it's a double edge sword & not personal.
So it seems providers label themselves one or the other. I find I react to different people in different ways. I may have a gentleman who wants to do dinner, hold hands, cuddle and have a true GFE experience. But another gentleman may want to get wild and crazy, toys, games, costumes. I love both of these and I am sure other providers love all the different experiences also. Does anyone else feel each experience is very unique? I may do something with one person that I wouldn't do with another. Chemistry is huge for me and I personally want to have as much fun as my partner. So why do many labels when it may be different with each individual?
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it's a double edge sword & not personal.
Thankfully I haven't had to stop a session yet and I believe that I've advertised myself to bring exactly what I need to keep this enjoyable for both parties.
I believe consistency is key to being able to brand yourself. If you are GFE or PSE you should be able to give a similar experience with some minor variations here or there. The boundary pushers, hygiene challenged and all around hard to please you will always have and they will always expect what others have got either through ignorance or simply wanting to power play. These are the ones that wonder why a provider continues to advertise yet they can't seen to get in contact with them!
That's a great point. Sadly whether we advertise or not, the bad apples still try to push the envelope. But thank God they are such a small percentage.
in common with a Lady I decide to spend time with.
I have tended to the GFE side of things, because I like genuinely connecting and enjoy getting to know the lovely Lady who has decided to share intimate moments with me. She is more than a means to 'checking off acronyms'.
More recently I have been blessed to engage in good conversations with a few Ladies prior to our first meeting, such that when we did get together, the date was more 'organic' rather than mechanical or rehearsed.
What has been very enriching is finding a Lady similarly-minded to me that enjoys exploring sensual nuances of 'the basics', so that our minds are as fully engaged as our bodies are. I love when she gets to a point of being comfortable in sharing what is her true desire for our intimate time. Sometimes it has been exploring the impact that various types of music have on us while we are kissing for an extended period of time, or, instead of fully undressing, she wants to try things in various stages of undress that she may have always done fully unclothed. And with one Lady, it seems she had only experienced DATY in a few common positions. So we had a great deal of fun trying a few dozen variations one evening. As a Giver myself, those times can be awesome, knowing you are 'exploring together.'
I think if two people really connect, they can run the gamut of GFE to PSE over multiple dates, or in one date. Intimacy never has to get to a stage of being 'boring' if both are open to exploration and discovery (and by that I don't mean light the candles and start dripping wax, lol!).
I completely agree that engaging in conversation whether via the phone or meeting, makes a world of difference! Getting to understand your partner is very important.
Vegas has made this the perfect environment I believe.
But I would say no woman has ever complained about a giver lol.
firstly its important to keep in mind that PSE means different thing to different providers and hobbyists.
But true PSE is a GONZO experience: fuckig for fucking's sake, lots of action lots of positions, not a lot or no kissing, It may or may NOT include greek depending on lady. usually ends CIM or facial
So if a provider want to advertise PSE she should keep that in mind that experienced guys who book PSE are looking for a hardcore fuckfest... if you're not ready to "grit your teeth" for a solid hour DONT advertise PSE!
Having said that often times gentlemen contact me asking the difference and are curious about the PSE... but after explaining , they generally realise they are seeking GFE. Or one step further a few new-to-PSE-guys have actually booked a PSE and realise part way through they're exhusted or spent and want to do GFE activities.
Honestly in my experience PSE is not common and makes up less than 10% of my dates
A GFE can and will give a PSE. Converesly, a PSE provider will give a GFE session. The distinction is in the desired attitude from the start. Many GFEs don't want to do Greek or CIM or CIF. It doesn't mean they NEVER do, but it's not the way they want to direct the session. A PSE provider knows that the client want hot, hard core, start to finish ACTION.
...totally open minded, kinky, naughty, pushing boundaries...
I sometimes label myself as GFE with a PSE twist. This holds true if my partner and I are both trusting, open minded, willing to try new things. When the chemistry is right, it's downright HOT HOT HOT HOT HOT HOT