hint or show me the door.
But if we have connected and she is up for talking or going to lunch, it means a lot and I will definitely want to see her again.
So it can be good business.
I have a friend I see at least once a month who hangs out with me unless either of us have something we need to do. It is a Big reason why I keep going back. I enjoy her company and we laugh together.
This is just my experience. I am not advocating anything so please don't flame me.
Thanks for the response! And no you will not get flamed, all opinions on my threads are accepted (:
I am always ready to leave when my time is up, so the lady doesn't have to hint or show me the door.
But if we have connected and she is up for talking or going to lunch, it means a lot and I will definitely want to see her again.
So it can be good business.
I have a friend I see at least once a month who hangs out with me unless either of us have something we need to do. It is a Big reason why I keep going back. I enjoy her company and we laugh together.
This is just my experience. I am not advocating anything so please don't flame me.
Otc extensions/pre-gaming means I love you. Otc period means we're dating and please believe, that is WAY more expensive! 
eally? Having lunch, dinner or a few drinks with someone means "I love you" and that you're dating?? Then I must currently love and be dating multiple women. Adults can hang out with those of the opposite sex as friends without adding the commitment of dating. You should try it sometime, it's enjoyable.
I love you meant in the "bestest client ever" way. Does smitten work better for you?
And yes, I am currently smitten with a few men and properly dating one. I don't do "hanging out." Enjoy your ambiguous relationships, not my thing.
I spend time with her on and off the clock. We've become friends at this point.
So what does this mean to you?
I see some ladies fear "becoming friends" means their client wants "freebies". How do you feel about this?
It looks like all the pitfalls of OTC have already been listed above: guys who just won't leave, or those who start booking shorter appointments with the expectation of OTC to make up the difference. I bet there are horror stories aplenty on the PO board.
There's also different levels of OTC: 1) Running over 10-30 mins. to finish without rushing. 2) Grabbing a bite afterwards. 3) Staying the night or other long unpaid engagement.
It's a nice gesture to offer #1 to your regulars as need be. You can save #2 & 3 for clients you would see for free under different circumstances
Thank you for your reply!
Yes seeing the PO board would be nice,
Don't know if it'll ever happen. Lol
And yes advertising that as a main service is a definite no-no as one other lady stated it's about loyalty. If you're loyal to me, I will be loyal to you
But as Courtney states below, threads and comments to this effect act as inadvertent advertisements. Do what makes you comfortable, don't put up with requests that make you uncomfortable and keep it all hush-hush.
I understood that. I wasn't saying as a literal advertisement either, sorry for the confusion.
I started a subject on when to pick a guy for OTC time - is it ok if he has knowledge you would like him to share etc? I got an enormous amount of PM's offering knowledge of all areas. One even booked an hour, was good looking, and eventually offered to take me to Dubai for $20,000 to most likely sell me as a sex slave. I think one even offered to pay for the meal/drinks.
Yup. Don't advertise it lmao. As far as anyone here is concerned, no free OTC.
It didn't hurt talk about it lol
*But yeah OTC is for people I like, not just anyone haha
I think they just want to make sure you are legit and not LE trying to gain everyone's trust to get on the PO board.
Good luck and hope to see you on there soon tho!!
If she keeps posting so that it is easy to know who she is then they will put her on. As another girl stated you have to continue to have a presence of they kick you off as well. Posting a couple times a week helps them to know you are in fact a legit provider
I want to see all of you soon!
I'm in it for the ladies hehe
So I was having dinner with a hobby friend of mine and I ask him how come he gets a lot of OTC and I get none? He put down his beer, smiled, and said "Because I'm single and you're married". Well, duh, I thought, as the cloud of unrealistic expectations began to lift...I could see more clearly...and now I'm laughing...at myself!!
Lol and that would explain it!
Because I very rarely have any time for OTC time as my excuses for being unreachable can only stretch so far...the unfortunate byproduct of the clandestine (and careful) use of the wonderful services you ladies provide!
Very limited time so the bit of OTC I get is greatly appreciated. Believe it or not, providers and hobbyists can actually be friends, now don't that beat all?
Hobbyist & providers def can be friends... I know I've made some wonderful ones ....
for each others time and schedule and not taking advantage of the situation. Funny how this hobby made me more comfortable with a wide range of generations. Those who know me know my personality is much younger than my physical years. I enjoy spending time with younger people more than my own generation. Damn fuddy duddy's, haha!