I totally understand your experience. The very first hobbying experience for me was fully of nervousness and anxiety. A lot of it was due to me now knowing what to expect. I didn't know the the "rules" of what I could or couldn't do or when I should or could make a move. In fact, I just kept chatting so much that she finally made a move on me. The intimate experience was so-so. Mainly with us orally pleasing each other because I couldn't really perform the way I wanted to. Let's just say I have gotten better since then.
Honestly, I would say what worked for me was just to think about and focus on being in the company of a lovely provider and not focus on whether I will or won't be able to perform. Most providers that I have been with are not only lovely on the outside, but on the inside as well and are as interested in pleasing me as I am in pleasing them. And many of them understand the anxiety that often happens especially on a first meeting and are understanding and don't make a big deal out of it. Be yourself. The more you hobby, the less anxiety you will have.Ok, so, title says it all. I've seen 1 provider and it didn't go so well last year. I was so nervous I couldn't get things going. I know I can, I just didn't that day. She was SUPER HOT (Ember Simmers)and very sweet, but I couldn't do it. Was it because it was my 1st time? Crap I don't know! I do know the exact same thing happened to me in high school when it was my real 1st time!(Eventually got thru that) So my question is, how do I calm down and get things going? I have an appointment this week with another AMAZINGLY beautiful girl! And at least right now, I am so so excited about meeting her! I really don't wanna waste my money tho.(It's a lot,and worth every dime) so any advice anyone can help me with? Anything to prepare? Plz, any feedback would be appreciated
Maybe try having a drink prior or even with your date. ask her if she likes wine and maybe bring a bottle? That is, if you drink and its not a morning date. I have had plenty of guys come and are VERY nervous. Some even visibly shaking. I try my hardest just to make them at ease. I'm not sure who you have seen and who you are going to see but maybe see a well established provider.
I hope some of this helps and enjoy the hobby!
xoxo,
Natalie
Thanks Natalie,
I appreciate ur thoughts on this. Unfortunately,no, I don't drink. I really feel like I can do this this next time. I got that one time under my belt now(although it didn't go too well) and I know what to expect. Hey, worse case scenario I can just BW,DATY and just admire the fact that I'm with an amazingly beautiful woman! My first time was a non GFE so I was certainly limited on what I could do. And DATY and FK are my favs and what I need to do in my regular life. So I do have that going for me! Hell, it's only money anyway!! Lol!
Thanks again sweetie!
I hope some of this helps and enjoy the hobby!
xoxo,
Natalie
I totally understand your experience. The very first hobbying experience for me was fully of nervousness and anxiety. A lot of it was due to me now knowing what to expect. I didn't know the the "rules" of what I could or couldn't do or when I should or could make a move. In fact, I just kept chatting so much that she finally made a move on me. The intimate experience was so-so. Mainly with us orally pleasing each other because I couldn't really perform the way I wanted to. Let's just say I have gotten better since then.
Honestly, I would say what worked for me was just to think about and focus on being in the company of a lovely provider and not focus on whether I will or won't be able to perform. Most providers that I have been with are not only lovely on the outside, but on the inside as well and are as interested in pleasing me as I am in pleasing them. And many of them understand the anxiety that often happens especially on a first meeting and are understanding and don't make a big deal out of it. Be yourself. The more you hobby, the less anxiety you will have.
That's prolly the best advice that I've gotten so far! I totally agree with everything you said. I posted this thread on the big national Newbie board too, and got a lot of great advice. But being ur self and just enjoying a HOT young sexy lady is prolly the best advice I could get! So thanks! And that's exactly what I'm gonna do. Talk a bit, BW, maybe kiss her and more BW, a little DATY and then see what happens. I may even tell her what happened b4. That alone should help me relax!
PS What I love about this hobby the most, I never thought at 48 Id ever be in the presence of a HOT 24 year old again! LOVE IT!!!
Honestly, I would say what worked for me was just to think about and focus on being in the company of a lovely provider and not focus on whether I will or won't be able to perform. Most providers that I have been with are not only lovely on the outside, but on the inside as well and are as interested in pleasing me as I am in pleasing them. And many of them understand the anxiety that often happens especially on a first meeting and are understanding and don't make a big deal out of it. Be yourself. The more you hobby, the less anxiety you will have.
I'm in my 40s as well. And yes, being in the company of scintillating 20 something year olds is quite the thrill! And not something I ever envisioned.
P.S. I don't imagine too many of the ladies will be disappointed with some well intentioned DATY. Happy Hobbying.