I agree. I explained my side and he (finally) sent me the money he'd cost me (a day later.) I will add that there is a handful of men who enjoy making women wait for them - they get off on it. It is rare but it is something that certain guys literally get off on..it's a form of ego trip. Indicator: "didn't you have guys wanna see you this trip? You made some money already, right?" While this was his mindset (of a moron) it showed me he has a propensity which is why other ladies need to be warned.
I have a question: A client recently reserved 2 overnight visits with me and canceled each one in succession -last possible minute. He is well-known in local business so his screening was verified, however, he does not participate in any hobbyist sites. Each canceled date has cost me, substantially. Apparently, he thinks it's fun to have someone take time from their regular job, make arrangements, turn down other prospective clients, reserve a $129 hotel, spend on gas, make a 3 hour drive, purchase things for the date, then cancel last-minute. Not to mention time -twice in a row, always canceling with "business emergencies."
He thinks: If a lady cancels on a client, unless he reserved a room which can usually be canceled/refunded, he is only losing some time and irritation. That is not the case with providers, at all. There is overhead ladies pay whether the visit happens, or not. And when you're fantasy/luxury, it's an investment.
I am very low-volume, seeing only 3-4 per month, so canceling hurts me. If I were anyone else, his full name and business info. would be right here. Even though he caused me to spend over $200 twice, I am not mean-spirited. I do, however, want to make certain that this person NEVER HAS ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO DO THIS TO ANOTHER COMPANION. EVER.
He even said he'd send me the money that I lost, but of course, that never happened. He is the quintessential blowhard.
Of course I have reported to Verify Him which attaches to National Blacklist, but is there another place that ladies can report people like this? I'd feel terrible if this ever happened to someone else.
.... you know what sweetheart? That should be a big red flag to any provider. I am sorry you did not catch it.
"well known in local business".
..... that is like diplomatic immunity for him. There is not a damn thing you can do about him.
If you do all the things you did (drive 3 hours, $129 hotel, gas etc.,) for someone who is not a member of TER and obviously has no reviews, it is similar to familiar sign "park at your own risk, not responsible for loss or theft".
You remind me of a famous line from The Godfather movie from Don Corleone as he said to a man whose son had been raped:
"why did you go to the police? you should have come to me first".
There is not much TER and its membership can do to help you here.
Yes, I understand that. I'm not actually looking for anyone to do anything for the situation, save advise on where to and how I can alert other ladies. I'm extremely low-volume; I have been a companion for some time now, however I still have much to learn. I honestly don't know all that there is to know about reviews, hobby-related sites and the like. I suppose that is because I don't do this very often. But when I do, it's almost always been a really fun experience.
Red Flag: You're correct. I agree. But I will say that the majority of men I meet read reviews religiously but never leave them. When I screen, reviews or site activity are the first questions (screening profile on my site.) It's ironic how many men read yet never leave any. They are members of TER but don't participate. About one in every 35-40 who write to me actually have left reviews. But they've had accounts here. Why is that?
"well known in local business".
..... that is like diplomatic immunity for him. There is not a damn thing you can do about him.
If you do all the things you did (drive 3 hours, $129 hotel, gas etc.,) for someone who is not a member of TER and obviously has no reviews, it is similar to familiar sign "park at your own risk, not responsible for loss or theft".
You remind me of a famous line from The Godfather movie from Don Corleone as he said to a man whose son had been raped:
"why did you go to the police? you should have come to me first".
There is not much TER and its membership can do to help you here.
Very sorry that this happened to you. As another reviewer noted, this is where the White List of TER has a lot of value. I personally like it when a provider thinks enough of me as a client to give me that referral. If more providers did that, it would give other providers a greater piece of mine before making the type of financial....and emotional....investment that you made. Emergencies can happen, but not twice in a row. Still, having recently had a non-show experience, I know it's disheartening. And all I lost was time.
I agree! I have White Listed for several gents! Absolutely - WL is a fantastic, valuable source.
u did what u could by putting him on VH. but seems more n more gents r pulling these stunts n no way to punish them . And one bad apple ruins the rest..
I agree. I explained my side and he (finally) sent me the money he'd cost me (a day later.) I will add that there is a handful of men who enjoy making women wait for them - they get off on it. It is rare but it is something that certain guys literally get off on..it's a form of ego trip. Indicator: "didn't you have guys wanna see you this trip? You made some money already, right?" While this was his mindset (of a moron) it showed me he has a propensity which is why other ladies need to be warned.
