Dude you have some serious issues that a providers not going to cure. You need to see a Shrink and maybe get some chemical help. 7+ times a day???

and I would have an extreme amount of patience for and with you. I've found that younger men actually like to see me inbetween their sessions with younger ladies, because I think they feel less pressured by me than with someone their own age. I think you need to slow down on the jerking off part if you want to get laid later in the evening, though, but other than that it sounds like you're putting too much pressure on yourself. The harder you try the worse it will get. You just need to relax. If it continues to be a problem then perhaps you can seek counseling. I have a feeling it's just stress. Too many men worry about their performance. It's not about performance darlin', it's about nurturing, being comfortable with someone and turned on by that person. That rest should cum (pardon the pun) naturally. You might be at the point that it's a mental block when you do try to enter someone now.

Hugs,
Ciara

And it takes time to make them feel confident about their sexuality again.
Sometimes shrinks & medications are not the solution, because most young guys are too shy to seek help in the first place.
A mature and experienced provider definitely will be able to understand where you come from and help you.
Take your time to search. Don't jump too quick in your choice. Read her reviews, write or call her to explain your problem and ask if she is willing to take some time to work with you.
To me, is wonderful when I can help someone with my skills and abilities. And I bet there are other providers who feels the same way as me.
Good luck, I hope you find the right one




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two (2) times would not seem to be a statistically valid sample.   Shrinks and meds have more side effects than you can imagine.

Spock's advice would be to find a cool girl and just do the drill until you're relaxed with it.  Once you've reached steady state, then you have a statistically valid measure.

Where do you find a cool girl?  Civvies carry LOTS of baggage.  Sure, some providers do too, but it seems to me that a down-to-earth regular is your best bet.

IOW, I suspect it's a matter of getting used to it, and the appropriate provider seems like the best way.

Young man, I don't know where you are located in this country, but listen to me and listen well...Run to the nearest airport, buy a ticket to Phoenx and call CiaraPhx.  This lady will cure your problem.  You need a quality provider to teach, train, and rock your world so that you will know the joys of being with a real women.  Ciara, if you are reading this, help this young man out of his problem.

I remember being your age and sometimes hitting the Playboy Lingerie stash up to 7 times a day, especially before a big paper or exam.  (I'm so OCD I actually kept track one year.  I was proud in a perverse sort of way.   You're not alone.) This was while my girlfriend and I were going at it like rabbits.  Luckily she had a playboy-worthy body.   Enjoy your youth and short refractory periods while you have them, my friend!  (When they're gone, you can get on the blue steel, but nothing's better than nature.)

The real life girls don't live up to the Pam Andersons (pre-implants) or Kelly Monacos.  Just a guess, is porn perhaps distorting or spoiling reality?  If not, what do you think about when you're, er, not master-of-your-domain (giving in to masturbation, if you don't know the Seinfeld episode)?  (Rhetorical question!)

When you stop looking at porn, you start looking at all the girls around you, and they look irresistible -- which of course can cause another set of problems.  But that would seem to be exactly what you need...

Finally, could you be gay?  (Again, refer to the above rhetorical question.)  That's my guess.  10 years ago my roommate had the acknowledged hottest girl in school in bed with him and just cuddled.  He came out a few years later and now lives happily in South Beach.

No judgments here, just being as logical and open as I can.  I'm sure you'll work it out.  Again, just appreciate your youth and being able to go 7 times a day -- boy do I miss that ability!