Laney, sorry to hear it! The guy who would do something like that to such a lady isn't even worth your anger. Jerks exist in all circles, best we can do is learn from our past/mistakes and don't let others determine the type of person we are!
I'm certain no one in the world ever wants to hear people complain and I truly try to fake my way past it all of the time but darn it, I was burned tonight and I'm angry.
I feel like I always do my best and always try to come out with a warm heart. What is it in a person that makes them be so mean and vindictive to want to ruin that in someone by stealing from them? Stealing time, stealing money....kind of one and the same.
The only thing I can compare my mood to is that of an oil trader who's day just went really bad after being really up. What does he do? He slams the phone, curses out loud, calls the idiot who screwed up and barks at them and then?....... he strolls outside for a minute, grabs a cup of joe and comes back to start the whole process again with a fresh attitude (albeit with a slight chip on his shoulder).
I'll ride the chip. Can someone help with the rip offs?
It feels horrible to be ripped off, and people who do that should be tarred and feathered, then put out for the bears. Things will get better. Smile. 
Hugs,
Ciara
...you let us know about what happened. I suspect whatever happened, you won't let it happen again. Lovely site by the way. See if you could also post your TER reviews on your postings. Cheer up. What goes around comes around I am sure.
I just hate to seem like a complainer. I'm usually a part-timer in the biz so I do get a little rusty sometimes when it comes to protocol. Started with him calling constantly which always bothers me for some reason. I flag people who do that but none the less I followed up. He asked for an appointment, I gave him a range of times. Then, it was can we negotiate your rate...blah, blah, blah.
I politely said no and said I had to go. He called all day Saturday. Around 6 PM I figured I've got nothing to do so I'll go ahead and call him back (against my better judgement). He was argumentative and was resisted following basic dating protocol. I decided to compromise and meet him at a pub prior to our agreed upon hotel which was only a couple of blocks away. He was supposed to have made all the arrangements by the time I arrived.
When I sat down (with a fresh attitude) he started giving me a hard time about why I had to be so difficult and why couldn't I just meet him outside the hotel on the street. I simply asked him why he pursued the appointment if he was going to come to the table with a chip on his shoulder. Mind you....it's 10 PM by now and I've been dealing with his difficult demeanor all night. He acted like a cop so I was being extremely careful with my words. He kept asking very direct, very explicit things and referred to money in the same sentence. I wanted to run but I still wasn't sure so I sat and finished my drink. No need to waste good jack!! ; ) ...Anyhow, we rounded up under the ruse that we were getting a bottle of wine to take with us from the liquor store next door. We got outside and he asked me to sit in his car for a moment to warm up. He knew I was completely opposed to this but (stupid me) since his car was parked on a major street and someone had double parked beside him I sat for a moment. Again with the direct and explicit questions. How much for how much time? I simply refused to answer other than just nodding my head. When he finally said, OK, we're going to another hotel because I don't want to pay full rate for an overnight I opened up the door, stepped out and walked away.
What do you think? Cop or just a big fat jerk?
He wasn't drinking. Tried to lean in really close for my answers n the bar and then tried to get me to speak to him in his car ( a place with a lot less noise). Also, when I tried to peel off one his layers in attempt to see if anything was under the layer he pushed my hand away.
There's more but that's enough right?
btw...can't give a name because I'm fairly certain he used the name of someone I saw recently who posted something nice about me. Girls, if you email me directly I'll give your more details.
But, it sounds like you should have backed out more definitively much sooner in the game. You got burned because you are too damn nice! Save that for the clients who play be the rules and are gentlemen to boot. There are enough of us out there, I hope.
I have had 3 cops try to date me.
First one, when I started...kept talking about massage parlors when the subject was world travel. Kept talking about how horney he was and how good looking I was and that he recently got a raise. I walked out but gave him a number to contact me later in case I changed my mind. The number I gave him was a land line of my old place and caller Id said Det. D** C*****
The second one was nicer but kept talking about strippers he had dated when I mentioned I worked at a gold course as the beverage girl..Some golf course in charleston supposedly has nude caddies. I walked away but ran into a year later as his buddies were busting down a door at motel 6. He waved at me.
I also had another guy who was a perfect gentleman and he owned a crown victoria. He did say anything out of the ordinary and when our date ended, he mentioned his hotel room and said I could come back and hang out if I wanted to later. He gave me a hug and opened my purse and stuff the envelope in. I was surprised but took the money home after seeing the car and came back to his place and casually inspected the room. He was an out of state cop who hobbied.
Your indignation is felt and both provider and hobbyists here empathise with you. The "bad apples" exist in both factions. The hobbyist must either research out or remain vigilant to the games and ploys of unreviewed ROBs and providers must stay vigilant to foil the scams used by unethical hobbyists. In either case we must always refrain from judging the rest of the apples from the one.
or is it hear hear!!
thank you!
here hear would also work.
Any liguists out there (And I don't mean cunning ones.)
I'm no regular linguist, only a cunning one.
Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. Irregardless of what business you're in there's always going to be deadbeat clients and people who try and weasel their way out of paying for services rendered. After 20 years of owning several businesses I have found that these lowlifes only constitute about 1% of total clients. Irritating, yes, but it's part of the cost of having your own business. Try not to let it bother you too much, keep a positive attitude and move on. That's all you can do.
It sucks, but look at it this way... what kind of person thinks so little of other people that they would be willing steal from them? I guarantee they are cynical, self-loathing and have no more respect for themselves than the way they treated you. You only had to spend an hour with them, they have to live with themselves the rest of their life.
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Laney, sorry to hear it! The guy who would do something like that to such a lady isn't even worth your anger. Jerks exist in all circles, best we can do is learn from our past/mistakes and don't let others determine the type of person we are!