No idea why.. I'm about 65... all of a sudden I have to work really hard to get off.. feel bad for the girl I'm with.. she worries that she has lost her touch (so to speak).. I do take a viagra as without it I lose it ... and all feels great.. it's just I don't get over the edge.. it may be temporary.. I dunno..
This is a common problem. I wish someone would do some research on it and find a solution. Running out of steam without finishing is frustrating to say the least. Remember when you wished you could last longer? Those days were the best days of your life. Getting old sucks. If you find a solution, please post it.
are right now. Just like my cuz says, "This is great. It's just like it used to be, except we're unsupervised and we've got money". Lasting longer brings multiple hour and overnight sessions. Same as in our youth, but make it last longer and enjoy it more. I really got started when I realized I am getting closer to the end of my life and it was time to make the most of what was left.
Happy hobbying and have fun!
closing the deal too.
I saw a tantrika who advised ginseng tea and goji berries along with better nutrition (lots of fruits and vegetables, for example), and especially lots of water to stay hydrated.
Afterwards there was a noticeable improvement.
At least try this and if nothing improves, then see the good old urologist for advice. Also do keep in mind that while vitamin V keeps you stiff, it can inhibit ejaculation. Perhaps try reducing the dose and see if that helps.
But, do be aware that time will eventually take its toll on all of us. Use it while you can.
well said Mr Fisher and others!
Healthy eating Healthy Mind, Happy attitude, improved energy, proper sleep patterns all ties together
I feel for all of you struggling to reach orgasm.
It may be comforting for you to know that you are not alone, as some younger gents have the same issues! It could be for many reasons!
and it Could be health related or Mind related !
I have noticed a few things that may help some
Something even MORE powerful than drugs like the V pill, is our Minds!
as in The power of our Minds!
While reaching orgasm is a great goal most hope to realize, your focus should not be just there
Going into a session with any thoughts of poor performance can create that result! So while your intentions are good, your mind is hearing something else, and so creating it!
I hear you say " It is hard to not think about it " ( 
)
to that I say " With practice, and maybe the help of meditation, hypnosis, therapist, YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR MIND " maybe not orgasm, but you will be happier, calmer and feel great whether you orgasm or not!
I like to listen to Chakra music! ("Steven Halpern, Chakra suite") when I am going to nap or bedtime sleep. ( I LOVE NAPS !!!)
Calms, relaxes, wonderful sleep, awakening refreshed!
There are apps with Chakra music too
Steven Halpern is my favorite!
Aromatherapy too ! Soothing - you would be surprised at how well those little natural fragrances can work in calming the mind, relaxing the body
Focus your mind on other things, and literally block out all thoughts of NOT reaching orgasm
Many alternative therapies are worth trying!
--Proof of how powerful our mind is - HYPNOSIS! this is definitely worth a try!!
Get up on stage with Anthony Cool * LOL- ( link below to many episodes)
Think about this - if Anthony Cool can make people have orgasms in front of a live audience, with practice, maybe you can control your own mind! there is much reading on this, check it out.
***Don't beat yourself up anymore!! YOU ARE HUMAN and you are loved just as you are XO
Positive attitude Think, feel, create x
I wanted to add, I strongly suggest the show with Anthony Cools if you are in Vegas!
It is a reasonably priced show, at Paris hotel casino, and SO worth it!
The first time I saw the show, I was with a friend I had met at my strip club, a Texan cowboy ;-0 and he was the star!
He was shy, always a gent and proper,
but on the show, hypnotized, he cut loose! It was so funny!
The second time I saw this show, I was with a provider , and she went up on stage, and had an
explosive O! It was great!
I would gladly see it again!
If you ever get the chance to see the show, Do it!
You can go up on stage or not, your choice, Anthony lets the audience members decide if they want to go up or not, he doesn't pick them.
