I have been right where your wife is....she may be too exaughsted for sex for quite some time.
Not only due to surgery but just the newness of a demanding newborn child.
We have met and I know you are a sweetheart and I am of the school of thought that marraige and sex can be seperate issues. Humans are not programed to be wholly monogamous. If you are discreet and careful then by all means go ahead and hobby again. Think of it as just another form of therapy. Analogy - if you were seeing a counselor due to relationships issues, then got married but felt you needed some more guidance - you would not think twice about seeking out a therapist again for the health of you and your relationship - same philosophy here.
Good Luck!
IMHO
I have not hobbied for a while since I got in a serious relationship and we married and had a baby. I love them both so much but due to her c-section sex is painful and she is uncomfortable, not to mention exhausted from the baby. Is it wrong to simply want some intimacy again with a provider? I realize most clients are married but I am happy with her just longing I guess
Give her six weeks. That's how long the follow up is. In the meantime, masturbate to some good porn. I know doing that has gotten me through some rough times too. Just wait until she is healed and the dr gives the ok to resume intercourse. How long has it been? If she is just tired, then hire a baby sitter or see if you can get family to watch the baby for a bit and then go to a hotel or wherever and get intimate again
Thanks Shai. It's been a couple months since she got the ok, we've had sex a few times since but not the frequency we use to, which is understandable because she's spends so much time with him, we think the OBGYN may have done some nerve damage though and that's why it's painful and it makes her fearful. I guess I'm just being greedy
If it has been months and she still has pain something is wrong! Too bad to hear this but I again recommend a babysitter and/or family to help watch the baby so that you too can rest first of all and then slowly get back to being intimate. I am posting this as you said you don't want to cheat on her. Don't feel bad that you have these feelings (seeing a provider) You are human and it's understandable. I just hope that whatever you do, it works out and you can serve up some cups. 
Why not try getting satisfaction with your wife in other ways? Your wife could give you hand release, sensual massage, oral satisfaction, etc. Maybe you could try some new stuff too, like fetish, etc. If you're truly wishing to be faithful, try all of these options first. If in the end those options still leave you wanting, then you have a decision to make. But you don't want to look back on this juncture someday and think- did I really do everything I could to preserve this sanctity?
Typically I suggest that men talk about possible threesomes, but in your case, your wife is likely fragile emotionally and even the suggestion could destroy her confidence. Eventually you may get the itch for strange again, and at that point, perhaps bring this up. But not now while she's likely super vulnerable.
And by all means, have her see her OBGYN again about the pain.
Good luck!!
"from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part". Looks like you are walking example of everything that is wrong in marriages in this country. There is much more to a marriage and family than sex.
Obviously you're part of the illiterate portion of this country that can't read. FOR PROVIDERS doesn't help I guess?
I'm literate enough to tell you that you come to the escort board and asking for permission to cheat on your wife! Get a life!
and providers for that matter?
Who the f*ck are you anyway to judge another member's comments? If TER board approves a board post, it is supposed to be within their rules and kosher, LOL. Get back to your shell.
The best advice is don't look for permission from strangers. If you feel comfortable hobbying then do it. If you don't, don't. But if you do decide to hobby it is your decision. No one here can give you permission, absolution.... you get the idea.
I have been right where your wife is....she may be too exaughsted for sex for quite some time.
Not only due to surgery but just the newness of a demanding newborn child.
We have met and I know you are a sweetheart and I am of the school of thought that marraige and sex can be seperate issues. Humans are not programed to be wholly monogamous. If you are discreet and careful then by all means go ahead and hobby again. Think of it as just another form of therapy. Analogy - if you were seeing a counselor due to relationships issues, then got married but felt you needed some more guidance - you would not think twice about seeking out a therapist again for the health of you and your relationship - same philosophy here.
Good Luck!
IMHO
Looks more like an advice to cheat on a recuperating wife!
Not only due to surgery but just the newness of a demanding newborn child.
We have met and I know you are a sweetheart and I am of the school of thought that marraige and sex can be seperate issues. Humans are not programed to be wholly monogamous. If you are discreet and careful then by all means go ahead and hobby again. Think of it as just another form of therapy. Analogy - if you were seeing a counselor due to relationships issues, then got married but felt you needed some more guidance - you would not think twice about seeking out a therapist again for the health of you and your relationship - same philosophy here.
Good Luck!
IMHO
I want to hobby because my wife just had a baby, I want to hobby because my wife has never had a baby, who gives a fuck?
Call up your ATF and have some fun!
Guilt is a funny thing that can cause separation from the ones you love .... Many providers feel such anxiety over living a dual life or possibly living a lie. Hiding such indiscretions deep inside can cause tension in any relationship.
95% of the men I see are married and most are happy with their partner other than in the bedroom. Few will look back at what they do as something that will ruin their life or relationship. Only you know how much negative feelings you will hold and carry through your marriage.
Perhaps it's time to get a mutual massage or something a little less intimate than you would normally have looked for before you made your commitment. This can be satisfying without feeling like your doing something wrong. Many massage ladies with reviews here do hand release which actually does sound mechanical in word but very sensual in reality.
Kisses Haley
Think of it this way. Do you plan on running off with whatever provider you see? No? Then do whatever you want. A person's moral compass is thier own and is not subject to whatever someone else wants to impose on it. If you can feel good about yourself afterwards, then there you go. No one can give you permission to do this, figure out what's right for you. I can tell you this though, if you're having to ask anonymous people on a message board, then I think you already know the answer.
And Csekhar, you lost all credibility wtih your completely idiotic, and clearly fictitious, last post. So please stop typing things, troll.
Hobbing is a way to get your needs with out .puting a problem in your life.
So what should a husband tell his wife when he is ready to go and sleep with an escort? Honey, I have this need and I will be out for couple of hours and it will cost us $300.
to judge another person's moral decisions. You are a FIDIOT and a hypocrite!
For the same reason you are judging my comments and opinion! LOL.
must be someones WIFE! Only a woman (or mangina) would make the comments you have. You have been exposed! Bwaaahaaahaaa...