Also, one gentlemen did say that he was able to check my reviews (he asked me for the link to TER), however, he claims that he doesn't have an account.
How was someone able to read my reviews if their don't have an account? Is that even possible?
I need a suggestion. I recently posted an ad on Eros and I have had a few inquiries from gentlemen.
However, when I asked for referrals from providers that can vouch for them, they all say that either
A) This is something new for them or
B) They used an agency before, which is now shut down or
C) They can provide me with their linkdin profile (in that case, the gentlemen said he works for himself, so I can't verify him because he could have easily created his own profile on linkdin)..
I've only been online for 2 days and I don't know what to make of this. I have to screen (for obvious reasons), but I don't know what to do when I get answers like these.
I guess my question is Should I refuse these types of inquiries or is there another way to screen/confirm someone's identity? I have heard that you can ask for office number and then discretely call and ask for that person and pretend that you are calling from a bank (or whatever).
I would be greatly appreciative of any advice..
Thank you in advance,
Emily Young
or, if you don't get a good vibe, just ignore them or tell them you are not interested.
Your safety is job number one. Never forget that
Do you think it would be too much to ask a gentleman to send a copy of his ID?
This guy is trying to book me for the weekend and pay me 10K... I'm getting a little bit of a weird vibe about this. How do I know he is not a stalker or some kind of a psycho killer.. Sorry, I'm new to this online business (I did work for an agent who screened clients, but they got shut down, literally, 2 weeks after I joined)
I wouldn't send my I.D., but I also have other ways to be screened.
Can you tell me how I can screen someone without being too intrusive?
The basic is getting references. Then you contact those references. I would insist on at least two. I would verify them, making sure they are legitimate and have reviews. Then contact them. As I said I would make sure I talked to at least two. If they cannot do that insist they screen some other way.
Another basic screening method is to have them join a screening service. I use P411, but Date check works too. I would want several OKs before I would take it and I would contact at least one of those ladies. I would not take just a basic membership without any OKs. Make him contact you through the site.
One other method is with real information. You need their full name, email, phone number, and place of work. Then you hit your computer. You run that data hard core through every blacklist site you know of. Run it through sexual offender websites as well. Then you check to make sure they work where they say they do. Often proof can be had on a company website but occasionally you may have to work with him to verify some other way.
Last method I know is through his reviews/white lists on this and other review sites. Contact him by PM to makes sure his account really is his. Then read a few of his reviews then contact a few of the ladies on their.
If he cannot be screened to your satisfaction do not see him. Take a pass. Better safe then sorry. Everyone must screen everyone in this game
Frankly, a $10K first visit seems VERY unusual to me. Why would anyone want to spend 2-3 days with someone he has never met before? He has no idea if the two of you are compatible in or out of bed. And why would you want to take the risk of spending 2-3 days with someone you have never met either? If he is LE, the $10K will never happen. If he is a psycho, the $10K will never happen. I see FAR more downside than upside for you. Listen to all that Scoed wrote! If you can't verify him, then walk away. If you are not on P411, you need to do so. While not perfect, P411 is the best option available, and even with P411 you should still look at every potential 1st meeting with a bit of reasonable doubt. You should look at this as a 1 or 2 hour meeting, and make your decisions with this sort of financial gain in mind. If you won't take a risk for $400 why take it for $10K? Be safe! Good luck!!
If you follow Mr. Fisher's suggestion you will not be intrusive because there will be a third party that is verifying. That puts some distance between you and the other person's private information. Now, they may not want to go through that but that's another story.
I suspect you could also get on the Providers forum and maybe get better answers. I've seen a few of them make comments about having ways to verify their clients that do not seem to rely on getting work or home address or DL ...
You have to have both a posting history and three reviews. At this time she only has two reviews. I don't know the exact posting history requirements, but she may have issues there too.
I can only echo what other people have been saying. I use my real name, P411, and if that's insufficient, references. I've never had to go beyond those. I recommend that if a guy is unwilling or unable to give you such information , you move on.
I've had girls ask me for my Facebook or LinkedIn account, but I don't have those, so I wouldn't know their efficacy.
