It should be asked for in a respectful manner done with safety for the lady you are asking the help from. This lady did not do that for you Annie so even though you weren't being evasive by not answering it was the right thing to do.  Remember when a bust goes down all is confiscated from the escort .... cell, tablet,computer and old fashioned notes.

I want e-mail only myself as with Kelly it is safer and gives you time to check the provider out first. Hopefully the lady is smart enough to send me all their info to make it simple and pain free. After all we aren't getting paid for this service

Kisses Haley

I like email to. I even looked her number and saw she was an old provider in miami with reviews. but since I didn't have the info I needed I couldn't give her a str8 answer. And when I ask for more info She was like "you could of said that first. have a good day"
 
I was shocked b/c most of the time I get emails with number n name and something that would jog my memory who they r. but this provider refused to come off anything but the clients 1st name and the screen name for the other site
 
I did find out later that day who she was talking about b/c he contacted me asking if she contacted me. I told him yes but she was snappy and refused to give me the info to know it was him she was talking about...

As a guy when I need a reference from a lady (that I have visited) I will send her an email asking if she remembers me and would give me a reference. I generally will tell her who I would like to visit so she will be expecting an email from her. I will then send the new lady an email with my TER name and white list and my reference info. That has worked well for me so far.

I am very reference friendly, but i have my own system. Im sure there may be a few ladies who do something similar.

I tell my gents to contact me with the providers name, website, and number before they can use me as a reference. This way I have time to check out who this person is. Is she legit? I don't care who she is on a personal level, but I don't want my name/information given to every Jane Doe, especially if this person turns out to be a bad seed. If she is asking for references, I will know who she is once she contacts me anyway right?

After I have checked out her information I will either let them know if they can use me as a reference or not. Luckily all of the requests I have had turned up fine.

I dont mind a text because I have done all of my work before the text even reaches me. This also let's me know who the client is being verified beforehand, so the extra step of trying to figure out if we've met before is eliminated. Some girls will ask for a reference and leave you fishing for clues as to who this guy is, sort of the situation you were faced with. This way just works best for me.

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A client should not be giving phone numbers!  (How would they like their phone number given out to other people?)  They want discretion, well, discretion is a two way street in this business.

I had a provider call me while I was at work to get a reference verified for a potential client.  I was completely mortified!  Some of us have personal lives too.

JMHO,

Syd