Thank you to all of you that provided some feedback. It's helpful to have a place were you can "think out loud" and get useful thoughts from others. Just a bit of an update. Yesterday afternoon I heard from my regular and she did something truly thoughtful and unexpected that just reminded me why I am really lucky to have found her. I still need to put some thought into whether I should "expand my horizons" further going forward but my feelings on my current ongoing relationship with her have been renewed after yesterday.
Oh and a couple of you sent me a pm. At the present time I am not VIP (haven't needed it in quite awhile) so I was unable to read them. I will do so when I reactivate VIP status sometime in the near future and respond appropriately. Thank you all again - the Las Vegas community truly is a supportive one.First let me start by saying that I like to find someone I connect with and repeat with her as I like the familiarity and comfort of someone you have gotten to know over time. I have been seeing my current regular once every 2-3 weeks for about a year and a half now. My issue is, that over the last couple of months it is starting to feel like I'm being taken for granted. Maybe it's just natural over time for both parties to become complacent.
I want to continue to see her but I'm now thinking that it might be best if I find one or two other ladies to see and rotate between them to keep things "fresh" for me as well as to avoid them becoming too complacent. I would appreciate any thought from both hobbyists and providers.
Secondly, she has always said she would be happy to be a reference for me (although I have never taken her up on that and we haven't discussed it recently). If I do reach out to other ladies, should I just list her as a reference (since she already said it was OK) or should I tell her beforehand.
Thanks
meeting a new lady and getting to know one another can be fun.
Of course if you are comfortable with your ATF then keep seeing her but if you feel you are being taken for granted try a different lady.I would ask your ATF ahead of time if she is okay with providing you a reference.
Some ladies do not even ask for references they have alternate methods.
Good luck to you!
J is right on the money there. I have been in the same boat as well with one of my ATF's, not taken for granted, but wanting to see more than just her. I reached out to a hobbiest that posts a lot, and asked him for his opinion. The best thing he told me was to just be up front with her. I was about a few things, and in the end, I was worked up over nothing.
FWIW, one of the hardest things to keep in mind about this great experience, is that it's supposed to be fun for both parties. Providers for the most part are not exclusive, and I would imagine that they know you are not either. Except for one encounter for me, alll of the ladies I have met are really just fun to be with. Again, that's what this is supposed to be. If she has a problem with you seeing someone else, take that as a sign that it's time for you to move along. Respect and trust are easily broken, but hard to earn.
Good luck to you. Thank you ladies for being terrific!
I'm just like u I have a regular in town I've been seeing for over two years. I also like building that connection and friendship which is what I love. For me all is well with my regular but I have a hard time giving other ladies a chance because I enjoy my regular so much. I've considered seeing a few other ladies to rotate like you are looking to do. IMO I don't see why you shouldn't use your regular as a reference. You already said she would do that for you. She obviously knows you well and I don't see why she would have a problem with it. I know my regular encourages me to see other ladies she says variety is the spice of life lol. I would encourage you to find another lady or two especially if you feel you and your regular are becoming complacent. Good luck with your search!
Thank you to all of you that provided some feedback. It's helpful to have a place were you can "think out loud" and get useful thoughts from others. Just a bit of an update. Yesterday afternoon I heard from my regular and she did something truly thoughtful and unexpected that just reminded me why I am really lucky to have found her. I still need to put some thought into whether I should "expand my horizons" further going forward but my feelings on my current ongoing relationship with her have been renewed after yesterday.
Oh and a couple of you sent me a pm. At the present time I am not VIP (haven't needed it in quite awhile) so I was unable to read them. I will do so when I reactivate VIP status sometime in the near future and respond appropriately.
Thank you all again - the Las Vegas community truly is a supportive one.
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The luster wears off. I was real regular with someone, and I was spending pretty freely on her as well. I have done all I could do with her in terms of fantasy, and I just feel like it has come to a point that I am not as interested, but I would still like to stop by occasionally just to check in and say hello and have a little fun. This is only entertainment and do not think about it being anything more beyond that.
The experience has gotten to be like Viagra for me. If a woman is not right in front of me tantalizing me, I do not think about it so much. I guess in my case it is an age factor and you just do not think about sex as much as a younger man.
These women have been very beneficial for me. I have a friend that is too cheap to spend $400 or more for a sexual experience. I am glad I spent the time and money because it takes the stress out of you, and I have had some great sex so I feel like I satisfied that desire to enjoy a little lust. Just think if you were wanting to get laid really bad, and you also wanted to meet a woman. Well now I feel more comfortable meeting women because I am not thinking about the sexual need so much
For another reason too! If you do not use it then you lose it! So as much as the so called moralists will denounce our activity, there is a very real benefit to having sexy women who like to have fun without any of the commitment nonsense.
i agree to have a regular when visiting vegas.I live on east coast and visit vegas four times a year . i have a regular i see for a full day every time visiting . Been doing this for the last 4 yrs .We know what each other likes and dislikes we always have a ball.
Even though you have a special regular, it's beneficial to see other providers on occasion, for several reasons. First, it's essential to have some viable Plan B's available, in case your regular (or others) has to cancel on you with short notice. Finding a last minute replacement is not easy, but you'll have a much better chance if you've seen them before.
Also, seeing other providers may give your regular the added confidence that you are a safe client, one who is less likely to get overly attached and to cross boundaries. One of my former regulars, now retired, used to always ask me who else I was seeing during my visits to LV... she used to laugh and say that she wanted to check out her competition. Nothing wrong with keeping them on their toes, LOL, which may help in avoiding the complacency that you describe, as well as enhancing the quality of your future visits
you may be right come july i will have to add one more friend to see.