You can say you met with the guy a year ago and he was okay...or whatever it is you say when you give a reference.  

You could also add that you have giving him a number of references since then and don't know why he does not have a more recent reference.

It could also be that he genuinely doesn't have a more recent reference.  Some of us only partake in the hobby part-time or when we're single, so when providers ask for a recent reference, it could be hard if we haven't seen anybody in a while.

some of us do not like the whole p411, date ck etc...routine as you never know where your info is going.  some providers do not take whitelists. some only want providers who have recent reviews and have a website. so quite frankly it is hard to get references. I can only really see indep's.  I have used the same providers a lot and am very thankful they pull thru for me. I have not seen them in a very long time too. But I guess they know I was a good guy and generous too. I would hope if they are getting sick of referencing me then they would let me know in advance or request I book again with them.; that's a fair request from the provider in my book anyway...just my 2 cents

...With the understanding (or simple expectation) that the new provider will "just know" who she is.

I've had guys with literally dozens (or hundreds) of national references, Whitelists, Preferred411 referrals offer me up each time they meet someone new in Boston because they know I have worked in Boston for years and they expect that most girls are aware of me and will trust my word.

So I don't take it personally, they're just trying to get it done.  If a client knows that you are rock solid when it comes to responding to your email they'll name drop you faster than some random he saw who no one knows and who responds to her email half the time .  That kind of girl is probably unreliable in regards to a reference check whereas you are probably very reliable.  The client wants the appointment and if it requires a reference...of course he uses the girl whose name carries the most weight and is most likely to kick it back.

I have a reference policy on my website which says that I will provide them for 6 months...but really I will send out comments for clients for years with the details about their physical looks, preferences and tempo that I remember with the caveat that I haven't seen them in a real long time and that she should ask for a more recent reference if its possible.

A lot of guys do not hobby every single week or every single month.  Many do it so infrequently that they only have that "annual" reference.  If I've met them I will attest to what they were like then so that the girl can proceed how she would like knowing that at least one reputable provider met him without incident.  I appreciate when other girls do this for me.

If someone is abusing me as a reference (has met multiple companions yet asks that I respond to an email on his behalf every week) I will say point blank "please circulate your references" or "I've only met you once, four years ago...lets be reasonable about these reference checks".  LOL

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Not always obvious.."

Sometimes using references to get screened should lead to new "referees" after the meeting, right.

 Well, by way of example, in the last 3 weeks I have scheduled to see meet three visiting providers.  In order to do this I had to ask, once again some of my tried and trusted ladies to provide references for me, which they kindly did, three times!

Now, as luck would have it, after scheduling, all 3 providers separately postponed their trips to Boston, due to "not enough bookings, to make the trip worthwhile after all".   I don't blame those providers, I understand their positions.

But now, I have asked a lot of my steady referees, and would need to ask them again for future screenings because of misfortune.  I could well understand their saying to themselves, why on earth does he keep turning to me, when I have given him several recent references. They might get ticked off, or even worse think....something is fishy here and think maybe I should hold off verifying him again?  

The correct action is to revisit with those wonderful ladies and re-up my credentials so to speak.  

But I write this to illustrate that it sometimes is not as obvious as you might think.

If I've seen a gentleman and he was safe and reliable.  I do usually state when and how many times I saw him.  

Some gentlemen do not hobby very often, only when they see someone who specifically catches their attention.  Others feel that certain providers they have seen will be insulted if they are seeing someone else and not them on a particular visit to the area.

As I have discovered, just because I had no problems and all went well, does not mean that someone else's experience will be the same.  Also you need to understand that circumstances change.  You need to screen, communicate, and form your own opinion. References are only one of many tools.  On 2 occasions recently ladies have written to tell me that gentlemen I have given okays for were late or no shows.  I can only speak for my own experience with him.  That is why it is better to get a few references or screen other information.  To that end, I will go back further than a year to verify a gentleman with a few providers if it gives me better peace of mind

How well did you know him, a year ago?  

I have men that I've seen regularly for *several* years, who, do to life circumstances, have moved on (usually in the geographical sense). If I had known someone very well for several years, but hadn't seen them in the last 8 months, then certainly I can understand if they still use me as a reference.

If I saw someone *once* a year or more ago? Not only is that just a touch odd, but it can raise some red flags.