Her website or recent ads are a much better source of accurate info on her rates
So I saw my first provider today. Afterwards, I noticed here on TER that the price listed was $100/hour less than what I paid. I really enjoyed her and plan on seeing her regularly. While I would not dream of asking her for a $100 refund, should I ask if she would accept the same rate as is posted on TER for future visits?
Her website or recent ads are a much better source of accurate info on her rates
The price indicated in the review was 100 less that you paid. Where did you get the price you paid?
As PS says, it's worth mentioning but just be polite/very neutral in raising the question. If the lady is fairly well reviewed on TER reach out to the more recent reviewers to see what they can share.
It could be the lower prices is old or was a typo or even someone wanting to cause the girl problems. Could also be the girl knowing you're new and you coming across as a mark and she's milking you for more due to inexperience. Regardless of the situation don't make a big deal out of it, just use that as input for your future decision to see her and leave it at that.
The price I paid was what she told me in text message before we got together.
I want to thank everyone for all their replies and advice. Being new to the hobby as well as TER, it is great to see what a supportive and helpful community there is here. Thank you!
From Jensen: Where did you find the rate you paid? I ditto that question.
Anyway if it was on her website or most current ad, or given to you by the lady during setup communication then that is the correct rate.
As mrfisher said TER profiles are often incorrect. They are set by the first reviewer, and only change via problem reports. If the provider or some TER member hasn't sent in a problem report to correct the rates, the rate you see on the profile could be the rate when she first started out.
No you should definitely not ask for a refund! However it is ok in booking a future date to mention the discrepancy and ask her which rate is correct. The general rule is don't discuss money but in this case you already saw her so it is not a first date and you both know each other are safe and not LE. Secondly, you can still do it without really mentioning monetary amounts. You could say something like, "After the last time I saw you I noticed your donation listed on TER is different than the donation listed on ______. May I ask which one is correct? Thanks."
Patient and kind with precision accurancy... Whatever you agreed on in text or email...or the posted consideration on the ad is the acceptable expectation. By all means, you can give more, but to go back and ask for a discount and refund is just awkward at best. If you notice it before meeting and agreeing, you couold say something like, is your info up to date on TER (or wherever)...I just want to make sure I delight you! Prior to first meeting it is really preferable and safer to avoid such chats along with any presumed activities. After all it is time you seek...as it goes it is between 2 consenting adults after that where the chemistry leads. Do not set yourself up for potential legal issues and possible rejection by providers who have firm policies related to being approached in such a manner.
Have fun with the hobby! no sweating the small stuff...if you had a wonderful time, there is no monetary value to making a memorable moment in your life!
Have fun with the hobby! no sweating the small stuff...if you had a wonderful time, there is no monetary value to making a memorable moment in your life!
You can't rely on the rates listed on TER. Many of these are really outdated and are very inaccurate. You need to see a current ad or their website. Unless you are a regular client then it probably wont matter because she might grandfather you at your original rate.