Unfortunately, we all experience this at least once in a while. Although you have probably invested so much time and effort into finding the provider that was just right for you only to have those hopes and dreams crushed; the general consensus and best advice will be to just move on, find another more reliable lady. You may want to try and contact this provider one last time to find out if a what happened and/or rescheduled date is possible; otherwise move on to the next.
I know it's diffcult to think this way ("just move on") after all the researching, reading reviews, passing her screening, etc.; only to not fulfill the fantasy you've most likely created in your mind, but pursuing the issue has historically been even more disappointing for most of us.
Stood Up By Provider
I took most of the day and a good deal of extra money to travel to another city to see a provider. She no showed. She didn't return my calls or emails. I was left out in th cold literally.
Question is this: Other than an unfortunate accident or incident and other than general flakiness, would there be a reason a provider would do this? I have no experience with this stuff-my frst time contacting a provider- so I don't know if there is some "test" or some way to make you pay your dues before you will be seen.
I talked to a guy yesterday who wanted to see me today and we had already met and knew each other.
today, he doesn't call. It has been 45 mins
I have had incidents where there was a car accident or the wife came home unexpectantly and they couldn't run to the phone to call me that second
She may have been arrested or assaulted. I have noticed that if you stay at the same hotel for longer than two weeks, some of the employees know that you are there and they will tell their buddies and they will harrass you in the parking lot.
It was with a lady who had suffered a lot of cancellations. Wouldn't you know, I woke up that day feeling ill. I wrung my hands about it till a few hours before the appointment. I contacted the lady, told her that the session couldn't take place, I offered to meet her at a restaurant instead and (I swallowed hard) pay her the full amount for the cancelation.
She said, no, she'd feel too guilty for taking it, bless her! She offered to reschedule. We did, and we met in two days.
I always said that if I had to no-show, the lady would get the full amount. This is as close as I've come to having to pay it.
As a provider in the industry, I simply to not understand this act of not showing up. I think that most girls that do that have a history of doing and many times the guys put reviews up about it. I for one have only missed on appointment in my caree and that has been because of a car accident and then i call the gentleman to let him know what happened. I also feel that gentlemen need to do a little more research on the ladies they chose before booking. There have been occassions where my friend has stood up a guy for an appointment because the though they whre LE, but usually she calls and says she will not show up. It is important for reference and other screening information that you provide be accurate otherwise a girl may not show for that reason also. Just a few comments that may help in the future.
she is a true professional - cindylicious... and she is.... don't know how she did it, but she managed to give me a very good time... and made me feel pretty connected to her at the same time....
I was recently stood up by a "famous" provider who has gone under the radar... - bummed out my day - but then I did some research - "google and all" and came up with the fact that 1) she did let me know that she was not coming - and 2) she had a good reason but was probably embarassed by all of the happenings in her life and did not wish to explain... so I am cool with that . but it still bums the day...
Only to find out on another board that she was "famous" for doing so. Was her method of screening out who she didn't want to see -- her qualifying via email/phone didn't cut it. She wanted to visually see the person before cutting bait. Until I discussed this on a board later on, I didn't realize that she had probably shown up in the coffee shop we agreed to meet in, saw me, and turned tail.
Happened one other time with a CL girl, but I don't quite count that. CL women can be on the boundary between a pro and a civvie -- and when dealing with civvies anything goes '-)
With the well-reviewed (and I mean those who have received high ratings and lots of reviews) this has never happened to me.
-Hoot.
-- Modified on 1/7/2006 4:08:21 PM
Unfortunately, we all experience this at least once in a while. Although you have probably invested so much time and effort into finding the provider that was just right for you only to have those hopes and dreams crushed; the general consensus and best advice will be to just move on, find another more reliable lady. You may want to try and contact this provider one last time to find out if a what happened and/or rescheduled date is possible; otherwise move on to the next.
I know it's diffcult to think this way ("just move on") after all the researching, reading reviews, passing her screening, etc.; only to not fulfill the fantasy you've most likely created in your mind, but pursuing the issue has historically been even more disappointing for most of us.
"Although you have probably invested so much time and effort into finding the provider that was just right for you only to have those hopes and dreams crushed; the general consensus and best advice will be to just move on,"
Correct. In all honesty, I wanted to see her as much for her reputed massage skills as anything else. I had a legit problem she could have helped with. These skills seem rare in the industry. But as you said, I realize I have to get real and move on.
"You may want to try and contact this provider one last time to find out if a what happened and/or rescheduled date is possible; "
That's what really bothers me. I left two messages and two emails...no reply. I think the deafening silence it what irritates me.
I really hope nothing bad happened to her. She seemed like a genuinely good person.
The one (actually two times) a lady no-showed/no-called she had problems with her SO. She is a very well regarded tryster in my hometown.
For a no show, almost anything might have happened, including, i'm afraid. her getting cold feet over seeing a newbie who was traveling just to see her. I could think of a few reasons why a lady would try to slip out of that one.
A suggestion about traveling to see a lady: always have a "back up." That is one or two other ladies you could call if the first one flakes out. Do your research on them, have their numbers ready.
BTW, if you have to go to plan B or C, never tell them they were the second or third choice. That will always sit badly with them.
I don't think anyone should be stood-up for any reason, other than an emergency. The provider should always find some way to contact her client regarding a missed appointment. That goes for hobbyists, too. I've been stood-up a few times myself and had to make the phone call to find out where the guy was -- no answer or an answer only because I called him twice and it was an hour before the appointment. It's very frustrating and it shows lack of respect when a provider does not appear at the designated time and place. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's a waste of your schedule time and funds.
Hugs,
Ciara
therefore, I stick with my tried and true providers now.
Shit happens in any circumstances. Move on and have fun!
"Stood Up" by a provider?
Stiffed might have worked just as well.