The one thing that I don't understand is the LinkedIn account.. How can I verify someone like that? They can send another person's account, right? (P.S. - I do have a LinkedIn profile as well, just never use it... Perhaps, it is due to the change in professions 
I don't know how they use the information. The service that asked me for those accounts also asked me to send a picture of my driver's license with everything but the name and picture blocked out.
Join one of the escort screening sites like P411. Plus guys will know where to find you.
It's really rare that a client completely new to you would make an offer like that. Most of the offers you get of that ilk (from Eros) are either timewasters, or outright scams. Or possibly even dangerous.
It's especially common to receive emails like this when you're new. A lot of guys with ill intent will make a sky-high offer in order to entice you... there are a ton of scams in which, say, Mr. So and So is trying to book you during his entire trip to Las Vegas.. wants a companion at dinners and events, etc. Sometimes they even offer more than your posted rate. Sometimes they claim to be famous people.
Also, if you're in NY... there's a notorious rapist who has enticed girls to his home in NJ for overnights. If you don't already have access to a blacklist site, join one.
As for LinkedIn, anybody can create a page there. I even have one for my escort persona... randomly, a company added me to its network, so it's posted that I work there. I wouldn't trust it unless there is information *on the profile* - for example, a published telephone number that's easily searchable and definitely the main number for an established business - through which you can contact the guy, and verify with 100% certainty that he is exactly who he says he is.
When I say 'established business,' I don't mean something that's obviously a template w/little info. Screen the business, too
I have a friend who used to be a sex worker. She didn't screen and went a guys "vibe", what ever in the hell that means.
When they got behind closed doors he was kind at first, they got undressed. When it came time to put the condom on he refused. When she told him she was a safe provider and he needed to wear it or leave as play time is over he got angery.
The short of it is she was beaten bad and raped. I was the one who helped get dressed and took her to the ER. It was bad, bruises everywhere. It messed her body up to the point she couldn't work for months, it messed her mind up to the point that she couldn't even go home as her incall was in her home.
Now this is obviously an extreme case, but LE busts aren't rare. Nether are rude men and hell even robbers. Ask around many ladies have stories of bad things happening before they started screening. It just is not worth the risk. There are even worse things than rapers out there.
Everyone should screen everyone in this game and I mean everyone. If you cannot screen them do not see them. That advise is for providers and hobbyist alike.
Thank you so much for this!!! I needed to hear this, since I've been skeptical since the beginning. I figured I wouldn't risk it, especially when the gentlemen say their are either new (no references) at this or they have seen many girls of my caliber (which is weird for someone to say, if you ask me) but they can't provide the proof.
Also, one gentlemen did say that he was able to check my reviews (he asked me for the link to TER), however, he claims that he doesn't have an account.
How was someone able to read my reviews if their don't have an account? Is that even possible?
Also a large part of the profile is block off like prices and services but some parts are visible like the contact information.
To see exactly what is public about your profile and reviews just log off and check yourself out.
Run from this guy. Things don't ring true.
Better be safe than sorry.
I agree those discribed in her posts don't seem safe to see.
Perhaps he actually has an account but does not want to ID himself? Scoed is very correct in all he wrote. If you can't verify him, don't take the risk!
However, when I asked for referrals from providers that can vouch for them, they all say that either
A) This is something new for them or
B) They used an agency before, which is now shut down or
C) They can provide me with their linkdin profile (in that case, the gentlemen said he works for himself, so I can't verify him because he could have easily created his own profile on linkdin)..
I've only been online for 2 days and I don't know what to make of this. I have to screen (for obvious reasons), but I don't know what to do when I get answers like these.
I guess my question is Should I refuse these types of inquiries or is there another way to screen/confirm someone's identity? I have heard that you can ask for office number and then discretely call and ask for that person and pretend that you are calling from a bank (or whatever).
I would be greatly appreciative of any advice..
Thank you in advance,
Emily Young
who you intend to see so you can feel safe. If a guy or lady doesn't want to comply with your screening requirements, he can move on.