Nothing too crazy or aggressive... Just the right amount to turn on the girl even more....

It's not right with everyone.  I prefer trust with a partner who knows their limits and who's interest is NOT in harming me.   Sometimes there's nothing hotter than a guy taking a fistful of hair and plowing for home.  No doubt it is a different experience than two bodies tangled intimately but it can still be erotic and personal between partners.

I enjoy a bit of rough play...hair pulling, spanking, forceful throat f**king, and humiliating dirty talk, but this is not for everyone.  Most ladies (including myself) enjoy a soft, sensual much more mild session.  

You are best to take the milder approach unless and until you have determined whether or not the lady enjoys and/or allows rougher play.  That way you cannot go wrong.

dynamic and chemistry between two people. I've definitely enjoyed this in my private life. Oh I could tell you so many delicious stories of times when I've pretty much begged someone to bite my neck (in at least 3 languages!). But the moment was right, the passion was unbelievable, and the lovemaking just flowed that way. Bodice-ripping, romance-novel sex is incredible!! For me, much hotter that porn sex. One has to be able to completely give themselves over to the moment- complete abandon- and this only happens occasionally in real life. Even less frequently in this life (but it does happen- thank goodness!!!).

I've had gents here pull my hair at the right moment and it's been really hot, but I guess it has to be something they tend to do anyway. Something like that can't be scripted. And if it's done in *not* the right moment, it could piss me off. Hard to say. I think there's a difference when something is done in a moment of passion and when it's done to establish dominance. Not into the latter at all.

I think this is why a lot of women say no men under 30.  I enjoy spanking a chick and hair pulling and that sort of thing.  But only if the provider is OK with it.  Further, I don't want to just ask for permission because that ruins the whole thing.  So where does that leave me?  On the one hand I don't want to ask for permission but at the same time I don't want to do it unless it is permitted.  Other than the times when the woman will actually say "spank me", it leaves me with having a feel for the situation, which pretty much comes from experience.  Also, there is a real art to spanking.  You want to make a nice sound but you don't want it to hurt (unless you are a sadist).