If you don't want to give out your name, you will really limit yourself on what providers you can see. Many providers, especially established, much-desired, and high-end providers, require your full name to screen you regardless of your website memberships. However, there are also many ladies, such as myself, who are happy to screen you through your hobby identity and recent references from multiple providers. P411 makes this method easier, since your okays from ladies who you've seen will be displayed, making reference checks easy. P411 will allow a lady to know your real first name, but not your last name. P411 does technically have a policy where you must be willing to show a lady contacted through their site your photo ID with your first name and numerical day of birth (but not the month or year of your birth) and can tape out all of your other info, including your last name and address, so that she can't see it. However, this ID policy is selectively enforced by some ladies and not others, and usually ladies who require you to show ID upon meeting will inform you when booking.
RS2K will without question require you to give your full legal name to providers for them to verify you. So P411 is probably your better bet. But it will limit your options as far as who you can see if you do not want to give your legal name. Perhaps you will selectively choose ladies who conduct themselves with professionalism and discretion to occasionally give your full name to so that you can see them. This seems to be what many gentleman choose to do.
Ok, so it looks like most providers need one of the two. Which one do you guys like? I would rather my name not get out to the provider. Is that possible with either site?
Thanks in advance
Been discussed ad fucking nauseum.
If you don't want your name out, don't join either and see BP ladies that don't screen.
What lady is gonna let some strange ass dude off the streets into her place without a name?
You guys crack me up when you think a lady doesn't screen, you just don't realize that she is!
Who in the right mind would risk their life and safety?? Druggies, pimped & trafficed ppl and
those who don't give a shit or are desperate. Who in their right mind would want to visit someone
like that to begin with?
You need to provide NAME to BOTH screening agencies to my knowledge.
RS2K is much better, in my opinion!
To each his own but... Let the flames begin... or not...
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Totally agree with Carly.
To answer your question, it's not necessary to give your name out on p411 but most girl(including myself) will not see you without knowing your name.
I'm also a RS2K fan 
You guys crack me up when you think a lady doesn't screen, you just don't realize that she is!
Who in the right mind would risk their life and safety?? Druggies, pimped & trafficed ppl and
those who don't give a shit or are desperate. Who in their right mind would want to visit someone
like that to begin with?
You need to provide NAME to BOTH screening agencies to my knowledge!
RS2K is much better, in my opinion! Let the flames begin...
Why some of these guys would even want to see someone who doesn't screen is beyond me.
Do as many... It's a better chance for u to get in with providers... the more credentials u have the better chances on passing the screening process!!!!
Why do both, he will just get outted as fake/unsafe IF he is able to get through to join either of them.
I dont think RS2K will give someone like that the time of day.
Just my opinion.
Oh I missed something... I think.lol lol... Well he's delusional if he thinks he can see girls w/o real screening!!! Lol. Thanks Carly.... I was multi-tasking when I replied!!!
Sucking cock & reading is not a good combo hahahahahaha 😝😝😝😝😝😝😝!!!
Never never never in this line of work is it fine and dandy to meet with someone you don't know. I can understand "maybe" just maybe why someone wouldn't want to give their info to a random fly by night provider, but here you really have no excuse. No screening=no appointment. P411 OKS are NOT an adequate verification. You could be sharing accounts with another guy(how many times had this happened recently hmm). Not all money is good money, if they don't want to screen fuck it you're life is worth more than an appointment. Btw ladies, I can't post the link here but a well known Dancer/Escort was just found dead...again it isn't worth it.
and not one of these providers ever received real info on me during screening. There are other ways to be screened and no, you don't have to be relegated to BP to find providers who don't require real information. There are plenty of high-quality providers right here on TER who don't demand your real info. RS2K/P411 make screening easier for providers which is why they push it so hard
I've been very happy with P411. That, in combination with solid references from reputable ladies, is the key I think
but after hearing comments from a number of providers about how the OK system is manipulated on P411 and also hearing that some providers ignore the OK's, I don't see the point in paying an annual membership fee for a service like this. OTOH, showing a provider an ID with fingers covering the last name and address is no problem, the problem is in having your real name in a database we have no control over, hence the problem with RS2K.
