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This has happened to me also,  I had misunderstood the provider's incall vs out all rates.  She left me hanging after 30 mins then sent text explaining why.

But just yesterday the opposite happen.  A 90 min session was set up.  After 30 mins of talk and 30 mins of her having a smoke.  She told me to relax that this time didn't count. Of when we were done at 2.5 hours she ask for more money.  
Posted By: AwkwardNoob
 So I am new to the hobby.  With the first provider I saw, I told her I wanted an hour and paid for an hour.  Then she thought it was a half hour when I first showed up.  I reminded her that I had booked an hour.  Anyways, I popped around 40 mins in, she hung out for 5 mins and then said well our hour is up.  I didn't say anything about it.  
   
   Today I saw different provider and again was clear that I wanted an hour.  This time, I popped after half an hour.  Just then there was a knock at the door -- turned out it was just the cleaning lady but the provider was kind of freaked out.  She then ushered me out basically a full half hour early.  Again I didn't say anything.  1) I was too embarrassed and 2) she was frazzled by the whole knock on the door thing.  The issue was nagging at me and I texted her after and she apologized and agreed to take half of today's donation towards an hour another day.  Which was really cool.  She did say that "generally when someone pops they are done."  I did reply that given how hot she is I would have like multiple pops.  
   
   So here is my question.  After I pop, I might want to try again if there is time or even just cuddle and stuff.  Am I weird here?  Is this generally not done?  How do other people deal with being short changed on time?  Do I just need to grow a backbone and say something at the time?  
   
 

AwkwardNoob1402 reads

So I am new to the hobby.  With the first provider I saw, I told her I wanted an hour and paid for an hour.  Then she thought it was a half hour when I first showed up.  I reminded her that I had booked an hour.  Anyways, I popped around 40 mins in, she hung out for 5 mins and then said well our hour is up.  I didn't say anything about it.

  Today I saw different provider and again was clear that I wanted an hour.  This time, I popped after half an hour.  Just then there was a knock at the door -- turned out it was just the cleaning lady but the provider was kind of freaked out.  She then ushered me out basically a full half hour early.  Again I didn't say anything.  1) I was too embarrassed and 2) she was frazzled by the whole knock on the door thing.  The issue was nagging at me and I texted her after and she apologized and agreed to take half of today's donation towards an hour another day.  Which was really cool.  She did say that "generally when someone pops they are done."  I did reply that given how hot she is I would have like multiple pops.

  So here is my question.  After I pop, I might want to try again if there is time or even just cuddle and stuff.  Am I weird here?  Is this generally not done?  How do other people deal with being short changed on time?  Do I just need to grow a backbone and say something at the time

You paid for her time and it's her job to honor that time commitment. MSOG may or may not be one of the offering but you shouldn't be rushed out early. That's what a whore does, not a decent provider does. Now, I suppose it could be true that just sitting there in the silence with nothing to talk about for the last 10-15 minutes might be a PITA so you might review what was happening -- was there any reason for her to stay the last bit other than the time?

That said, if you're not sure about the options for multiple pops and you don't have the opportunity to see a higher class of woman my suggestion would be to either book shorter visits or make sure you manage your own body so you pop in the last 10 minutes (or even the last 1 minute if you don't care about a shower before you leave).

Posted By: AwkwardNoob
 So I am new to the hobby.  With the first provider I saw, I told her I wanted an hour and paid for an hour.  Then she thought it was a half hour when I first showed up.  I reminded her that I had booked an hour.  Anyways, I popped around 40 mins in, she hung out for 5 mins and then said well our hour is up.  I didn't say anything about it.  
   
   Today I saw different provider and again was clear that I wanted an hour.  This time, I popped after half an hour.  Just then there was a knock at the door -- turned out it was just the cleaning lady but the provider was kind of freaked out.  She then ushered me out basically a full half hour early.  Again I didn't say anything.  1) I was too embarrassed and 2) she was frazzled by the whole knock on the door thing.  The issue was nagging at me and I texted her after and she apologized and agreed to take half of today's donation towards an hour another day.  Which was really cool.  She did say that "generally when someone pops they are done."  I did reply that given how hot she is I would have like multiple pops.  
   
   So here is my question.  After I pop, I might want to try again if there is time or even just cuddle and stuff.  Am I weird here?  Is this generally not done?  How do other people deal with being short changed on time?  Do I just need to grow a backbone and say something at the time?  
   
 

AwkwardNoob353 reads

I suppose.  For the record, for first provider I was rubbing her back. :|

-- Modified on 1/12/2017 11:13:30 PM

this happened to me literally 2 days ago, middle of a session and the cleaning lady knocks and then attempts to come in before I could say I'm in there. Terrified me to death! That being said, I always honor the time, so like the first provider I would've been pissed about, the second, I can understand and the fact that she was trying to make amends for the time shows to me that she was trying to make up for it.  
Each provider is different on MSOG rule, some will only do it if you book multi-hour appointments, some won't do it at all, YMMV etc. you should read reviews on ladies or check out their websites to see if it indicates that she allows that service if that is something you're specifically looking for.  Beyond the MSOG if you book an hour with me, you're most likely gonna get an hour and ten minutes, I don't like to rush because that's just the type of person I am, but if I've made it clear that it's going to be a one and done and you finish the deed in 15 minutes and we sit for 20 minutes in complete silence (I try really hard but some people can be HARD to talk to) then I'm gonna probably slowly start gathering my stuff to see if you get the hint.  
Best of luck!
xoxo

AwkwardNoob316 reads

Thanks for your input Lexi.  I got the sense she had some shit going on today.  She was a little skittish when we first met -- was a little nervous I was LE because when we got upstairs there was a chair next to the bed and I sat down there instead of on the bed.  I recognize that my own awkward newbiness could have such an effect.  I certainly understand that would be difficult if people aren't talking -- that isn't me though.  Like I said, I'll lay there and give a massage and/or cuddle -- and talk too.  I was really impressed that she agreed to make it up to me in the next session like that.  And she was really sweet about it too.


