A text, if you have her number, is fine too. Without a location, you don't have confirmation.
I know you have a previous good history with her... I tend to be more forgiving of those... I don't like burning bridges generally. But she has really disrespected you by going totally dark. I would have a hard time risking another opportunity on her. (Largely based on my opportunities / time wasted situation. I can't speak for yours.) I had a well reviewed provider go dark on me the morning of. If she had simply messaged me, 'change in plans, not going to work' I could have tried to salvage my day. I will never risk another opportunity on her, not even if it was free!Ok I have a date booked for later this week with a provider that I used to see pretty regularly. Her and I have had a great time and this would be us meeting again after a hiatus of about a year. We booked this time that works out for both of our schedules. The date was booked a couple weeks ago.
I messaged her a few days ago regarding a change of venue. I asked her what location would be best for her. I have not heard anything back and it's been a few days. I don't like to feel like I am pestering someone. It actually makes ME feel unattractive and unimportant. I totally understand people have lives and she is not just sitting at home everyday waiting for a message from me. She has a life and I get it.
As we get closers to the designated time I fear at this point I might not hear back from her and am beginning to contemplate finding another date for my tight schedule. I'd obviously do better sooner than later. I know that cancelling a date seems to be a no no. But would I be wrong to look for another situation here
Like "change of location, and the date / time"
Inside, ask her quickly to confirm and give her a resonable time limit over 24 hours. I'd be explcit that "if I don't hear back from you by midnight tomorrow 9/26, I'll assume you can't make it & consider it to be cancelled."
If you were me and you don't hear anything back from her, do you never book with her again?
Inside, ask her quickly to confirm and give her a resonable time limit over 24 hours. I'd be explcit that "if I don't hear back from you by midnight tomorrow 9/26, I'll assume you can't make it & consider it to be cancelled."
So unless she reached out to me with one hell of a good excuse, NO I would not ever book with her again as I would not even try to contact her again after being blown off twice.
I would take HV's advice and give her one more chance however, she may think with "so much" time before the date, it's not urgent she get right back to you. Of course everyone's idea of "so much" time is different. Another email WITH a deadline to get back to you will remove any ambiguity in her mind and yours.
...but in my case it was with a provider that I had never seen before. Corresponded well thru emails up until the day before our date. Then radio silence. Wound up that she was a NCNS and I still haven't heard a peep from her. I definitely learned my lesson and if I don't get a confirmation from the provider on the night before a date I assume she's a flake and if there is time I'll try and rebook with someone else.
I can empathize with your light anxiety.
Hmmm..Perhaps she has not been online in a few days is my first thought.
If the two of you have ever communicated by phone perhaps you can send her a text as most everyone, including myself, generally have their cell phones quite handy. Often I find myself starting off scheduling a rendezvous by email then switching it over to my phone for flirty texting as it's much easier.
I sent her the initial email explaining I was excited to see her again and the website needed to have a change of venue. 3 days later I sent another email saying "hope everything is okay", not even addressing themail first email.
To be honest with you guys I really torn here. I don't wanna have a falling out with her where she feels like I'm pressuring or stalking her. If I got a response like that it would kinda piss me off. I think I will send another light email expressing that I really want to meet her, but that my schedule is important to me. When I hobby I am working with a tight window. If you'd still like to meet me, please let me know if not I'm gonna start looking for another date.
Hmmm..Perhaps she has not been online in a few days is my first thought.
If the two of you have ever communicated by phone perhaps you can send her a text as most everyone, including myself, generally have their cell phones quite handy. Often I find myself starting off scheduling a rendezvous by email then switching it over to my phone for flirty texting as it's much easier.
If you have already sent her a couple of emails with no response my thoughts are still with sending her a text on her cell phone for the quickest response back time.
If you still Receive no response back from her… I would consider it her loss and that you secure time with someone else being that your play time schedule is tight.
Maybe the next time she will pay more attention in her emails. It's only common courtesy to treat others as you would like to be treated.
If she's not answering ur email for the meet then send it to someone who will!
A text, if you have her number, is fine too. Without a location, you don't have confirmation.
I know you have a previous good history with her... I tend to be more forgiving of those... I don't like burning bridges generally. But she has really disrespected you by going totally dark. I would have a hard time risking another opportunity on her. (Largely based on my opportunities / time wasted situation. I can't speak for yours.)
I had a well reviewed provider go dark on me the morning of. If she had simply messaged me, 'change in plans, not going to work' I could have tried to salvage my day. I will never risk another opportunity on her, not even if it was free!
I don't have her number. We communicate by email. I keep thinking maybe something really drastic happened and her mind is not in this. Maybe I'm very low on the priority list in consideration of whatever she is going through. Then I think maybe she's not going through anything at all and there is no good excuse.
I know you have a previous good history with her... I tend to be more forgiving of those... I don't like burning bridges generally. But she has really disrespected you by going totally dark. I would have a hard time risking another opportunity on her. (Largely based on my opportunities / time wasted situation. I can't speak for yours.)
I had a well reviewed provider go dark on me the morning of. If she had simply messaged me, 'change in plans, not going to work' I could have tried to salvage my day. I will never risk another opportunity on her, not even if it was free!
If it's on Tuesday, I'd understand the urgency, but if it's on Thursday or Friday then there's ample time for her to get back with you.
I agree there is enough time for her to get back to me, but not necessarily ample time to research, select, get screened, and book someone else for the same block of time. I mean I can easily do an ISO post and get replies based on whathe details I include in the post. I kinda enjoy being able to research and anticipate rather than feel like I need to hurry up and make a choice because time's running out.
Either way I'm losing an opportunity to see what I consider to be an ATF. To then select someone else where I'm gambling on the experience where I missed out on something where I knew what I was getting.
which you are interested in seeing. If a connection fails, then the basic research is already done. I'd give this one through Tuesday. 3 days should be enough to book another.
Let me say again, this is not match . com Selecting your 'perfect date' puts undue pressure on you. Makes you needy & even a little despirate. THAT puts you at a disavantage.
I prefer to have a small number of Favorites (3 has worked for me) that I move between as needed. I see other potential Favs but often advertizing does not align with reality behind closed doors. If the train goes off the rails at the last moment, a plan B can save your opportunity.
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Yeah a bucket list is excellent advice. I whole heartedly agree that advertising does not match many of ladies behind closed doors. I've had my fair share of bad ones.
I've sent her the last message I'm gonna send. I made it nice and tasteful. My guess is that I should start searching now though. Thanks everyonefor the advice.
Let me say again, this is not match . com Selecting your 'perfect date' puts undue pressure on you. Makes you needy & even a little despirate. THAT puts you at a disavantage.
I prefer to have a small number of Favorites (3 has worked for me) that I move between as needed. I see other potential Favs but often advertizing does not align with reality behind closed doors. If the train goes off the rails at the last moment, a plan B can save your opportunity.
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