A former co-worker just left my house after coming over for a lunch time ride on her Jet.
While the initial ride on this former coworker's airline was free, I fear that the baggage handling cost are going to be far more than if I had paid for a ticket on provider airlines.
Your thoughts?
some are easier to manage than others, I guess.
If push comes to shove, I suppose you can always get a restraining order. You just can't let it bother you.
Do NOT, under any circumstances, put yourself in a position that a psych evaluates you. Their job is to find out what's wrong, and there will ALWAYS be something wrong - with you. She will hold that DSM diagnosis over you for the rest of your life, which she will making very miserable.
I take it this is a public airline and you are getting a free ride because she works at the airline. When you refer to baggage handling fees you are talking about her later demands on you for the free ticket. You have a right to be concerned if the thought of having an intimate relationship is not a tasteful thought. (pun intended)
If there was no free ticket would you want a relationship with this person? If no, then you better be getting your per hour fee from her.
Dah Dude
There are many ways to get into family court. Sometimes even other courts will get you down the same road, eg if a woman calls the cops alleging (a) she is a g/f, & (b) you abused her. Unless you are bleeding and she is not, you (who are generally bigger, rougher looking and presumed more aggressive) have had the course. (Yes, women get arrested for DV - when the neighbors see them bounce bricks off hubby's head. OTOH, a psych finding of "emotional abuse" - ie, she doesn't like you anymore - will land you the same place. Do you really think a cop will listen to how she emotionally abused you? Cops and DAs in many places do NOT have authority to refuse or withdraw prosecution.)
Once in court (paternity, divorce, DV, etc) you will find the courts delegate most of their fact finding to court-appointed shrinks. So the shrink takes the role of the judge, except there are no rules, as there is in the law. Whatever the shrink feels becomes expert testimony, and a medical diagnosis.
It's like the Inquisition. Confess and be absolved. Don't confess, you burn.
I say again, do NOT put yourself in a position where you are on the butt end of psychoanalysis, for ANY reason. The rocket scientists among us can read the DSM and recognize that its diagnoses are made by comparing behavior, and there are no real rules.
See, eg, Bloch & Chodoff, "Psychiatric Ethics", Oxford U. Press, 1984. Though it does help to have some concrete samples to understand this moderately abstract theses.
Women lawyers who do not represent or date us or want to, have commented how harsh they consider the family courts toward men. You need to understand it is about social roles and expectations, not about any idea of legal facial equality. Forewarned is forearmed.
Where else do you think the idea of equating sex trafficking with hobbying with Russian brides comes from? Same schtick. There is nothing in common among these except that there is always a man involved, and always a woman involved.
Speak English, son.
The following relationships are ranked in ascending order of both financial and emotional expense:
Cheapest - Professional Relationship with a provider
Middle - SO relationship with a civvi
Most Expensive - SO relationship with a provider
The bottom line is if you just want a roll in the hay every so often see a provider. If you want a committed relationship see a civvi.
...a small perentage of every membership
...being mailed to my evil ex-wife.....
...FOREVER!
Sometimes providers would be cheaper... (At least I would have had more sex)
exactly that.