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Geez, it really depends on the domina. There's no one answer.
The one I subbed for on and off a while back was truly a dominant: she believed that women were the superior sex, period, but not to the point where she thought men were all garbage.
Do not expect sex. You may be allowed to cum. My sessions were usually pretty heavy torture (I've taken hits from bullwhips that drew blood, had needles shoved (carefully) through my nipples, balls and cock, etc.) followed by some pretty savage strap-on work. If I were a good boy, she'd finger my prostate and give me some extended orgasms before allowing me to erupt.
I loved every minute of it, of course. 
Hey, when your brain is wired like mine, it's best just to go with it.
My last session was pretty much a two hour rape by TWO strap on wearing dominas, one of them in her early 20's so she had the energy to slam me hard for a long time. It was a bit spendy, but, hey, it was my birthday. 
Was it as good as regular sex? I'm not sure it make sense to compare the two. For me completely different parts of the brain are activated.
Am I confessing or showing off? That's an exercise I leave for the reader.
Ciara, that's totally not true. As anyone who knows me or has seen me can attest, I am 100% a lifestyle FemmeDom. Even during GFE sessions, I'm still a Top - all the time, all the way.
Does any of this mean I can't or don't enjoy sex just as much as someone who doesn't have a kinky bone in their body? Of course not! The entire '*real* Dominas don't have sex argument' is complete and utter bullshit.
Do you know what defines a 'real Domina'? Our refusal to let anyone, even the current beliefs of some in the lifestyle, dictate what we can or can't do.
How can anyone think that BDSM doesn't involve sex? Perhaps it doesn't always involve intercourse, but isn't that just the icing on the cake that is sexual experience?
I refuse to believe that, just because I know choose to combine full on sex with sado play, I've somehow lost my 'Twoo Domina' status. I know the people I play with don't assume that for one second...
Those are my personal beliefs. You'd have to go worship at the Church of Max Fisch to get more detailed than that, tho'
- Morgan
It not only does happen, it happens all the time - it's just something you're not 'supposed' to talk about, mainly due to legal, as opposed to ethical, reasons. Dungeon furniture is expensive, escorts get busted more than Dommes, therefore...
I can count more than 20 Dominas that I know *personally* who both escort and Domme. Some have seperate personas, yes, simply to avoid the bullshit judgement that we've all had to face over the years. I did the same, for almost three years - Morgan was my escort persona, Nina Darien my pro Domme name. After a while, I just thought 'who cares? So what if I want to f*ck a client after I spank him?'. So, now I do whatever I want, without worrying about what the thought police might think. So far, no one has come to take my 'Team FemmeDomme' club jacket back for 'rules' violations...
Bear in mind that all of this is a construct purely related to Pro Domination work. In lifestyle relationships, it's inconceivable that anyone would claim that BDSM isn't 'sex', or that sex never takes place. If it's not sex, why does it make me so fucking hot when I've got a man tied to my bed, naked and blind folded... *rowr*!
Anyways, I still luv Ciara You can come play in my dungeon anytime!
Licks,
Morgan
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I don't want to beat you (well, you'd look cute bent over and spanked, tho'). You can just hang out and watch one of my sissy maids fetch us drinks
Morgan
and most often escort instead but so far....... all and beyond of my pro-domme sessions have had little to do with sex per se (as in the physical act). For me and the subs I have worked with to date it has been more about the control aspects than anything else. I am not saying that sex does not at some time come into play on a semi to regular basis. More I am saying that the two are different animals yet related.
For some it is not a successful mating, for others it opens doors that neither could provide standing alone.
In many ways it is about the sub (slave) in others it is about the pleasures of the domme. To be honest there are some times when with a sub the scene will progress to a stage that makes me extremely hot. It is at those times the slave is instructed to take care of my needs without regard to his own.
On the other hand, when escorting I am providing a service to fulfil the fantasies of my client not my own pleasures (unless of course that is a part of said fantasy)
Can the same person fulfil both roles? That depends on the person (and her playmates) The big thing is to be sure of what roles are to be in advance. One does not hire a lady as an escort and expect her to show up toting her bull whip, training collars, violet wand and other such acroutiments (unless agreed apon in advance). Nor does one expect the pro-domme to perform a japanese tea ceramony on her knees at the drop of a hat (or at any other time)
To say the same woman cannot fill both roles is much like saying that the same woman cannot have a successful career and be a mother at the same time. They are 2 different animals and as such can only be approached by each individual in the context of that persons life experiences and personality.
So let the party begin.
And do not forget to bring me my whip