The Erotic Highway
lttp here but I just have to say that is a superb piece of writing, Carly. very pleased to be a newbie here with intelligent discourse like this around my most needed-to-discuss subjects. & I may agree, coz my experience out of a Vegas agency, though many years ago was with a young woman who was clearly not happy & actually gave me, a complete stranger to her from out of town, her phone # & wanted me to party & go dancing with her and her girlfriends after hours
point being I didn't get off coz it felt like, she wasn't into it & she wasn't about to try to fake it either. & I guess she saw the problem so was nice enough to offer friendship which was totally cool. but seeing her unhappy with the gig confirmed traditional disdain for the industry & basically turned me off of hobby until now. as in, that is exactly what kept me away: the idea, and the previous bad experience with a young woman already jaded and disdaining men fueling that worry, that all the girls will be just like she was and I'll feel that, being the sensitive guy I am, & it will ruin it before it starts. for me. obviously I need to have more hobby experiences before making rash assumptions about all providers, but I'm just saying that was my experience and it left me for a long while feeling negatively toward your biz (don't even get me started on how screwy is the music biz)
but which I see now is quite a different, more interestingly diverse picture of simply different people experimenting with sex and business.
those two things being traditionally hazardous for everyone involved, even the rich in terms of the hyper-morality in the past and their reputations. but today's somewhat more openminded society, the integration of casual geisha culture here in the west which adds more respect to the industry, and finally all these intelligent, hip & sexually openminded kids (thanks to all the work we boomers did to clear the way for more sexual freedom and mental-emo health and better parenting than our parents ever gave us: more communication and expression) together with the great new tool of the web creating this place here, where the sensitive of us in the west who have suffered so long at the hands of rough men and laws may finally express ourselves at least somewhat openly, openly enough to get our needs met it appears.
kudos to all of you for making this happen. & you actually have Meet & Greets too. a true community. doesn't get much closer than the feeling at a rock concert where the music is typically just innocent young people who've been suppressed in some way by (usually religious) elders who control their community too strictly consequently driving the kids away and to those rock shows. musicians/groupies is the story of my past so I know a little about it. everybody sings together now. & your cause is a beautiful one indeed. I am very impressed and pleased with all of u
for example a woman recently remarked to me about how it didn't sound bad at all to be working independently and having sex twice a day with plenty of free time and good income. you'd have sex twice a day anyway. it would be the best part of the day. why not get paid for it -IF- the work environment is friendly and organized enough to create this social cushion, the legitimacy, that all capitalistic enterprises need in order to create a functional community. in this case, the priority for the working woman being that she has a good enough supply-demand ratio to be selective about clients, giving her power & control over her position in life, more than any blue collar employee ever expects to receive btw, which is of course why so many people these days choose to start independent small businesses
then I read a dude who says no guy should care what any provider thinks about him & remember that's a kind of guy personality that might work anyway depending on her taste n mood, as in 'don't bother me, casually apathetic, very attractive in men actually, a type that is used in modeling for example & is typically attractive type of rock musicians. but just as attractive, ironically, is its opposite: the Jack Lemmon with Shirley MacLaine in 'The Apartment' film- type of man who's like a daddy always concerned and giving giving giving... ahem.. maybe a bit of my baggage there. I guess the point I'm making is that both these personalities, though potentially attractive, are also potential drags, depending. on her. so once again, hook up right & everybody gets happier. & isn't that what this place is all about. you can't organize something this vitally important to the typical human community without free communication & expression. long live the web.
please forgive any pretension on my part for assuming what would be attractive to women but these things I mention are common knowledge
in the end for me, it's gotta be her digging it. don't care if it's a performance. I've been a performing artist all my life so I can relate. just go for it honey.
The two articles focus on women from completely different areas of the trade: LG's article focuses on TER-reviewed independents, who are also members of the TER Provider-Only Board. Dr. Alexa Albert's book focuses on a Nevada brothel. Two completely different experiences, two completely different viewpoints. The escorts in Albert's book were much more negative about their clients than the independents in LG's article, but their experiences were also much worse than any of mine (and by a tenuous extension, the average independent escort's). So, very few of the women Albert interviewed would admit to being aroused by their clients...they considered it beneath them...yet, in LG's article, "49% percent found their sexual satisfaction to be 'very much above average.'”
When I first started, I was extremely frustrated with escorting. My clients and their demands were sometimes infuriating, and I thought that this business might not be for me. Luckily, I read enough, and had enough GREAT experiences, to know that there was something better out there, than dealing with a stream of rough clients, no-shows, window-shoppers, hagglers, fraudulent reviewers, drunks, oxen-team-drivers, boundary-pushers, jerks and general pains-in-the-butts. I went independent, tweaked my marketing, and loved my job more than I ever hoped to
So I believe that a girl's attitude, largely depends on who she sees...if she sees jerks, she'll hate her job, if she sees great guys, she'll love it. At one point, I might have disdained "jerks"...but never MEN. The caveat would be, that plenty of clients out there, never dream that they are being anything other than a gentleman, but yet manage to get under a girl's skin.
