Paying $500 for a dress shirt, or $410 for a pair of Hermes boxer shorts? Naah. It's perfectly possible to dress very well ( and be chivalrous) without being foolish.
Turn Ons - The Little Things
I know that we all have our sexual turn ons but I was wondering what else it is that you notice about the opposite sex that makes them more attractive to you?
A few of my likes are:
a gentleman who looks after his nails (both hands and feet)
a gentleman who's dressed in a freshly pressed button down or dress shirt
a gentleman who opens the car door for me to let me in
a gentleman who looks me in the eye (while not in the bedroom) and tells me he thinks I'm beautiful (yum!!)
Girls? Guys? please share!
xo Laney
And wear nice shoes and yummy cologne! But of course being chilvarious also never hurts!
Paying $500 for a dress shirt, or $410 for a pair of Hermes boxer shorts? Naah. It's perfectly possible to dress very well ( and be chivalrous) without being foolish.
She communicates with me as we plan on the date, calls me by my name( not baby, miss jackson if you're nasty) and doesn't check her phone when we are together.
men who smell nice, with a tiny, subtle smell of cologne. (Too much has the opposite effect.) And I love it when they dress up for me and take me to dinner, observing all the right protocol (pulling out my chair, standing when I get up from the table, etc.). I also love it when they are truly interested in what we speak about, and remember things I've said and bring them up in conversation later. I love when they pay attention. And conversely, I love it when they share things about themselves. I love to know what makes them tick. And I'm with you on the nails and feet. Details are everything.
When men do things like that, pay attention to details, I'm putty in their hands. Wild and passionate putty, of course. 
I look forward to some gents' input!
... and yes!! I agree dinner dates act as major foreplay for me. It's so much more fun and relaxing behind closed doors once you've spent some time with someone and have had a chance to hear about who they are.
I'll be seeing you soon!! I look forward to meeting you in person.
xo Laney
polite, respectful and treats you like a Lady not a piece of meat....is/are HUGE turn-ons and should be for any Lady in this business.
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I like petite because I'm tall, 6'4" and who can anticipate what I like. I might be too personal but if a 5'2" girl wears a strapon it's a total turn on!
In my P411 profile, I have bothered to write a little bit about me and my life, because turn about is fair play. When it is clear that the lady has actually taken the time to read my profile, it is a turn on. There are times when it is painfully obvious that the lady did not read a darned thing, like for example the fact that if you are coming to see me, I am probably at a business conference and I do not want someone who shows up in the Julia Roberts get up from Pretty Woman. On two occasions this past year, I had to go down to the lobby (key cards for elevators) to meet ladies who were less than appropriately dressed, they barely had anything on. Lol!
As the other gent said, I also like to be called by my name, and while I can survive hon, babe is nails on a chalk board. Eye contact during play is a HUGE turn on because it makes it that much more intimate (he, he, in some ways, I am like a chick). The other point about eye contact is that if the lady cannot make eye contact, then I cannot help but get a feeling that she is somehow ashamed which is a perfect segue for my ultimate turn on: confidence. I love to be in the presence of a woman who knows who she is and likes herself.
When meeting for the first time, we chat for just a couple of minutes on the phone the day before. Just to put a voice and personality to the pictures and emails. Adds a little flirtiness to the game. I also love when a Lady dresses/looks like the person and persona that they put out there. Look, I think most of us "Hobby" because we are looking for something that we aren't getting somewhere else (at least I do). So to have some level of fantasy, or someone to treat me like I'm special, even for an afternoon, goes a long way.
Talking on the phone beforehand is nice....it's always good to hear a voice before you meet someone.
... as I mentioned last week I'm finding that the telephone is my best friend in the business these days. Reading what all of the gents have to say about we ladies doing our homework, knowing a little about each other before we meet, sharing a short conversation person to person and all of the other points made are kind of a nice validation.
Great thread Laney!
