to date the profession or the person.
Also, what is it about the lady that interests you. One escort I met was quite a bit into the same things as me, and was at least as well educated as me, and certainly more talented and street-smarter than me. Would I date her? Absolutely. Would she date me? Absolutely not.
Most escorts I know, have a different knowledge of the male psyche.... and I think do not tolerate the male posturing as much as a civilian - they've seen it all too many times. So if you wish to date a provider - you had better be serious... and mean it - cause methinks that they will catch your insincerity very quickly.....
That is not a bad thing... just a thing.
Has anyone ever dated an escort on a personal level? What are the challeges? Why or why not date an escort?
as long as you're ok with what she does for a living, and can handle it, cool. If you're the jealous type, don't do it.
That's very good advice!
To my mind, which I freely admit is rather strange and confusing thing, one would be dating a person and not a profession, so first and foremost would be to ask, if despite her profession would you still want to date her, the woman not the "escort"...because in reality it is her as a person you date and not any persona of her job.
When whatever excitement or fantasy of what dating an "escort" would be like hits reality, it is the woman you are with. It will be a realtionship much like any other you have had in dating, it won't be like being a client where it's all about the client and his satisfaction and pleasure, but a partnership where both please and displease each other, and where all the mundane realities of life, that clients often see escorts to get away from, are part of the deal.
If one were to want to date a lady that happens to work as an escort, and can differentiate between what happens in her work and what happens in her private life, and is willing to be understanding and work at the relationship and any challenges that arise then I don't see any huge problems with it.
That said it has to be about the individual woman and not her profession. Don't rule out a lady you care for because she is an escort, but also don't seek out escorts in the hopes of finding one you can care about.
Dating anyone is a challenge at times. While her profession has it's quirks, how'd you like to date a doctor or a mortician? That phone keeps ringing in the middle of whatever, and *poof* they're gone. This profession may be more about jealousy, etc, but they all have something. Find the right person and charge ahead, or just rent one when the need strikes.
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to date the profession or the person.
Also, what is it about the lady that interests you. One escort I met was quite a bit into the same things as me, and was at least as well educated as me, and certainly more talented and street-smarter than me. Would I date her? Absolutely. Would she date me? Absolutely not.
Most escorts I know, have a different knowledge of the male psyche.... and I think do not tolerate the male posturing as much as a civilian - they've seen it all too many times. So if you wish to date a provider - you had better be serious... and mean it - cause methinks that they will catch your insincerity very quickly.....
That is not a bad thing... just a thing.
"Has anyone ever dated an escort on a personal level? What are the challeges? Why or why not date an escort?"
Nope. Never. In the entire history of the universe. Not even once. Ever. Laboratory studies show that dating an escort can cause cancer in lab rats, make kittens burst into tears, and Baby Jesus lose at Keno.
Therefore when a woman enters our holy vocation she agrees to forever leave behind mere civilians and upon retirement she is shot from a cannon into outer space at midnight on the seventh day of the seventh month. Sad but true.
It isn’t my intention to get too psycho analytical here but I feel like I must speak my mind. First and foremost, I don’t think you can be stereotypical about the” escort.”
They are all different. Different people with different qualities, good and bad. First and foremost, there is no doubt that one must be very secure in their outlook towards “sharing” their significant other physically with other people when dating someone in this line of work. But after that, all the qualities that all people encounter day to day regarding relationships apply. Relationships are not easy. Some are better then others. There are many reasons why and it can get very complex. Some folks are more suited to being in a relationship then others, and certain people match up with other people because of compatibility factors. I guess the point being is that this isn’t an easy or simplistic question with easy or simplistic answers.
It wasn't all good or all bad. I continue to have great respect and affection for "Lara" although I haven't called her that for years... she entered the business because it was a good mesh with her quirky personality, as a friend one had to adapt to those quirks... she taught me a great amount about life, maybe she learned something useful from me as well... once we moved past the basic issues of jealousy they didn't come up or even have an effect on my thinking, when we were together we had our own stuff to deal with. When it clicks, she's the best person to hang out with, when it doesn't and she is down in her "weirds" I feel like putting a firecracker in her back pocket to jolt her back... she has a hell of a hard time maintaining normal healthy connections with anybody, doesn't understand how her own mind causes most of the problems she faces, almost no capacity for self reflection, 2bad, cause she has so much else going 4 her.
it's bliss right now, but it's only been a few months. Ask again in a few years.