Also, at the end of the show, you can buy a CD of the entire show!
the link below is to another episode of Mr Cools if you have time, watch it ! Too funny
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I'll be 65 this fall and had prostate surgery 2.5 years ago. It takes quite a bit to get me off but the journey is great. I feel like my sensitivity is increased and lasting an hour or more just means that much more time enjoying the sensation. Comming too quickly as a young un was frustrating and this is actually better. Now, if I could just win the lottery I wouldn't have to wait to build up my hobby budget!
Enjoy the ride, not the destimnation.
I've had to get in touch with my inner man and find out what my real kinks were. Blonde and brunette spinners do it for me.
Saw a lady last week who told me she loves getting her toes sucked. Never had that desire, but I might try it once or twice just to please her.
It may not be too late to develop a fetish. A fetish, with its (presumably) reliable ability to excite, some repeated image hard wired to the libido.
Enjoy the ride, not the destimnation.
Pulling out and then jerking off into the gal's waiting lips while she does a BBBJ and simultaneously massages your nut sack ? That could help make it happen !!!
works for me!..
...not a doctor. I take Viagra. I used to take it 1 hour before the appointment and I took 100 mg. A couple of times I had trouble finishing. I considered the shape I'm in and eating habits based on research I'd done. I knew that many have reported Viagra can make it harder to finish. I concluded my issue was likely the Viagra. I cut the dose (cut the pill) to 50 mg (doc ok'd it) and take it just before entering the in call.
I have not had any problem finishing since I began doing those two things.
I have also had that same finishing problem. I quit taking Viagra (50mg) and that made a big difference for me. I have also found that if I can't finish, and assuming I am with an understanding lady, I take a break and let myself completely deflate and then start over. Every time I have done that I have been able to finish successfully. The key is to have an understanding lady that will give you a little extra time. I have found most ladies are more than willing to do that so you can finish.
And yes, the cutting the dose thing for Viagra... I 1st took it no issues at 50 Mgs.. I cut the pill in half. then this issue started and I then cut it again to 25 Mgs.. and I was fine for a while.. and now again.. and yes I do pull out and beat off while she works at BLS and that gets to me every time.. but still.. Just a few weeks ago I was fine and now this.. I almost (note I said almost).. feel that it's over.. My next experiment is to drop a 25 Mgs dose just before the action starts.. and she doesn't like me to take Viagra.. but if I don't, I think her self image would be really hurt.. This is now a civvie relationship with a girl that was a provider and stopped.. but we stayed in touch.. I'm it for her, she sees no one else..... so I want to be sensitive to her feelings (not that I'm not with all providers.. but..)
i am 62 and take viagra most of the time. sometimes i have trouble getting off, usually after wearing a condom for a while. sorta makes everything less sensitive.
the other thing i found is i can cum 2 or 3 times a week, the orgasms are extremely intense. have found that once i start playing with a woman, need to pause for moment a couple of times. need to talk to your partner and let them know what is happening.
.....more mature gentlemen find them more stimulating than traditional condoms.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Older guys who haven't tried FC need to give it a shot. It damn near took my breath away when the lady first lowered herself onto me. Felt like the old days! Thanks Kelly for the suggestion.
I have been wondering about that.. Can they be purchased over the counter in the drug store?
...but I can never find them in any of their stores. You really should try them though; they're the closest thing to bareback.
I believe the lady I spent time with got her's over the internet. Hobbyists aren't expected to be packin' FC's for a date.
I don't do FS much to have a deeper experience with them but a lot of reviewers in my area mention them more and more because many gents want to know. I don't know if it's an appropriate question to ask when scheduling or not. Maybe a lady can chime in on that.
...Reviews in Actual Services Provided...
...through Amazon!
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
......regular condoms with me when doing an outcall.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Dear Kelly:
Just wondering, was there an adjustment when you first started using them because I know that they were hard to keep in position? Also what goes on with respect to the durability and pliability of the condom itself?
I have had the same problem as OP and found that FCs really did the trick for me. My batting average went to around 0.900! Much better sensation. Definitely worth trying.
I am glad to see that FCs are gaining in popularity. They have made all the difference in the world for me! 
