you make a very good point. it is something that doens't need to be shared out loud, should it happen.
but yeah, it did seem like many hobbyists were mentioning it. many not a lot, but enough times that it stuck in my mind as a possibility. though I am not actively seeking it, I was curious to know how to go about it, should the urge to really pursue it ever really arise.
one has to be careful separating the illusion from the reality.
but it's strange really. from either side (Provider or Hobbyists) you can't really expect it to always be purely THIS or THAT. you could argue, its just a business transaction, nothing more. so from that standpoint, a crude hobbyist could expect a 'step & fetch' kind of girl, and needn't be concerned about being polite or courteous. he would then think he has the right to just order her around and command sheer obedience, without being remotely courteous or gentlemanly.
at the same time, if a provider expects that outward courtesy and politeness, then a man might think that as long as he's not breaking the "sexual line", and he's just continuing the courtesy and friendliness with an OTC coffee/drink, then provider shouldn't be too shocked to see that the guy also enjoys the genuine mental interaction, and can control his physical urges; until such time he's ready again to compensate her for that aspect of their professional relationship.
but you're right. if it does happen, rare as it should be, though not posted as such, then it should be kept on the down low, and between the interested parties.
thank you for the thoughts. greatly appreciated.
Posted By: JuliasLilSecret is what the scenario you have proposed is known as, and established companions will almost never agree to it.
I would also caution you on expecting OTC from a lady whom you get to know well and mutually enjoy sharing time together with. If all of my regular friends who I enjoy dearly expected OTC drinks, lunches, or dinner from me, I would not have time for anything else, including the private time that they have sought me out for in the first place.
I really wish that gentlemen would not post about OTC time with providers they see regularly as if it were commonplace and to be expected if she enjoys her time with you. It would be impossible for me to do this with all of my friends and should not ever be expected or sought out. And if a providers does single you out as a favorite for some particular reason and meets with you for OTC time, you would do well to keep your lip zipped about it if you would like it to continue, as opposed to telling everyone on a public board about it. While it may stroke your ego to let everyone know that you are privy to such an embellishment, it makes every other guy think that he should be getting OTC time too, and this is not what compensated companionship should be sought out for. A sugar baby arrangement is more along that line of thinking, as I understand it; although I could be completely wrong about this since I have never looked into it personally.
I enjoy what I do, as well as the people I meet, very, VERY much. But I am a lady who is compensated for my time regardless of how it is spent with you, as are other quality ladies who have more to offer beyond the physical experience. We are the caliber of women who are sought out BECAUSE you want to spend more time with us.
Good luck to you in your adventures, and please keep in mind what it is that you are seeking out and what it is that you should really expect to find here.