When I was young, even in my 40's, I'm almost 65 now, I came quickly but was only having sex with my wife.  So making it last was a problem, especially when we'd been married a long time and only screwed occassionally.  But now that I'm older I have the opposite problem, it takes a long time to make me come.  I use Viagara and a cock ring and can get a good hard on but can't stay hard with a condom on, so actual fucking with providers is rare, although I have had a few great sessions when everything was just right.  But I also don't see this as a problem so much as a blessing because providers seem more than happy to get me off with bj and hj.  This is actually really great because I last forever and the sensation is great.  My last session ended with the lady lubing me up for a long slow hj while she licked and tongued my nipples....I could have taken that for hours.

My age does a lit of that work for me.  I love DATY.  So if I get too close too soon I stop and move on to some fine dining.  But herein lies my problem.  Often when I stop from popping too soon early on, I have difficulty getting the job done later.  Poor ladies.  Sometimes have to work awfully hard to get that final scene into the movie.  So I have to rely on their techniques to get me going than my own to slow me down.  

Fortunately, the ladies I've seen seem to understand us elders, have patience, and know how to get Mr. BVT to finish.  So thanks to all the ladies who service old guys so well.

Thus the old refrain:

It takes me all night to do what I used to do all night.

And ain't it the truth?

But I have learned some techniques that worked way back when I needed them:

The first was to practice masturbating and stopping just before the point of no return, letting myself wind down, then starting up again.  Do this for as many cycles as you can and you learn how to gain control by recognizing the feelings in your body.

Lots of kissing and foreplay, including DATY is a great way to stretch out the session in an enjoyable way.

Tantra is a technique where a tantrika guides you through the process using breathing exercises among others to prolong sexual enjoyment.

And of course a condom tends to tamp down the sensation quote a bit too.

Female condoms!

I find the same thing. Standard conform dulls the sensation. Female condoms  on the other hand are as close as you can get to natural while still being protected. I am now a big fan of the FC

Great comments all around.  I also enjoy taking it slow and easy knowing that I'm a good for a one shot during my time with a provider.  For me, a great pleasure is a very slow fbsm with lots of teasing and even slowing and stopping as one comes close to the happy ending.  While it does take me longer to reach the happy ending, it is a delightful way to go with all sorts of little thrills and chills on the way.  As others have said, the journey is often the best part of the experience.  I did have one provider who had exceptional oral skills that allowed the journey to last for a long time.  Lots of different ways to reach the grand finale for sure.

IMHO, the first thing is finding the right lady, provider or otherwise.  Some like the idea of a long slow adventure together, some dont.  communication is also important, letting the lady know this is not a 10 minute get it over with quick, but an exploration of pleasure.  most ladies are surprised when after 15 or 20 minutes of intercourse i haven't climaxed and want to rest a minute then continue.  and yes, i am one of those men who want their partners to climax a time or three before i have mine.  I dont climax as often as i used too, but when i do it is much more intense and involves my whole body.
the old sailor