Seems 80% of guys that contact a provider these days Are full of it.. All talk no action. just getting kicks dragging a provider along.. waiting for her to flip out or say something wrong so they can say sorry I am not coming. And if she doesn't they just disappear or make up some stupid excuse last minute.. Makes it hard to know who is a real client and who is a time waster
First, agreeing to an overnight with an unknown client without requiring a substantial deposit. He gave you no references, so you really had no way to know if he was a stand-up guy or a jerk. Most ladies, including myself, require a deposit for anything over 2 hours... just to weed out the dreamers, game-players and worse.
Second-- you gave him a second chance to cancel on you again!
Instead of worrying about how to put him on blast, you should be developing a policy that will protect you from such a crappy situation happening to you again.
So sorry he screwed you over, but hopefully you'll never let it happen again
I have thought of requiring a deposit before. And you're smart! I suppose that I have become too trusting, as I have most gents simply offer donation upon meeting. Most of my visits are 2-5 hours on average so you are right - I've become too acclimated to nice, sweet guys...
rules for guys is only book an overnight encounter with a provider you have had at least a dinner date with. Why would you want to spend an entire evening with someone you were not at all compatible with?
Also, take Tabu's advice; she has been very successful running her business for quite some time.
Good luck to you.
Yes, I read Tabu's post. Thank you!! 
I have only spent time w men I have been compatible with..it's funny, I have only met 2 with whom I wasn't. You're right; I've become too acclimated to being lucky in the sense that I've thus far, been w guys and everything has been fantastic so far as compatibility.
If he isn't on any sites how did he find you?
He thinks: If a lady cancels on a client, unless he reserved a room which can usually be canceled/refunded, he is only losing some time and irritation. That is not the case with providers, at all. There is overhead ladies pay whether the visit happens, or not. And when you're fantasy/luxury, it's an investment.
I am very low-volume, seeing only 3-4 per month, so canceling hurts me. If I were anyone else, his full name and business info. would be right here. Even though he caused me to spend over $200 twice, I am not mean-spirited. I do, however, want to make certain that this person NEVER HAS ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO DO THIS TO ANOTHER COMPANION. EVER.
He even said he'd send me the money that I lost, but of course, that never happened. He is the quintessential blowhard.
Of course I have reported to Verify Him which attaches to National Blacklist, but is there another place that ladies can report people like this? I'd feel terrible if this ever happened to someone else.
Tori first I noticed that you had a reply to every response except mine, is it because this guy found you on BP and in your original post you stated that he didn't send you the money you lost then on another post you said he did. Strange.
Hello, Thanks for your question. He said he found me on Eros. What I meant by "not on any sites," was that he reads online, but does not participate in any of the activities such as reviews, etc.
If you're not on the Providers Only board, ask for admission, you have enough reviews to be eligible. Post the story there, and tell the girls in your area to PM you for his name. That's what I did when I had a provider NCNS me. I got quite a few requests for her name.
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Thank you, I sincerely appreciate..I have become far too acclimated with being lucky - the few gentlemen I have met, I've clicked very well with, so something like this is rare for me. I have had 2 other incidents regarding men who seem to have a propensity for scheduling dates which don't go through. 3 incidents total over the time I've been a companion is not too terrible, albeit 0 incidents would be ideal. I try not to be judgmental, and I tend to try to see others' points of view, which can leave a provider in a vulnerable position, apparently.
Because I do this along with a regular career to make ends meet, I am extremely low-volume..so I have not had many negative experiences. But a Providers Only board would be wonderful. How would I join, where do I find it?
Click on the 'More' tab, the PO board is in the drop down menu. You will have to ask admin to get permission to join. You have enough reviews (at 3 are required) and a posting history to be admitted. Use the 'contact us' button to ask admin to let you on the board.
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I have both yet not allowed to the PO broad . I have contacted them And still nothing
Come on in and introduce yourself!
Probably had a few drinks in him and said to himself "I'm gonna do this!" and made the appointment with you. Then woke up next to his wife the next morning and chickened out. Twice.
I bet he's never seen a provider. And never will. If he's well known then that's another reason for him not to go through with it. Sucks that it cost you and he should reimburse you. Keep hounding him for the money he said he'd give you. Don't let him off the hook.
Thanks for your input.
I wrote to him and explained the night it happened (he had me waiting on the hook all day until 9pm. If he'd have just said no, I could have made other arrangements. Or at least tried..I don't usually do same day visits, but I could have tried.. and he promised to reimburse me..which did happen, albeit a day later.
I agree - "wannabe" hobbyist. I'm rather forgiving for one cancellation. The 2nd cost too much. Not to mention that he has the propensity to tell me he's coming through my town and never follows thru. (I noticed text messages after this debacle..never again = I've ignored him since this happened.) I'm going to join the PO Board.