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That is a very common question.... "The shower question" comes up from time to time......and for sure not a "breach of etiquette" to ask. Many ladies go so far as to write all that on their websites, (which I scratch my heads as to "why" they would list that on there..... seems more like a personal note thing to me, I do make mention of it when I send general directions to my location the day prior to our appointment, that a shower is available if they are coming directly from work, yadda yadda yadda) But if the lady has it all on her website and then you ask in an email, she may get miffed by that and then choose not to respond to you, when a simple, "sure, no problem" would have been so easy to type and push Send. Maybe she thinks that a shower would take too much time? Many ladies do count the shower time in to the session time, so maybe she decided she wasn't going to deal with it and just chose not to reply. who knows.
But, getting back to YOUR question....I would be mystified if that were "the reason" as to why you have not heard from her . I wrote some thoughts as to why ladies "go silent" on the MN board a few weeks ago....Here is an excerpt from that post: If she has went "radio silent"......
Keep in mind:
1) Most ladies do not have "help" with their emails and communication tasks....and it can become a bit daunting at times. At least it did for me "pre-assistant" days.
2) Some ladies, rather than a polite note telling you they have changed their mind about seeing you, OR that the day isn't going to work out after all, just simply do not write back.
why do women do this? Here's a couple of "my" insights to the oh-so-complicated female mind
a) It's less work for them (why should they spend MORE time on you if they don't want to
see you in the future)
b) They assume that you, the client, will just KNOW what "no response" means
c) they forget to do it
I would suggest sending her a polite quick little follow-up note. and then just wait. In any event, I hope you hear back from her!
If she has went "radio silent"......
Keep in mind:
1) Most ladies do not have "help" with their emails and communication tasks....and it can become a bit daunting at times. At least it did for me "pre-assistant" days.
2) Some ladies, rather than a polite note telling you they have changed their mind about seeing you, OR that the day isn't going to work out after all, just simply do not write back.
why do women do this? Here's a couple of "my" insights to the oh-so-complicated female mind
a) It's less work for them (why should they spend MORE time on you if they don't want to
see you in the future)
b) They assume that you, the client, will just KNOW what "no response" means
c) they forget to do it
I would suggest sending her a polite quick little follow-up note. and then just wait. In any event, I hope you hear back from her!
And as far as "the reason" goes, I'm not too worried about it either way. Whether she changed her mind or just got too busy, or something else, it's no biggie. When I was writing the scheduling/shower inquiry email I wondered if that was over the line, so I just wanted to make sure I hadn't broken protocol at all. The last thing I want to do is make a lady uncomfortable
And as far as "the reason" goes, I'm not too worried about it either way. Whether she changed her mind or just got too busy, or something else, it's no biggie. When I was writing the scheduling/shower inquiry email I wondered if that was over the line, so I just wanted to make sure I hadn't broken protocol at all. The last thing I want to do is make a lady uncomfortable
Thanks again!