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or even for an agency. I've read Alexa Albert's book as well. Really, I believe that it comes down to this: when you work under bad conditions, you resent your job and clients, when you work under better conditions, you enjoy them. So, see women who work under good conditions, who have requirements, and are selective, and you are more likely to be appreciated
The two articles focus on women from completely different areas of the trade: LG's article focuses on TER-reviewed independents, who are also members of the TER Provider-Only Board. Dr. Alexa Albert's book focuses on a Nevada brothel. Two completely different experiences, two completely different viewpoints. The escorts in Albert's book were much more negative about their clients than the independents in LG's article, but their experiences were also much worse than any of mine (and by a tenuous extension, the average independent escort's). So, very few of the women Albert interviewed would admit to being aroused by their clients...they considered it beneath them...yet, in LG's article, "49% percent found their sexual satisfaction to be 'very much above average.'”
When I first started, I was extremely frustrated with escorting. My clients and their demands were sometimes infuriating, and I thought that this business might not be for me. Luckily, I read enough, and had enough GREAT experiences, to know that there was something better out there, than dealing with a stream of rough clients, no-shows, window-shoppers, hagglers, fraudulent reviewers, drunks, oxen-team-drivers, boundary-pushers, jerks and general pains-in-the-butts. I went independent, tweaked my marketing, and loved my job more than I ever hoped to So I believe that a girl's attitude, largely depends on who she sees...if she sees jerks, she'll hate her job, if she sees great guys, she'll love it.
At one point, I might have disdained "jerks"...but never MEN. The caveat would be, that plenty of clients out there, never dream that they are being anything other than a gentleman, but yet manage to get under a girl's skin.
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The two articles focus on women from completely different areas of the trade: LG's article focuses on TER-reviewed independents, who are also members of the TER Provider-Only Board. Dr. Alexa Albert's book focuses on a Nevada brothel. Two completely different experiences, two completely different viewpoints. The escorts in Albert's book were much more negative about their clients than the independents in LG's article, but their experiences were also much worse than any of mine (and by a tenuous extension, the average independent escort's). So, very few of the women Albert interviewed would admit to being aroused by their clients...they considered it beneath them...yet, in LG's article, "49% percent found their sexual satisfaction to be 'very much above average.'”
When I first started, I was extremely frustrated with escorting. My clients and their demands were sometimes infuriating, and I thought that this business might not be for me. Luckily, I read enough, and had enough GREAT experiences, to know that there was something better out there, than dealing with a stream of rough clients, no-shows, window-shoppers, hagglers, fraudulent reviewers, drunks, oxen-team-drivers, boundary-pushers, jerks and general pains-in-the-butts. I went independent, tweaked my marketing, and loved my job more than I ever hoped to
So I believe that a girl's attitude, largely depends on who she sees...if she sees jerks, she'll hate her job, if she sees great guys, she'll love it. At one point, I might have disdained "jerks"...but never MEN. The caveat would be, that plenty of clients out there, never dream that they are being anything other than a gentleman, but yet manage to get under a girl's skin.
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that you think proves [most] providers do not like men. But, you’re clearly stuck on this idea that providers either “like” or “dislike” (recently downgraded from ‘disdain’) men based on their sexual orientation. But again, sexual orientation is irrelevant as far as whether a person “likes/dislikes” anyone (opposite sex, or otherwise).
I identify as lesbian. This is not an all-encompassing description of who I am. This is simply my sexual orientation. And, based on this factoid alone, without knowing anything else about me, there is very little you can ascertain about who I am as a person. My sexual orientation will not tell you how competent I am at my job. It will not tell you my political/religious/ethical leanings, or whether I like children, or dogs, or cats, or Chinese food. It does not even predict, with any certainty, whether or not I enjoy sex with men.
By itself, the only thing this tells you tell you is that I ‘prefer’ sex with women. It certainly does NOT tell you whether I “like or dislike men”. Because the answer to this question (like those above) is completely unconnected to my sexual orientation.
I guess this is the part of the program where I declare: “some of my best friends are men!”…lol….
Whether provider has some reason to dislike men---as in she genuinely does not like half of the human population as a whole, as well as the vast majority (if not all) of her own client base? Well….her sexual orientation is not the deciding factor. Really---Unless a provider candidly tells you she doesn’t “like” men, the only thing you have to go on is what she advertises, her reviews, and her professional behavior and reputation; which you will either find acceptable, or you won’t.
Should prudent hobbyist find those providers who “do like men”? Absolutely! And, you may be in luck because it’s hard to swing a cat around here without hitting one 