my own little bit of sour taste comes from a girl in Tampa.My head is already gettin dizzy thinking about it.I wont go into detail but small amounts helping her out while I was back home in Ct.My money earned me many valuable lessons.I hate to say it looks like she may have been setting you up for this big score.Her thought might be that as time goes by you will let this slide.Out her so we can put the maluoka on her.
I have met a fair number of women, practically all of them have been extremely ethical about money...much more so then the general population, I think. But, I had one experience that has left me perplexed, as how to proceed. I welcome your thoughtful advice.
A fairly well known New England provider asked me to advance her $10,000 against future dates. I had seen her before. I had spent 2 or 3 full days with her previously. And, I had positive prior experiences when wiring or advancing providers payment in ancipation of an extended visit.
In short, this provider cancelled the planned date; then she cancelled the "make-up" date. When I question her behavior, she said, "I'll stop communicating with you if you dare question my behavior." Needless to say my attempts to get a refund have been met with only silence. Seeing her again is not an option for me.
Some will say, "forget it; you get what you deserve." Others might suggest that I get my "cousin" "Luigi" to pay her a visit and make her an offer she can't refuse. Neither of those answers appeal to me.
What would you do? (I am particularly interested in responses from other providers.)
Kiss it goodbye and learn a lesson..
of course you could always go to court, but have a fun time explaining it, and proving it.. etc.
This sounds heartless I know. I do feel bad for you.. There is another thing about this on legal board. But the provider fled to to London.
because I have been taken to the cleaners this way also. It was with a provider who I liked, but didn't know too well yet.
I have done the same with two other providers and they were completely straight up though, but these were people I had known for several years already. At the time I could afford to shrug off the loss, but today I need to be much more careful and, in fact, have had to turn down some requests for upfront $ lately.
but you are not going to get your money back.
You could put her name out on the boards and have
a public argument. It may be your only shot of
at least getting some satisfaction.
BTW, I could use 7K for my upcoming Europe trip. Money Order or Cashier's check made out to Smelly wil suffice. (I'm like Cher or Bono where a one word name opens many doors). Seriously, WTF, were you thinking?
unless you wish to air on TER - but then again - can she "strike back"? it is a consideration....
At least the story will make her future marks more leary.
And we can all call and harass her and book phoney appointments.... But that isn't going to get your money back.... HOW could you be so stupid? MA
my own little bit of sour taste comes from a girl in Tampa.My head is already gettin dizzy thinking about it.I wont go into detail but small amounts helping her out while I was back home in Ct.My money earned me many valuable lessons.I hate to say it looks like she may have been setting you up for this big score.Her thought might be that as time goes by you will let this slide.Out her so we can put the maluoka on her.
...Is ignoring you. I would recommend you send her an email basically stating the facts:
- You sent her $10g's for future appts.
- You never get the "service" for the money paid
- She is basically a ROB right now.
Tell her that she has two options, either refund you the money (either all at once, which I doubt because she has probably already spent it), or you will let everybody know who she is. "Outing" her on a public board will certainly not help her business, and will probably attach a negative stigma to her. As long as it is the truth, it is the correct thing to do.
But you will probably never see the money again I am sorry to say.
Post on his local board about a lady who is a ROB, and have everyone either back channel him, and to post an email for those who are not vip members, to get in touch with him.
...more than you are willing to easily let go. Personally, whenever I lend/advance money to someone, I expect to never get it back. This being said, I rarely lend money. And certainly not a huge quantity. You know that saying, "What's the easiest way to get someone to avoid you? Lend them money."
Initially I thought that I agreed with most of the other providers here, just post on a few of the local boards a brief story about what she did to you and then her income from other gents will decline. But I guess that revenge is decidedly un-Christian, so maybe just drop it, the point is, you'll never get your money back. She has her conscience to live with and if she can live easily with what she's done, then she deserves your pity more than your retribution.
Now, gadfly, darling, if you ever come to Tampa...
a trip to small claims court. Depending on your personal situation and how you tendered the payment of course. As I understand it escorting in and of it's self is not illegal but at the same time she will not wish to get into a legal battle (even if it is only in small claims court) either way.
I definatly cannot blame you for not wishing to spend quality time with the lady again as for now the attraction has been somewhat tainted based on your posting.
You do need to decide if you are going to do a review on her etc. You might want to give the lady a chance to make things right by letting her know your intentions. That you have posted here without stating anyting about her identity etc will already show you feel your complaint is legitimate and should lend credence to any review you choose to write.
Offer to make payment arrangements if you feel comfortable with that and if she is in agreement have her sign papers stating the 10K was a loan to be paid back and when it is due might be an other option.
One thing I regret to say is that you may just have to basicaly kiss that money goodbye. In any case I do hope you will not hold this one lady's lack of character sour your outlook on the rest of us. In the future you might want to look into something simular to what I do when a gentleman sends me an advance. I have him write on the payment form that it is for a charcoal drawing, painting etc and when I arrive I do have the item stated with me. I would think with many ladies it would be possible to name a tangible object or a service that would justify the down payment should a problem arrise. You can even (so long as no licensing requirements etc are in the state you will be in) possibly write that the payment is for her to escort you to _______ on _____ just make sure you do not mention anything illegal.
Either way I wish you luck.
Kisses
Georgia
Thanks for sharing. It has really helped me. I have lent thousands of dollars in the past to my atf. She has paid me back in services, but it has always been a struggle. Your experience will reinforce my desire not to lend her anymore in the future. That was always my fear, anyway, that the money would get between us. I'm afraid your money is gone and so is your relationship, which is probably the greater loss. Move on. I hope I can do the same.