-- Modified on 1/12/2017 11:13:46 PM

After a scare like that, I'd probably be too freaked out to stay anyway.

ROGM456 reads

Pay her after you're done. This way you'll get the Full Time you paid for. If she wants the money upfront before you play just walk out on her. After getting shorted on my time when I first got into this I learned this lesson a long time ago. I never ever pay upfront before the playtime starts.

ROGM gives consistently terrible advice and I really wish that people like him weren't even allowed on the Newbie Board. Instead, GaG, perfectstorm, Dunphy, myself and others have to waste bandwidth refuting this kind of nonsense.  

The vast majority of ladies require that you lay down the donation upon arrival (in the case of an incall) or leave it somewhere visible (in the case of an outcall). Bonus points if she has an opportunity to discreetly count it (usually when either you or her excuse herself/yourself to the bathroom).  

What you definitely don't want to do is dangle it like a goddamn dog treat.

Posted By: ROGM
Pay her after you're done. This way you'll get the Full Time you paid for. If she wants the money upfront before you play just walk out on her. After getting shorted on my time when I first got into this I learned this lesson a long time ago. I never ever pay upfront before the playtime starts.

If I actually had moderator status instead of "host" ROGM's and Fancy's posts would never see the light of day on the newbie board. As it is, all we can do is sweep up the mess behind them. However I think we do a good job, and it is good there are so many here to give good advice and look out for the newbies. I'm pretty sure the newbies can figure out who to listen to and who to ignore.

GaGambler374 reads

Would you please do us all a favor, grab Fancy and the two of you post somewhere else. Somewhere that you can't do any damage to some newb who might just think you have a clue.

Now for some useful advice for the OP. The best way for you to ensure you "get your time" is to look for women who have a profile that not only say " full,no rush session" but "multiple pops" as well. You can find this by looking at the profiles of the women you are interested in as well as confirming this by reading the actual reviews and to take notice of any comments confirming the session went it's entire hour, or whatever amount of time that was agreed upon and paid for.

One other useful piece of advice, do not listen to anything either ROGM or Fancy tries to tell you. They are well known here for giving out incredibly bad advice, normally someone like PerfectStorm, the host here, or one of the other veterans and long time posters will catch something like this, but sometimes stuff slips through the cracks and I would hate for you to ruin your reputation before ever really getting started.

full time booked. With VIP, you can read the details in the reviews. Without this, you are rolling the dice.

AwkwardNoob438 reads

I do have VIP and did read up all the reviews on both.  There was no note for either of them on them shorting people on the time.

-- Modified on 1/12/2017 11:13:15 PM

In all fairness I'm not sure I'd call the second case you mention one of getting shorted on time. You had an interruption in the process -- nice bucket of water tossed on the bed as it were ;-) and the lady is doing everything she can to address the situation.

Just don't see the other one but if you feel that the session didn't go as the other reviewers indicated and there are a number of reviews from experienced hobbyists you might review to see if there were sings of a connection failure/personality conflict -- I suspect we all have some personality type that we react to like nails on a chalk board. Or the review could just be shill reviews if there were not too many of them.

In any case you've got a bad experience with a (from you description) a good provider so repeat if you had fun and take advantage of the credit and you've had a bad experience with another provider. Learn from them. The hobby world is no more perfect than the real world and hopefully this will be your low point!

Posted By: AwkwardNoob
I do have VIP and did read up all the reviews on both.  There was no note for either of them on them shorting people on the time.

-- Modified on 1/12/2017 11:13:15 PM

You've mentioned your "awkwardness" several times (cute username, by the way ! :)), so I wonder if that's being misinterpreted by the ladies as you wanting them to gtfo? It could very well just be a miscommunication. Just speak up. :)

This has happened to me also,  I had misunderstood the provider's incall vs out all rates.  She left me hanging after 30 mins then sent text explaining why.

But just yesterday the opposite happen.  A 90 min session was set up.  After 30 mins of talk and 30 mins of her having a smoke.  She told me to relax that this time didn't count. Of when we were done at 2.5 hours she ask for more money.  

Posted By: AwkwardNoob
 So I am new to the hobby.  With the first provider I saw, I told her I wanted an hour and paid for an hour.  Then she thought it was a half hour when I first showed up.  I reminded her that I had booked an hour.  Anyways, I popped around 40 mins in, she hung out for 5 mins and then said well our hour is up.  I didn't say anything about it.  
   
   Today I saw different provider and again was clear that I wanted an hour.  This time, I popped after half an hour.  Just then there was a knock at the door -- turned out it was just the cleaning lady but the provider was kind of freaked out.  She then ushered me out basically a full half hour early.  Again I didn't say anything.  1) I was too embarrassed and 2) she was frazzled by the whole knock on the door thing.  The issue was nagging at me and I texted her after and she apologized and agreed to take half of today's donation towards an hour another day.  Which was really cool.  She did say that "generally when someone pops they are done."  I did reply that given how hot she is I would have like multiple pops.  
   
   So here is my question.  After I pop, I might want to try again if there is time or even just cuddle and stuff.  Am I weird here?  Is this generally not done?  How do other people deal with being short changed on time?  Do I just need to grow a backbone and say something at the time?  
   
 

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