I know providers don't like getting initial emails that are on the more detailed or graphic side, so when do you disclose the specifics of what you are seeking? I'm not talking about being vulgar or making useless contact to then get your rocks off. My Q is along the lines of- if she says she's fetish friendly and you want to try X, Y, or Z, or you want a specific outfit or roleplay scene, when do you bring it up? After she responds back to you? After a firm appointment is arranged? When you meet in person?
Providers- what is your preference? Guys - What has worked the best for you in making arrangements?
a sense that the provider is open to some basic questions or to hear your interests. You can fire away at will, but that may blow up in your face. I agree that you should be able to ask. It's your dime. But it's her piggy bank you're trying to make a deposit in.
Asking AFTER you've been screened usualkt makes her more open to answer your questions. Some will get as down and dirty with you as you desire. Others may shut you off.
In my case, I've already decided I want her based on her reviews. Any additional dialogue is unnecessary but certainly welcome. Some I'm not gonna ask a gal before I meet her for BBBJ if every review confirms that ain't happening. Capisce?
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such as a clothing request, I see no harm in asking if this is possible.
Best to stay away from gray areas however, such as school girl mentions, etc
I typically will send a text/email with a short list of questions and the first one is "How would you like me to greet you?"
I dont think anything wrong with asking me that, but some prefer to just surprise.
If you are in fact seeking out a specific attire for the Lady to receive you at please be clear as to what you would like.
Then its totally up to her to either meet or decline youre request.
...I feel quite Comfortable in talking more Openly.
I like to take this time to start the cool sexy vibe between us. Always keeping it light, sexy and flirty seems to work quite well for me and my personality. It is part of the art of seduction. Plus what man doesn't like to be flirted with? ....And to be flirted back with just adds to the anticipation level on my end as well
When I am asked point blank questions about what I do or do not do it just throws off the whole fantasy for me. It feels like I was enjoying a sexy slow dance and someone just swiped the needle across the vinyl record...and then there was silence… LOL..and I have to pretend I did not hear you say that .
Now, if your scheduling a fetish/role-play session you definitely need to talk about X, Y's, and Z's such as outfit selections and role play scenario as there is often quite a bit of preparation to be done before your rendezvous...often shopping is even needed to be done. Not to mention working out your sexy scenario of choice.
As far as asking her… Naughty details...I would stay clear from that. Reading her reviews should answer most all of the obvious questions. No use taking the risk of if you would or wouldn't make the companion you have selected feel uncomfortable or not.
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PERFECT RESPONSE CHARLENELOVE!!
I feel the exact same way Charlene! After I can confirm your reviews/references, then we can be free to discuss all you may be interested in. If you are comfortable with emailing/talking/texting for a short while before so we both get a better idea if we will be comfortable, relaxed in the others company when it comes time to the actual meeting and achieving your desires.
Once you are verified I am much more open to answer more of your intimate questions.
Knowing what the other person is seeking I feel 100% more comfortable meeting them with the anticipation of the Sensual/Erotic descriptions we shared are a total build up of what makes our time together much more satisfying. I used to enjoy writing short erotic stories, poetry.
Hugs, be safe, play safe...ALWAYS DO YOUR VERIFICATION'S, SCREENINGS NO MATTER WHAT!!
Posted By: CharleneLove
...I feel quite Comfortable in talking more Openly.
I like to take this time to start the cool sexy vibe between us. Always keeping it light, sexy and flirty seems to work quite well for me and my personality. It is part of the art of seduction. Plus what man doesn't like to be flirted with? ....And to be flirted back with just adds to the anticipation level on my end as well
When I am asked point blank questions about what I do or do not do it just throws off the whole fantasy for me. It feels like I was enjoying a sexy slow dance and someone just swiped the needle across the vinyl record...and then there was silence… LOL..and I have to pretend I did not hear you say that .
Now, if your scheduling a fetish/role-play session you definitely need to talk about X, Y's, and Z's such as outfit selections and role play scenario as there is often quite a bit of preparation to be done before your rendezvous...often shopping is even needed to be done. Not to mention working out your sexy scenario of choice.
As far as asking her… Naughty details...I would stay clear from that. Reading her reviews should answer most all of the obvious questions. No use taking the risk of if you would or wouldn't make the companion you have selected feel uncomfortable or not.
-- Modified on 10/23/2016 9:28:12 PM
"My Q is along the lines of- if she says she's fetish friendly and you want to try X, Y, or Z, or you want a specific outfit or roleplay scene, when do you bring it up?"
If she is actually fetish friendly and this really isn't a graphic or sexual detailing of your fantasy, then a suggestion that you have a fetish related request from the beginning is a good start. Then:
"After she responds back to you?" - yes, it is assumed that she is now prepared for you to bring this to the table as a query. Be polite and approach this as a general outline to see if this is going to be in her "no fly zone" for fetish or kink play. Anyone who tells you that NOTHING bothers him/her is a liar or completely inexperienced (or just really bad at what they do). Everyone has a hard limit. Better to know where the squick factor is BEFORE you invest a lot of time and hope.
"After a firm appointment is arranged?" - Possible but not best approach unless you are flexible about your fetish needs and can live without them. See "squick factor" above.
"When you meet in person?" - Oh HELL NO. Unless your fetish involves absolutely no real participation on his/her end, no preparation or clean up of the space whatsoever, no props or specific types of clothing AND is so benign that you are basically staring at each other from across the room without touching - then do NOT wait until you show up to mention it! Even if you had a tickling fetish (how much more benign can we get than that?), there are still considerations around this that require the provider to know ahead of time for this to be possible for you. What if the provider finds NO pleasure in being tickled? What if there is a noise issue with the neighbors between certain hours? What if the provider has some kind of negative association with being poked and prodded against her will? How awkward will this be to arrive and discover this AFTER the time has been committed to and this is all you really wanted?
This is even more important when discussing certain types of role play because some things require mental preparation more than anything else and other things are absolute "no fly zones" for some folks, no matter who is asking.
So get it on the table early to see if this is even possible. Get into the details after approval and before showing up. At least, that's how it works for me.
