Meet and Greet

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a prearranged engagement after the party vs having an open slate. I tend towards your way of thinking. I don't want to be beholden to anyone at he party- I want to flirt with anyone and everyone without worrying that someone might be watching me. What's the point of taking sand to the beach? Lol!  

Having said that, I do love having prearranged engagements for the subsequent days after a party. And I'm not a big fan of the idea of leaving the party with someone either. I need the waiting time between meeting and getting together. I love that build up. It can be delicious!
Posted By: PitchingWedge
I love a mix of familiar and new faces at these things.  Always fun to renew acquaintances with a lady you have seen in the past and even better to meet someone new and think ahead to pleasant times in the future!  And, on a few occasions at M&G's, that future was very soon as in right after the party.  
   
 I've attended a meet and greet or two where I did have plans for post-party pre-arranged and -- while the time spent afterwards was good -- the amount of fun at the party was diminished.  I love the idea of going to the party with a wide-open slate and not knowing how or when or where the evening would end.  
   
 As far as other questions on this thread, I've been to events hosted by men and women and really don't see any difference due to the gender of the host.  And donations have always been handled at the door.  And the M&G's in private homes/apartments, etc., have always been more comfortable although I really can't complain about the ones I attended at hotels or public bars.  
   
   
   
 

What is your idea of a perfect meet and greet? Do you like lots of people, or something more intimate? Do you prefer a public venue, such as a restaurant or club, or something more private like a hotel suite or a vacation rental? And food? Drink?

It may sound lame, but it's really the attendees that "make" the M&G.  The Gents want to meet friendly, attractive ladies.  The Ladies want to meet true hobbyists who are respectful.  No "time-wasters"...i.e. guys that just want to window shop.  That being said, some folks are just there to have fun and socialize; for others it's strictly "business-related".  But just because some one chooses the "fun and socialize", doesn't mean they aren't serious players as well.  And everyone needs to feel safe and secure.  Screening of all attendees is paramount.  

The venue needs to be of sufficient size that folks are not elbow to elbow.   Some folks are uncomfortable in "public" venues for discretionary reasons...understandable.  Meet & Greets are, generally, not Dinners; so snacks and finger food is fine.  Drinks should be available....whether hosted or a cash bar.  The cover charge should be commensurate with the cost of the event.....venue, security, food and booze.  Ladies are commonly admitted with no cover; the guys pay a cover that, hopefully, covers the expenses of the host(s).  Most M&G's are essentially "non-profit"...the total cover collected offsets the total expenses.   I understand a few M&G's are run as a "for profit" business.  

My $0.02

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The best M&Gs I have been to have accommodated both the "fun and socialize" and the "strictly business/networking" crowds.  Most importantly, those events had a light, pleasant "buzz" about them of people enjoying themselves and yet have been at venues large enough to allow for mingling and decent conversation without the frat party mosh pit type environment.

experience, do the gents pay up front? Or do they pay at the door?

Posted By: Ol_Desperado
It may sound lame, but it's really the attendees that "make" the M&G.  The Gents want to meet friendly, attractive ladies.  The Ladies want to meet true hobbyists who are respectful.  No "time-wasters"...i.e. guys that just want to window shop.  That being said, some folks are just there to have fun and socialize; for others it's strictly "business-related".  But just because some one chooses the "fun and socialize", doesn't mean they aren't serious players as well.  And everyone needs to feel safe and secure.  Screening of all attendees is paramount.    
   
 The venue needs to be of sufficient size that folks are not elbow to elbow.   Some folks are uncomfortable in "public" venues for discretionary reasons...understandable.  Meet & Greets are, generally, not Dinners; so snacks and finger food is fine.  Drinks should be available....whether hosted or a cash bar.  The cover charge should be commensurate with the cost of the event.....venue, security, food and booze.  Ladies are commonly admitted with no cover; the guys pay a cover that, hopefully, covers the expenses of the host(s).  Most M&G's are essentially "non-profit"...the total cover collected offsets the total expenses.   I understand a few M&G's are run as a "for profit" business.    
   
 My $0.02

I do agree with Ol_ Desperado.

Around 100 guests or a bit more, enough to fill a hotel suite and patio.  A more "intimate" gathering would defeat the purpose of meeting as many gals as possible, and also limit the benefit for the ladies.
It also should be private (a suite or private house) so things are kept discreet.  There have been bar "take-overs," but they are rare and I've never attended one.
As O_D said, finger food and an open bar area, with or without a bartender, are the way to go.  Guys are generally asked to pay $100 for entry so they have a right to expect the booze to be free.  People tend not to get drunk at these affairs, so it would be unusual for anyone to get too tipsy and misbehave.
As for "misbehavior," I've been to M&Gs where sexual contact (in bathrooms, closets, dressing rooms of suites) was frowned upon and others where it was expected.  If it happens, it's important that it not occur in the main gathering place of the party because some are uncomfortable with it.
I haven't been to one since January but it was the best I've seen, run by Ol_Desperado, RomeoGolf, BoneBoyBob and others, with a little back-up help from yours truly.

