...and a couple of other ladies who I have no idea what they do (one of whom is a self-proclaimed lesbian!).
Don't want to leave anyone out.
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Here is the advice column. If you follow the link below, the different viewpoints from readers are interesting, though I wish some had not focused so much on STDs. So stereotypical...
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I'm married with kids -- and in love with a prostitute
I know it's crazy, but she's the woman of my dreams.
By Cary Tennis
Dec. 2, 2005 | Dear Cary,
I am going through what is a classic midlife crisis with a bit of a twist. I'm in my early 40s and have a great wife and two great young kids, all of whom I love dearly. I've been with my wife for over 20 years. Everyone tells me how lucky I am to have the perfect marriage. But, of course, I don't feel so lucky. Instead I feel burdened, trapped by the overwhelming obligations of family and of keeping up appearances. The way I've tried to deal with these feelings is by seeing prostitutes.
About eight months ago, I met and paid for the woman of my dreams. She's beautiful, a sexual dynamo, smart, funny and sweet. She's not a typical prostitute; she's more like the girl next door who wants to get paid for her great looks and abundant sexual talents.
I soon went from being her client to being her friend and confidant. Her presence in my life does two things for me. First I get to feel those incredibly strong emotions that I haven't felt in years about my wife (lust and longing), and more important, I feel so free during the few hours a month I get to see her. Not only do we explore sexual fantasies that would be completely out of bounds with my wife, but more important, I can completely relax around her and joke around and talk frankly, and not have to worry about things like who's picking up whom from school.
Of course, I know that this whole thing is incredibly stupid and immature, but I can't figure out how to unring the bell and go back to a life without this woman. Do you think it will be possible to not see her and forget about the pleasure, love and passion that we had? I've tried for a few weeks at a time, but I've always felt the need to see her again -- the urge for release, both literally and metaphorically, was too strong. I have a hard time imagining life without her, but at the same time, she could never be a part of my "real" life -- I have too much invested in my marriage and family to break it up.
So the question boils down to this: How do I give up sexual (and emotional) nirvana for the sake of my family?
Lost in L.A.
Dear Lost in L.A.,
Click link below for rest, too long to copy and past the entire thing per TER. Sorry!
and once they put their hand in the cookie jar, it's hard to turn back. Remember, this is a fantasy (be it great for a few hours or with any luck by gaining a new friend). I'm not saying it's impossible to have or start a new life with a provider, but it's rare. I think everyone has times in their lives when they feel "humdrum" and nothing else is exciting anymore. Well, guess what? Make it exciting and stop complaining or change it. I think you'll find these situations in people past 40. It's the whole menopause syndrome and re-evaluating our lives. Just my .02 cents. Wink!
Hugs,
Ciara
...with no kids and in love with 57 prostitutes, 12 strippers, and 3 massage girls.
...and a couple of other ladies who I have no idea what they do (one of whom is a self-proclaimed lesbian!).
Don't want to leave anyone out.
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You were one of those two who I didn't know what they did.
There... I fixed it.
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...we'd create...
...a hairy ball of fat.
Nevermind.
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Dont fall in love with us
VIPs read on !
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I had a reader write in and tell me "how to know your escort is married " 
Wanted me to write a list on my blog
How to tell ? You cannot. At least by many. Our lives are very important to us. Safety is important to us as well as discression. 90% of the time, girls will not divulge info of kids, husbands, fiance`, boyfriends. We are escorts. If we were looking for relationships, surely we wouldnt be an escort We would be on a dating site perhaps.
We are here to give you a good time. Not to talk about our kids, our significant others , our families. Hell, men can stay home for that type of chit chatter. Besides, if we were to talk about our mates( if we have one), it would ruin your GFE experience. The Lustre and fantasy would be gone.
To all the men that are looking for wives in escortland. Be careful. For all the women too, looking for hubbies in escortland. Its a world of sin and adultry, of sin and cut throating. Of Fetishes and illusions. Be careful to not get burned. Each of us, no matter what persusion, tell you what you want to hear. It's our livlihood. Its yours too.
"How to tell if your escort is married so you don't get attached".
Well, thats the key. We want you to get attached. We want you to get attached. Why? Obvious. We dont have to worry about our safety, our discression, if you are a cop or a psycho waiting with a gun outside the door. We want you to come back. So at all time, we put on our best Academy Award winning performance. There have beeen many a time I have stopped seeing clients! Why ? I was getting too attached or they were. ( God love them)
So how do you tell ? You don't. You pay us to leave. Not stay. ( that gets a little pricey) 
This is the word of Ciara,
Amen
great names think alike. Wink!
Hugs,
Ciara
The inner and outer BEAUTY of BOTH.
Thank You
A co-worker once said "how would I speed up the divorce process?" "simple, I'd just find the one person I hate the most and buy them a house! Skip the marriage part."
Of course he was joking, sort of. But what he said made me think that one of the beauties of this hobby is that go get to "rent" the cow you don't have to "buy" the cow. Remember, no matter what, milk is never free. Somehow, someway, you pay.
Most of the advice he received is just downright depressing.
Abbey Marie
the answer is to continue to see and enjoy this provider who is making you so happy. Be aware of Ciara's warnings though. She may like you, but only as a good client. So she puts on her best game for you knowing you'll enjoy it. For all you know she has a private life and enjoys keeping it that way, so don't blow it. Just enjoy it. I hope you can keep your private life private from your wife. After a period of time, most likely, your feelings will cool a bit. That is only natural. If you want then, you are free to go elsewhere or continue in a reduced fashion. The rules of the game allow for this. And yes, I know, I should talk ;o).