No, but I would date my ATF. If that happened and the relationship was serious, it would mean the end of my brief hobbying life. And I would have to respect her profession. I'm kind of a one-woman man -- never cheated on my wife when I was married.
What if she asked you to enter into a personal relationship?
She has asked me... says she really likes me. She told me about this after we had been on a few dates. Think she is the greatest. Wanted to date her before I knew she was an escort. I am not the one to be controlling. But, relationship can be hard... thought this could have special challeges.
Think long and hard, then longer and harder, then one more time for good measure about your own propensity for jealous feelings in a relationship. Then ask yourself if you even really know what your propensity for such actually is. Then tell yourself that even if you THINK you know yourself and how you react to jealousy-inducing stimuli, you might find yourself in a place you never know you could get to regarding the object of your affections. Ask yourself how you would react if that were to occur. People are quick to judge a person that ends up having jealousy issues when dating a provider, saying that if he knew going in that she was a provider he was accepting the situation. The only thing I can liken the potential problems to is this: picture yourself going for a lovely swim in the ocean one morning. You've done it before, you feel comfortable and at peace in the water. You're a strong swimmer. A riptide picks you up and you weren't paying attention, so you were unable to swim parallel to the shore to check yourself. You're now far out, and you have no idea how you got there or how to get back in. This is what can happen in love, finding yourself in over your head. That of course can happen regardless of whether or not you're dating a provider, but it may be more likely to happen under the circumstances. God bless the coast guard...
are emotionally available for dating or some other romantic notion. The ladies that are commited to the biz are the least likely candidates. The would bes are probably half in/half out of some bullshit so look to inherit some drama. If you ask me, it's a slippery slope that only few should travail. Having done it, it's cool so long as you don't cross the emotional line of jealosy and wanting to know who and what she is doing with whom; that's a normal reaction, but crazy when you consider how you met. Oh, and don't make the mistake of thinking you get "free" pussy; you don't and in fact, it costs a bit more... But I wish you luck
You are having second thoughts about all of the extra cock you've been inhaling?
It seems like common sense not to fall in love with a girl in the biz. Doesn't your gut tell you that? And why else would you "date" her rather than "hire" her, if love is not the ultimate goal, even if it's just subconscious? Be honest with yourself.
Been there, done that -- very emotionally taxing. Didn't seek it out and hope it never happens again.
Having said that, it can be quite euphoric, and I don't regret it at all. I feel unequivocally better off from the experience, despite (or maybe because of) the turmoil.
Mixed message I know. Just be ready for the good AND the bad!
I have been in an exclusive (except for her business, of course) relationship with a provider for 3 months now. We are both head over heels for each other, and we both hope that this will be long lasting. No doubt, it has been difficult. She felt guilty working at first, and then I got jealous at times--still do. For me, I don't like the long, intimate dates, because I feel that it she is sharing something with them that she should keep to me. She was very good about talking about her work, and I understand it much better. She was wonderful about being open, and has encouraged me to ask questions. I now advise her on her work, and we live together. In our case, she has put a definite end date to this work, with a financial goal in mind. That made it easier for me.
My advice: see if she will be open with you, but don't pry right away. If she knows you care about her as a person and as a love interest, you might be surprised at how receptive she is. Providers are real people too and fall in love just like the rest of us. However, they are very careful about who it is with. In my case, she said it was because I was very supportive of the business and I seemed "cool" about everything. I have gotten more jealous, but still holding on. At times, the whole thing is a turn-on.
I am rambling, but I hope I have imparted some wisdom. Feel free to email me and we can share some more personal things privately. There should be a support group for us guys in relationships with providers.
Good luck
...Mrs. Luethor. She frowns on my dating anyone, escorts included.