The Erotic Highway

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casinostocks 7 Reviews 2469 reads
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Not trying to be an abrupt and pretend-to-know-it-all type of person. However, when I read LG's response to the topic below, it hit me on the head like a 2 by 4!

I have also been in marriages when we were both young and the sex became mundane, routine and boring. We all want to believe that our wives are the epitome of innocence, purity and self-restraint. The fact is that they get bored with us sexually and eventually shut down (parameters such as their psychological, sociological, emotional and physical state play into this shut down) Yes, even married women love variety too and if they do not succumb to their forceful yet natural desires (normally anywhere from their mid 20's to mid 30's when they most likely experience a pre mid-life crisis) to look for alternatives, they tend to suffer a shut-down in their 40s when they think that it is too late for them to experience their fantasies, when they feel that they are stuck in their marriage.

A look at your review record, makes me believe that you are domiciled in the state of UT, where people typically tend to marry very young and when they are under the spell of their forced religious beliefs! I do not mean to sound judgmental by this statement, but I have had experiences with women from UT who were extremely frustrated in sexual terms and were yearning to be liberated. While your hobbying may spice up your sex life in the bedroom, it will do nothing for your wife, unless she starts hobbying too. JMHO!

Brief background...

Pretty happy in my marriage, just a little sexually frustrated sometimes. Hobby'd for about a year. Stopped and haven't done anything with it for close to 2 years now. Things have gotten stale at home with my beautiful wife. Routine. We're both very fit, clean, mid-40's, empty nest, fortunate enough to spend most of our time together. She's just not a sexual creature.  :(

I'm going to start back up again. Thinking maybe only for a month or two. Just kinda need to get my mojo back. Get some spice back into the bedroom.

Delusional to actually think this can help a marriage? Just wonder what the experts have to say about this???



Not trying to be an abrupt and pretend-to-know-it-all type of person. However, when I read LG's response to the topic below, it hit me on the head like a 2 by 4!

I have also been in marriages when we were both young and the sex became mundane, routine and boring. We all want to believe that our wives are the epitome of innocence, purity and self-restraint. The fact is that they get bored with us sexually and eventually shut down (parameters such as their psychological, sociological, emotional and physical state play into this shut down) Yes, even married women love variety too and if they do not succumb to their forceful yet natural desires (normally anywhere from their mid 20's to mid 30's when they most likely experience a pre mid-life crisis) to look for alternatives, they tend to suffer a shut-down in their 40s when they think that it is too late for them to experience their fantasies, when they feel that they are stuck in their marriage.

A look at your review record, makes me believe that you are domiciled in the state of UT, where people typically tend to marry very young and when they are under the spell of their forced religious beliefs! I do not mean to sound judgmental by this statement, but I have had experiences with women from UT who were extremely frustrated in sexual terms and were yearning to be liberated. While your hobbying may spice up your sex life in the bedroom, it will do nothing for your wife, unless she starts hobbying too. JMHO!

Try a sit down and explore each other's sexual fantasies.

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-- Modified on 3/15/2011 5:57:41 PM

TheLoveGoddess2282 reads

Ummm....help whose marriage, round_the_world,

Yours? Or your wife's? I fail to see how screwing around will help your wife, unless you feel that by doing so, your wife won't need to have sex with you as frequently [or at all] and can continue being a "not sexual creature."

I don't think your wanting to have sex with other women has anything to do with your marriage per se. Some men want a variety of partners, while others feel that it's enough with just one. I'm not saying that your feelings are wrong in any way, or that you shouldn't have sex with other women - I'm just trying to be as authentic and truthful about the solution as possible, that's all.

So whose bedroom needs to be "spiced up?" Hers or yours? If it's your communal one, I'd suggest discussing this issue with her and coming up with some solutions. Those solutions can be anything, from dropping monogamy altogether, to agreeing on discreet liaisons with others that needn't be discussed...or get going on some kind of spousal re-excitement program.

It's all in how you both choose to treat your frustration and her asexuality. But if SHE wants to have sex with someone else...are you going to be OK with that?

Just a thought,
The Love Goddess

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