I often found that the classic male condom killed the sensation and FC is so much more natural and exciting. Gentlemen - if you haven't yet..... "try it! You'll like it!"
if you take antidepressants it gets worse. They are used to treat premature ejaculation also. Viagra can make it difficult but my favorite cure is a BBBJ with CIM while a good external vibrator is held behind my scrotum where it massages the prostate. Best nut ever
I'm 67 and sometimes even when I'm having a great time with a girl, achieving a climax is impossible for me. So what? I'm having a great time with a great girl. I really don't care.
Have you told your lady it is okay, and not to worry ? For me, i would be most concerned if You were upset! my goal is your pleasure, as is most gals I know. I cannot speak for her, but i imagine if you tell her not to worry, that you are enjoying her company, then she will relax too, and you both will have a good time!
best wishes xo
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i had the issue again yesterday. i was able to tell the lady i was in seventh heaven even though i was not full erect all the time. was able to enjoy some mish and after trying several different positions, she was able to make me cum. i guess the key is finding a nice lady and talking to her and letting her know you are enjoying the proceedings even if Mr. Johnson is not fully erect. I am finding out my body has changed in the last 10 years, because of issues with former spouse 7 years without sex with another person. I think when the lady yesterday saw my feet curling and fists clenching she knew I was having the time of my life.
the old sailor
No issues with being erect (thanks to V)...but it's getting it done.. drives me nuts.. I worry about it .... because..
One benefit of ED drugs is that they help you last a long time. That same advantage is a disadvantage if the time is too long - just can't get over the edge.
Try cutting back on the dose of the V - Get just enough lift and cut down on the side effects
Consider yourself lucky, I'm 69 and have such a quick trigger it's not worth the time. Not the ladies fault, always been like that. It the old days in Nevada the gals said get em in, get em up,get em off and get em out. The sooner the better. But that was a very long time ago. It's the opposite of your problem but both are a "problem" At least you are still in the game.
Best of luck,
Bordello
Have you tried a cock ring ? many sizes shapes, etc.
My favorites are the 'shared pleasure' ones - The top of the ring vibrates for the ladies pleasure
There are a variety of styles, simple, colored, vibrating, and you can buy them discreet on line
Of course always have a new one for each new lady
Check online for images !
Sold at adult stores, online, and probably some local stores
Talk to your urologist, maybe one of the other ED drugs would be better.
Have a regular I see every week, so she knows me very, very well. When I start to have trouble getting off, she says it's always my mind wandering away from my concentration on my own orgasm and worrying about getting her off or something else. She gets me mentally back into my own little head and that helps.
Happened again last week, so I put my finger down on my dick as it was stroking in and out and it gave me a much more intense "visual" that got my mind back into the game. I had told her a couple minutes before that it probably wasn't going to happen. She told me to just keep fucking her and a few minute later, fountain time. Mental game.
I'm 20 yrs younger but totally have that issue dude....it varies from time to time..does not matter if it's with or without a condom...with a GF, wife or provider...for me it's mostly mental and emotional...there are times that I can get off in 20-30 min of intercourse, other times 2hours and I still can't get there
After seeing a sex therapist, it got a little better....part of it was guilt, part of it is my diabetes and part is that I really enjoy sex and am in no rush to orgasm as that typically signals the end of the session....now I try to simply enjoy it and if I get off great, if not great...I do find that I'm much more comfortable playing with myself to get off if needed..surprisingly and happily even new civie GF don't seem to mind and most have encouraged through either rubbing or licking my balls, the head of my cock or sucking on my nipples...either way it's all good but don't focus on the end game..just enjoy the interaction
I too have hit this wall, and what I find is that it's the other shit on my mind that's getting in the way -- and I don;t me right there in the front of your brain, making you think about the leaky roof when you wanna be thinking about the pretty girl swallowing your whole.
I mean the stuff that rattles around your subconscious, that you don't necessarily confront until it's biting you in the ass.
Is there anything stressing you out? Are you lying to yourself about anything going on in your life at the moment? Could it even be you're bored sexually, and need a new kink?
Probe your soul and see what ya find...