The reference system is the best screening method the way I see it. Other methods requiring a full ID or having your real info stored somewhere are subject to unscrupulous providers using that info to blackmail, threaten, or coerce us. There is absolutely no reason why a provider needs to know a hobbyist's real identity unless she's reasoning she'll use this info in the future to destroy him if he misbehaves. It's basically a threat from the outset... give me your real info so I have the power to destroy you if you do anything wrong...and that includes a review she doesn't particularly like. That in itself is an immediately pass so I search out those who are willing to spend some time upfront contacting providers I've been seeing and asking them whether I'm OK. Heck, I even give a provider the choice of who they'd like to contact as references so they don't think I'm in cahoots with some provider for a good reference. I only see quality providers, all of whom are excellent references.
It's not necessarily the names that's the problem. It's the people you're dealing with. If someone wants to get at you, they can use anything - not just a name.
Providers get ripped off a lot too, which a name is useful. This way she can warn other providers.
It's much easier to change an email address than a real name - or even use a fake name.
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Many more providers have hobbyists real names than hobbyists have providers real names. It's rare seeing an escort on a blacklist and she's usually placed there by one of her rotten egg competitors. I see a lot of real male names on NBL and the other BL sites. I also see a lot of excuses for placing their real names on NBL such as "time-waster" as well as a few other "serious" offenses that pissed her off for one reason or another. Not that anyone believes or even trusts the blacklists sites but seeing your real name on the internet in such a light is bad, real bad.
My point was that checking with the other ladies who have seen the guy recently and/or regularly gives a provider a better sense of how he behaves. It's too bad many ladies don't respond to reference requests in a timely manner although I've heard about abuses of the reference system which explains why they don't.
The reason why I don't see people who are unwilling to give their real info is because I think they have something they are trying to hide from me. They might be violent, not have the money, intent to rip me off, or something like that. If someone is unwilling to share themselves with me, then I am unwilling to share myself with them. It is easy enough to just say no. There are other desperate providers who are willing to see them, they can have them. Some reputable ladies will as well, but I have to say most of them see that type only when DESPERATE and you are less likely to get them in their best showing. But then most of that not wanting to share name guys are just looking for their nut so no issues. Quality comes with good screening.
I agree, most guests that are serious about visiting and want to see me have no issue with providing everything I ask for and have a great time. A few don't want to, but not into making exceptions. There is just no way I would be able to relax and see someone I was not comfortable with.
Hell, I attended your M&G back in 2007 as a guest of Carmina and I saw your buddy JC. And none of those times was I asked for my real name. Yeah, I have something to hide alright, my real name, lol. You wanna give me your real name and then we can have a mutually assured destruction policy in place? MAD worked great during the cold war and it seems I'm smack in the middle of the 21st century hobby version.
It's OK, I doubt any of the 49 ladies I've reviewed will be insulted by your inference that they're of low quality and/or desperate because they didn't demand my real name. It's funny how so many new girls have told me I have a great review list so please don't infer they're not up to par because they didn't demand my real name. You know darn well there are many ways to screen at a high level of confidence without needing personal information.
I'll take it to heart though and continue not being violent, not being incessantly broke and not running out of the appointment leaving $25 gift cards in lieu of the fee. Cuz you know that's been reported so many times... lol.
Good catch - I know you've been itching for an opportunity to take a good jab at me and you jumped right on this one 
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and the 1 meet and greet I and a couple of other ladies had, the guests were all to be screened by us and no lady was supposed to bring an unscreened guest. Had I known, you would have been refused entry but also remember that was what 8yrs ago when things were not near as crazy as they are now. Times, they are a changing and right now there are to many things going on you have no idea about and I will not share on a public board. Sorry, but that is how things work.