How to give up this escort. Be a real father and husband like you say you are:
Step 1: Do not make appointment with her.
Step 2: Do not put donation in envelop.
Step 3: Do not get naked and have sex with her.
Also your wife is probably cheating on you also. So mauybe you should not give this escort up and divorce your wife.
Women have a 6th sense... they either know what you're doing and just don't care (because they don't like sex, etc.) or they're enjoying their own extracurricular activities with a hottie who is giving her what she's not getting from you. There are men who are traveling constantly for business & are never with their wives. Women get horny...why not enjoy a no-strings fling? Plus, statistics show women are much better at cheating and less likely to get caught as compared to men...LOL! I guess my point, or rather question is... "do you ever really know what your wife is thinking or doing?"
Just as men can be considered "hunters", women have the ability to be incredibly manipulative and street smart. I know of one woman acquaintance who was a stay at home mom & well educated...picture perfect gig. Things were just not right in her marriage...he was always traveling, etc. and she was lonely. She never had to work...he was an excellent provider financially but that's about it. She ended up building her own financial nest egg that allowed her to live very well after her divorce, have plenty of retirement money & enjoy some added real estate from the property settlement.
I understand this hobby & why men do it but it appears the first post is nothing more than infatuation. Seeing someone when they're giving you 100% of their attention is a far cry from being with them on a day to day basis. It's the basic psycological "relationship stages" we all learned about in college. So, would a man who is in love with his escort love her in the morning when she wasn't looking ultra-hot in stockings, heels & a slinky teddy... when she was sick... if she gained a little weight... as she ages...? The entire appeal is that gentlemen see their escort at their best vs. seeing their wife in her bathrobe and no makeup -- a change from the mundane, if you will. The reality is if there was true love in a marriage, it's both parties' responsiblity to make the relationship work. Life is just too damn short. No sex is a marriage deal breaker, IMO. If I were a man, before I took the plunge to see an escort, I would work on the marriage and sex issues, etc. If it was unsuccessful, I would get a divorce.
Yes, it is that simple. I can say that with 100% confidence as I have been there. Perhaps men worry too much about how much child support/alimony they'd have to pay, what will people think & how much of their net worth they would lose and where would that leave them. I can understand the thinking... I just don't agree with it. Money certainly solves problems... but it really can never buy happiness.
Thanks for letting me add my $1.50 to this thread...!
...and please keep quiet about his wife; she and I will tell him when the time is right.
I'm not grumpy...really!! Just know what I know, that's all. Wasn't trying to sound mean or be argumentative & I'm sorry if my post has been misinterpreted that way.
...I meant john seemed a little grumpy.
BTW, Taylor is my ATF after all. No wonder she writes about me. 
I Know that I have. I've got the business plan layed out and everything in place.....and, then I fall for a client (soooooo very rare......it stuns you because you are the professional that should have your guard up)......what happened here is all that you can think. I see tons of guys why did this one just click for me? That's all that you can think. This doesn't fit into my plan. I have to close down a corporation (have to have a talk with the CPA on that one)....does he do this with other girls? Is he a player? What am I going to do for a living or for a life now? He spends a lot of money on me but does that mean that he's irresponsible or does that mean that he actually has enough money to take me on without a job? It all goes through your mind. You don't want to be jaded. You want to trust him....but, can he be trusted? Can he ever really trust me? Is what we have real? How do I know if it's real or fantasy? Is he going to think that I love him because he can support me (that one will make me angry because I made more money than him).
We give these guys a hard time but truth is......I have been there. I don't want to sound jaded but it just feels like a no win when you are there. It feels like you have tasted the necture of something so sweet that you shall never have again. It hurts. But, we can't let it go. And, then one day logic sets in as it has with this man or is about too and you realize that the necture is also in your own back yard. It's in your life, friends, family, and even in that wife that you have forgotten about.
His answer is so easy.......take what you have learned from this experience and recreate it at home. If it can not be recreated then maybe 40yrs old is a good time to walk away and see if you can find it somewhere again because once you've had it you know that a "perfect" life in this world will ever be satisfactory.
I envy people that search for Nirvana......only those are the ones that will ever come close to finding it. Only they are the ones that will touch it over and over in this short life.
Don't get me wrong....I respect responsibility and loyalty.......but, when those words become too much burden that it makes you sad and leaves you longing then they are not in the context of where they should be. Those should be feelings of pride and not words to describe your burdened heart.
We all judge that "perfect" life in our heads. It's obviously based on the standards that we are taught or that other's believe.....But, only are heart knows what is perfect. Only that smile on our face that we can't wipe off shows us what is really perfect. Why we try to deny that (regardless, of what we do) is beyond me.
I feel blessed that I have the family that I do. They are judgemental about how I wash the dishes but never in what makes me happy and makes me smile. Granted the minute I'm not smiling there on me like a pack of wolves........LOL.......I shall never forget the day that my little old grandma who just wanted me married with a stable of kids told me after a huge break up "honey, I remember that you used to smile when you went to that Chicken place (the Chicken Ranch) why don't you just go back there for a while and see if that makes you smile again.......I did and I smiled again.....and, she smiled again.
I know that we see this all of the time (at least I do) in both men and in girls. All that I can say to any of us is follow your heart. There is a reason that you are throwing it out there so don't second guess it. Someimes it will just be a catalyst to throw you one way or another. That's ok. You'll end up better in the end by following your heart than you ever will by following the logic that makes you unhappy.
So there you go......There is Summer's not so logical point of view on life. It's rare but I do have one....Smile
X's Summer