That being said, I would not mention it until during the session. A good portion of us will not talk about anything sexual prior to meeting someone. It's a safety issue so especially as a newbie, you're better off not bringing it up until then to avoid getting written off by the lady you want to see.

..of getting paid to offer a training session. It's a win win for them - they get paid to have you learn how to pleasure them. But it is best not mentioned in any correspondence. Just tell her what you want when you meet in person. At that point you will have already been verified so she willl be much more comfortable discussing it with you then.

the first thing is to book at least an hour so you have time.  I'd ask her to guide you in pleasing her... then pay attention to her responses...  non-verbal as well as verbal.  It is good to remember that while men & women have a certain commonality, each is an individual with their own likes & preferances.  I wasn't much of a lover until i learned to use my lips & tongue.  

PS if you have a SO, you'll need a cover story for your new techiques.  There are so many women's sites like Cosmopolitan full of tips & ideas.  I used a couple of books as cover, including the classic "The Joy of Sex".      

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We have done a lot of this in sessions. Maybe because we are a couple, it is a little easier to demonstrate and show some technique. We are happy to help anyone who wants to improve himself or herself.

We echo the comments that it is something that should not be discussed in detail via electronic communications. We would suggest asking if the provider is newbie friendly and willing to help you better your skills.

We'd be happy to respond to a request like that...and have.

Tori & Nick

The key words for your correspondence are "newbie friendly". That means a lot of different things to people, so if you do start narrowing the field based on "newbie friendliness" you must also read reviews (VIP detailed reviews).  

The most common Newbie problems are probably (ladies? am I close?) nervousness (can't perform); complete first timers (what goes where; what does she / it feel like); ED (medically related but open to newbie friendly understanding); premature ejaculation problems; ... but also a share of "improve my skills" newbiness.

I don't think you want to mention anything explicit in your emails, voice or text. THAT would be a newbie mistake! To me, "I'm very new to this and I'm sure I could benefit from some coaching." doesn't sound too bad. That could mean etiquette coaching, how to dress or groom or behave to impress ANY woman coaching, or coaching along more intimate lines. Her reviews will make clear how she treats her guests.

Warning: to some, "newbie friendly" means "Sure, I'll see anybody, pick a time and bring some cash." Reviews will help you to steer clear from such offers and connect you with better choices.

I thank all the wonderful lovers in my life.   Each one left me a more open and receptive partner.

May make you come off as a time-waster if you start a correspondence with really no references or verification and start talking about wanting to improve your daty skills.also it could be seen as vulgar or discussing services.... don't think too much about it Just search for a lady who is newbie-friendly and who does offer daty and some of the things that you're looking to improve upon and just respectfully contact her and let her know that you are trying to give all the requested information that you have but you are new abd hopefully she will work with you.....good luck hqve fun!

Thank you all for your comments. Really appreciate the help.

Since I'm in Winchester, Virginia , I guess I'll search for Newbie Providers in Va/DC.

Thanks again,

"I'm curious if providers are going to brush me off if I mention this at all or would they want me to tell them what my needs are for that session?"  

Providers always prefer that you indicate what your needs are for the session so they can make sure you have a great session. Just don't be stupid and get all vulgar or sexually graphic with discussion, especially if he/she doesn't know you.

"At what point do I tell them of these needs?"

After you have been approved or after the session has started. If you come at them in your first email like this, you are likely to get rejected right out of the gate.