You and I don't get along because mainly of this screening issue. You do things your way, I will continue to do things my way and keep myself and all of my guests safe that way. We can agree to disagree, that works
But me dying to take a jab at you? Really. Dear you are not on my radar nor am I on yours so to think that you take more time on my mind then to read a post or comment here or there, is being far more generous then you come to mind. You seem nice enough otherwise, but again. Bi-gons, we can agree to disagree. I am sure if the situation were reversed our view points would as well. You have little idea at some of the things I hear about, many times about guests who receive stellar references that just go bad. Till you are putting your life on the line, you have no idea.
My last on this because I have already been clear. Ladies, gents do what you feel safe with. NEVER compromise, in that you do a dis-service to yourself. You compromise your ability to enjoy the other person. Keep in mind there are more flexible people on both sides. I don't mean to insinuate that only quality comes with good screening, but you are less likely to have a good quality session if the lady does not in fact feel comfortable. Those are the facts.
Now PP, leave it rest. I had my say which I am fully behind and has not changed. You had yours. Now the OP has info and can do what they like with it. There is nothing more healthy in a debate then to get the true prospective from those actually involved. I am done. If you continue, you are talking to yourself and certainly not me because I am over it.
To my gents who get and understand where I am coming from, kisses, Lustfully yours, Sage
I joined P411 when I was new to this because I didn't have references and it gave me access to Newbie-friendly providers. I was comfortable giving my identification to P411 because it felt like a good way to get verified, but outside of a specific transaction. I also liked the fact that i could create my own profile and let my personality shine through. Over time, I saw more girls and established myself. So now I have decent set of references. For the most part, being Basic+11 in combination with references will give me access to the ladies I'd like to see. But not always. In those cases, I need to decide how badly I want to see them. I've given out my personal information in the past, and i probably will in the future, but its rare for me.
Similarly, the ladies will operate under their own rules driven by their level of comfort. Some will see newbies, some require work verification. I may not always like it but I certainly respect their right to protect themselves. And if I'm not comfortable, I just move on.
I was lucky when I stumbled into this that giving out my real info was an extreme rarity (only once that I recall and that appt wasn't so hot, I never even reviewed her, lol). Got lucky (pun intended) with an Eros girl who introduced me to her friends as well as TER allowing me to build up a rep without giving out my real info.
I'm one of those guys who doesn't have an uncontrollable urge to see a provider. I never have, there are some I'd like to see but if I can't, another will eventually come along. I'm patient and will wait for the next gem to roll around while staying in my comfort zone with trusted regulars. We're all driven by our comfort levels and mine happens to include not revealing my identity to a complete stranger, especially someone who has the power to completely destroy my life. I understand that most TER providers aren't BSC but all it takes is one mistake and having heard so many horror stories over the years about BSC providers ruining clients' lives, it ain't happening.
I'm glad someone agrees...
If you don't want to give out your name, you will really limit yourself on what providers you can see. Many providers, especially established, much-desired, and high-end providers, require your full name to screen you regardless of your website memberships. However, there are also many ladies, such as myself, who are happy to screen you through your hobby identity and recent references from multiple providers. P411 makes this method easier, since your okays from ladies who you've seen will be displayed, making reference checks easy. P411 will allow a lady to know your real first name, but not your last name. P411 does technically have a policy where you must be willing to show a lady contacted through their site your photo ID with your first name and numerical day of birth (but not the month or year of your birth) and can tape out all of your other info, including your last name and address, so that she can't see it. However, this ID policy is selectively enforced by some ladies and not others, and usually ladies who require you to show ID upon meeting will inform you when booking.
RS2K will without question require you to give your full legal name to providers for them to verify you. So P411 is probably your better bet. But it will limit your options as far as who you can see if you do not want to give your legal name. Perhaps you will selectively choose ladies who conduct themselves with professionalism and discretion to occasionally give your full name to so that you can see them. This seems to be what many gentleman choose to do.
For the providers point of view, P411 is a whole lot easier too!