For me, one of the reasons I enjoy the Hobby is there is normally less drama than with a civvie GF (ok, here on the board may be the exception...lol) I don't ever talk about other providers when with a lady and I discourage gossip and drama (you can do that ya know) and I focus on the fun at hand. Even with ladies I know well, we always try and keep it positive. If you have a provider who is constantly negative, see someone else.
Posted By: Antiambiguity In talking with one provider, I was told that there is somewhat of a war/competition between providers. Told that for no particular reason that she could think of, she was attacked by another provider who she thought was a friend. She said that in the "girls club" she had revealed lots of personal info including her real first and last name, and then got slammed personally in her private life and back-channeled in provider circles. She also told me that she hears all kinds of gossip in "pillow talk" with clients that slam other providers.