Someone who dresses nice for whatever event/date we are going to.
Someone who smells great. I agree with Sarah too much cologne gives me a headache.
I like it when a date treats you like a real girlfriend that they've met the first time, every time!
I agree with Laney on the nails.
Someone who brings you a small token is always sweet, knows my favorite wine/beverage and brings it.
Someone who doesn't just take care of themselves, they actually enjoy me!
Someone who asks me what I like 
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Someone who emails me once in awhile and let's me know about their life.
Someone who texts me that morning asking if I need anything.
Someone who turns the tables on you and gives you a massage.
Thank you all who have done this for me,
Kisses,
Mermaid Jad
"Someone who emails me once in awhile and let's me know about their life."
I am really curious about this one. Are we talking about real life here? I always thought that proper etiquette was to not do this no matter how well we click, since in real life we are not boyfriend/girlfriend. I sure would like some feedback on this.
I don't think either of us meant a weekly or even monthly email. We're talking about the Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday and the "hey, it's been six months since we've spoken - how are you?" messages. If you're a repeat client then we definitely like hearing from you as we consider you to be a true "friend".
xoxo Laney
As you know Jim, I am truly a caring person. I do like to know how my Sailors are doing after I put them back to sea.
I've have had the honor to meet many wonderful people, who send me emails once in a while to see how I am doing. For me, it means so much. In fact, I know someone recently I asked for a particular book they mentioned during our special time together. I am not shy and will ask if something peaked my interest after a lesson.
I agree we are not boyfriend/girlfriend. For me it's so nice to get a special note letting me know how they are doing, or if something we discussed may be of interest to me. I do cherish my friendships.
Again, I guess I'm different than most
Kisses to you,
Jade
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and the fact you're just plain great fun to be with is why I keep coming back all these years-You're always pleasant and always go the extra mile to make sure I have a good time-I wouldn't say different, just special, and your attitude has made you a great success in the hobby-Having been around the block more than a few times, I'd consider you a 'gold standard' for the industry. 1rob...you DESERVE this pat on the back...out 8-)
I don't think anybody could spend time with you and not realizing they just meet somebody special.
but we are likely lovers. And we are not lovers unless on some level we are also friends. And I care about my friends. I don't have time to email back and forth every day, but I love getting a little note every so often- even once a week is great! I will only email back and forth so long before I feel I'm being a nuisance, so I like my friends to take the lead. I'm there when you want me and absent when you don't.
is when a provider does a little homework prior to our meeting (just like I would do) and reads a little bit of some of the reviews I've written. That way, she gets a little idea of some of the things I like.
A little advanced scouting never hurt anyone . . . ;-
These are things that I notice that make women most attractive
A woman who doesn't wear perfume. I love a woman's clean fresh scent.
A woman who treats me like a person.
A woman who is open to receiving attention as well as giving. It should not just be all about me.
A woman who like to share soft touches.
A woman who is comfortable in her own skin.
Jim
.... I was thinking about it and kind of chuckling as I tried to define what "too much cologne" really is. For me, too much cologne is when I can barely breath being next to him because it's so heavy. It's when the cologne gets on my clothes and I can smell it in my car the next day. It's when I can't run an errand after a call because I smell like the latest Armani for Men. Mostly - for me - it's when it gets in my hair and **lives** there. Everytime I turn my face I smell the blasting scent of his cologne in my locks. Cologne is too heavy when even after I wash my hair I can still smell a faint scent of cologne on me. Yikes!!!
me with a civvie boy!
I love just the right amount, though. My body is very responsive to scent, and I've caught myself with a little ladywood while walking through a mall and catching a whiff of a cologne one of my lovers wears. Mmmm! My body reacts even before I realize it.
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Smiles all the time
Adventurous
Open minded
Interested and interesting
Energetic
Naturally affectionate
Looks good in a baseball hat and heels (not necessarily at the same time)
And of course an insatiable sexual appetite
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