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does it matter who hosts? In my very limited experience, there seems to have been both a gent and a lady hosting. In your best ever, looks like all gents hosted. I understand that the gents listed in your post have been doing this a long time. What made the last one you attended (and helped with) so wonderful?

At least three or four.  It was a big group.  It does help to have a female co-host who has credibility with the ladies.
What made the last one special requires a long list.
1) It was in Las Vegas on AVN weekend, so we have a few porn stars.
2) It was in a gorgeous, huge suite at one of the top hotels on the strip.
3) The roster of truly gorgeous babes was the best I've ever seen.
4) The hosts and many of the guests were personal friends of mine whom I enjoyed seeing and sharing drinks with.
5) I met several wonderful gals whose company I enjoyed during the ensuing days.
6) The food and booze were top drawer because one of the hosts is from the food and beverage biz.

PS: It very much matters who hosts because, in addition to all the above being important, the most important thing is proper screening.  We had to deal with one person who wanted to come who had a "questionable" background and required sensitive handling. It was done right and there were no problems.

Posted By: inicky46
At least three or four.  It was a big group.  It does help to have a female co-host who has credibility with the ladies.  
 What made the last one special requires a long list.  
 1) It was in Las Vegas on AVN weekend, so we have a few porn stars.  
 2) It was in a gorgeous, huge suite at one of the top hotels on the strip.  
 3) The roster of truly gorgeous babes was the best I've ever seen.  
 4) The hosts and many of the guests were personal friends of mine whom I enjoyed seeing and sharing drinks with.  
 5) I met several wonderful gals whose company I enjoyed during the ensuing days.  
 6) The food and booze were top drawer because one of the hosts is from the food and beverage biz.  
   
 PS: It very much matters who hosts because, in addition to all the above being important, the most important thing is proper screening.  We had to deal with one person who wanted to come who had a "questionable" background and required sensitive handling. It was done right and there were no problems.

Sarah

I have been attending M & G's for the past 1.5 years. I admit that I was quite nervous in the start, but now fully enjoy them. I've been to a few in public spaces, and most have been in private hotel lofts or penthouse suites. I enjoy the intimate environment of mingling with "like minded" ladies and gents and it feels like such a wonderful escape to get away from the rest of the world and really be with "my tribe". The best parts of the event are really the connections I make with great ladies and gents..all other elements (food, drink, naked hot oil shows etc) are just fluff for me.

Sitara Devi

things do you take into consideration when you're deciding what M&G to attend?

Not leaving the party alone.  Two M&G's I attended recently resulted in overnight's, one planned, the other spontaneous and serendipitous.    As for the parties, the more people I know already in attendance, the better.  Private venues are preferable, though there's nothing wrong with holding these in public places.  Food and drink are a must regardless of venue.

plan ahead to engage a lady's time or doesn't it matter? You mentioned the guest list being important. You like them to be familiar faces. Nick mentioned that he likes a lot of people so (presumably) he has the opportunity to meet lots of new faces. Would you avoid parties that have people you've never met? I'm guessing familiar names (even if you hadn't met them) might be better than complete unknowns...

But sometimes it's fun to leave with someone unplanned.  As for scope of the party, I've been to big ones, and smaller ones.  It's always fun to meet new people, and see old friends as well.  In fact, I'm heading for one tonight, and I do have plans for afterward.

I love a mix of familiar and new faces at these things.  Always fun to renew acquaintances with a lady you have seen in the past and even better to meet someone new and think ahead to pleasant times in the future!  And, on a few occasions at M&G's, that future was very soon as in right after the party.

I've attended a meet and greet or two where I did have plans for post-party pre-arranged and -- while the time spent afterwards was good -- the amount of fun at the party was diminished.  I love the idea of going to the party with a wide-open slate and not knowing how or when or where the evening would end.

As far as other questions on this thread, I've been to events hosted by men and women and really don't see any difference due to the gender of the host.  And donations have always been handled at the door.  And the M&G's in private homes/apartments, etc., have always been more comfortable although I really can't complain about the ones I attended at hotels or public bars

a prearranged engagement after the party vs having an open slate. I tend towards your way of thinking. I don't want to be beholden to anyone at he party- I want to flirt with anyone and everyone without worrying that someone might be watching me. What's the point of taking sand to the beach? Lol!  

Having said that, I do love having prearranged engagements for the subsequent days after a party. And I'm not a big fan of the idea of leaving the party with someone either. I need the waiting time between meeting and getting together. I love that build up. It can be delicious!

Posted By: PitchingWedge
I love a mix of familiar and new faces at these things.  Always fun to renew acquaintances with a lady you have seen in the past and even better to meet someone new and think ahead to pleasant times in the future!  And, on a few occasions at M&G's, that future was very soon as in right after the party.  
   
 I've attended a meet and greet or two where I did have plans for post-party pre-arranged and -- while the time spent afterwards was good -- the amount of fun at the party was diminished.  I love the idea of going to the party with a wide-open slate and not knowing how or when or where the evening would end.  
   
 As far as other questions on this thread, I've been to events hosted by men and women and really don't see any difference due to the gender of the host.  And donations have always been handled at the door.  And the M&G's in private homes/apartments, etc., have always been more comfortable although I really can't complain about the ones I attended at hotels or public bars.  
   
   
   
 

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