Sweetie, Your "friends" are taking advantage of your good nature. I can attest(as Im sure others could as well) it is not normal or expected for providers to stay over the allotted time. It's really nice and very much appreciated if both of you have the time and are enjoying each others' company but if youve got other things to do you got to say so. It is not part of the plan. You have to remember your client is purchasing your time at a rate which was decided in advance (as it should be) Any thing more is your call! Best wishes to you!
my question is "Is It Common or Just Expected For Providers To Stay Longer Than Agreed Upon?".
i am currently running a 1/2 off special, because i cancelled my trip to Scottsdale and i wanted to have a little more fun. well my wish came true, i am having lots of fun but now i have no time for anything else. some of my friends don't want to follow the rules, they think that a one hour date should be a 3-5 hour date at the reduced rate. because they expect so much for so little i feel like i am being taken advantage of and i never short time a friend while on a date, and i always try to deliever 110%. i pride myself on arriving on time for my appointments so when people request that i stay longer it becomes unfair to my
other friends who may be waiting to see me at that time.
R THERE RULES OF ETIQUETTES TO THIS?
When you offer specials, you still must deliver at 110% just as you would on a regular rate appointment -- that doesn't mean more time, it means, you need to be all you can be in that hour.
Your reputation is garnered by treating each client with the same level of respect regardless of whether he's paying $100 an hour or $1000 an hour. If you feel you are performing differently at reduced rates and unable to deliver the full effect of Angel, and I certainly understand how you would, then don't reduce your rates lower than a figure that includes everything you normally do and perhaps a bit off the clock.
A provider can bring her own vibes to a session by walking in with mental baggage and by this I mean -- you know these guys are going to push it to the limit and drain you dry (and that's something you may love if you are in the mood and horny) ....but if you feel they are deliberatly trying to work more for less and take advantage then don't go below Angel's "happy rate", a figure that always makes you smile and apt to be yourself.
I'm probably speaking for quite a few providers when I say, that when you charge the higher end of your rate and do multiple hours with a client and/or he becomes a regular, you will do more and more off the clock. That's why it's best to always charge a bit more than the figure you can actually command.
I'd be happy with $300 an hour. But I charge $500 in Vegas so that I can deliver at 300%. It's my motivational range. I'll stay longer. Get my 3 cups, deliver 2 cups or more and spend an extra 1/2 hour just talking. Admittedly, it's difficult for me to command those rates given the sucky economy and that I'm no supermodel but best I do temp work than fall below my "happy rate". If I am in my "zone", they will all come back.
If you see businessmen -- daytime clientele, doing multiple same day appointments in Phoenix or LA where there is very solid daytime demand, these guys aren't going to be pushing you quite as hard as that one guy who has watched your site for 2 years and waited with baited breath until you dropped to $200 an hour. Hell, this may be the only time he will ever see you if he's the kind of man who will only see a provider once, so he's going to make sure it's the time of his life.
Make it the time of your life.
It's really never made much sense to me why some gents express trouble paying $400 for a lady they say they really want to see badly when they just saw 30 providers at $300. "Well, I typically pay $300. I'm not a rich guy." "Then why have you spent $60,000 in the last year on providers?" Some chicks describe these mean as "cheap...nickle and dime etc. etc." I don't label it that. Some guys have a mental cap. And so do some of us. I won't pay more than $2.50 on a carton of orange juice. If it's $3.00, I'll drive my ass to the store that has it for $2.50, though I probably spent $4 in gas to get there and back.
If a guy is coming to see a provider and paying more than his cap he is going to expect more and you best deliver. You have your own cap.
Example
You are selling a carton of orange juice for $1 when you usually sell it for $2.50. And the guy buying it is asking if he can have a glass (which retails for $2) to drink it in, for free. It's better if you just upsold the orange juice, mark it $4.50 and factored in the $2 glass to the cost. Tell him the glass is free. He will appreciate the gift he didn't know he was getting and you made your "happy rate".
Or you CAN sell the carton for $1 and put a big sign outside that says "No Frills Orange Juice on Sale - .99c - No Glasses, No Napkins, No Pulp Strainers, Just Orange Juice".
You may wish to consult Foodguy for more Marketing 101. He's the genius. I just take notes.
Sweetie, Your "friends" are taking advantage of your good nature. I can attest(as Im sure others could as well) it is not normal or expected for providers to stay over the allotted time. It's really nice and very much appreciated if both of you have the time and are enjoying each others' company but if youve got other things to do you got to say so. It is not part of the plan. You have to remember your client is purchasing your time at a rate which was decided in advance (as it should be) Any thing more is your call! Best wishes to you!
Angel, for the other side's perspective...I'd love to be able to pay you for an hour and spend the rest of the day free. That's just human nature. Having said that, do I expect it? Hell no. Should I expect it? Only if I'm a selfish dirtbag. The ladies who have responded have been very kind to the guys out there who are asking for something for nothing. The reality is that we are not lifelong friends enjoying each other's company. This is a business arrangement, with all of the goods and bads that has to offer. My attorney gives me an occasional freebie, because we're friends, and because I've made him a bunch of money over the years. But it doesn't mean I should expect him to do lot's of extra work for free.
Why should I expect more from a provider that I've been with once? Please don't watch the clock, but extra time should be measured in minutes, not hours.
Good luck.
Angel- Heather and Sswede took the words right out of my mouth. Know your cap, and you are being taken advantage of. Make it clear the reduced rate is for the hour, or whatever ONLY! I can relate to, "Hanging out" after if my friend is fun and the conversation is cool, but when you have others to meet, Ya gotta go. Just tell'em. Warmest regards, Jordan