Well over a year ago, a deservedly well respected poster on this board advised another poster worried about an attachment to a provider to "see her as often as you can", explaining that one would tire of the other soon enough.
I think that advice was sound. Though it was not directed to me, I took it to heart as I was also attached to a provider I had known a short while. 82 dates/appointment/sessions (and 30 months) later,I am not even close to getting tired of her. I cannot ascertain how close she is to tiring of me yet. Definitely a marathon and not a sprintI haven't ever experienced this with a provider. But in real life I practice the Clean Break. Most everyone I've been close to, not including family, and who are no longer in my life I just never saw again. No talking, nothing, after we break. And I don't particularly miss them, even when they come to mind.
Maybe you could try that, if it's a problem. Or force yourself to do it for a period, anyway. Then go back if you want, but I bet the need will fade with time.
Admittedly that could prove a bit pricey, but anything for science, right
just keep seeing her. after 30 months and 80 dates are you not happy? sounds like you found an ATF so lucky you... keep at it. what's the problem? are you looking something more? the fact you are even bringing this up makes it seem like you are, like freebies. probably not going to happen. you can try taking a break for a month of so and see how that feels. you can always come back and even start seeing her more often like 2x per week. be glad u found somebody you clicked with so much otherwise try tinder.
The OP doesn't sound like he is complaining in the slightest, it sounds more like he is bragging. lol
and I say, good for him.
More power to him!
Steph xoxo
I think that advice was sound. Though it was not directed to me, I took it to heart as I was also attached to a provider I had known a short while.
82 dates/appointment/sessions (and 30 months) later,I am not even close to getting tired of her. I cannot ascertain how close she is to tiring of me yet.
Definitely a marathon and not a sprint.
weekly or biweekly is not appealing.
hmmm, that does sound like something I "might" have said. AAR, I am glad it is working out for you, I hope your heart and your wallet are both doing ok. lol
I bet you even though my advice did not achieve the expected results, you aren't unhappy in the slightest that you tried it
I am new to the hobby and all. In my opinion you found a provider who you two connect very nicely with. It is basic human nature the more two connect the more fun. I could not ever see myself getting tired of one provider. One is I don't have to deal with the everyday ongoings a traditional girl friend would bring. Whether it be one, two, or more. For me I always look forward to see my providers. I would not worry yourself about something you enjoy. In my opinion providers get attached to regulars due to how they connect with them. Reality is both sides experience some type of attachment if two people connect quite well and they both want to see each other again. Just my opinion and hope it helps you out.
It is nice to have some ladies that you have a good connection with but if you make the mistake of getting too attached it is inevitable that something bad is going to happen. What I did is established a handful of ladies that I click with and rotate them in a way where I do not see any of them too often. I think I have five ladies I see and I arrange it so I will never see any of them more than once every two months. That is what keeps things fun and exciting.
TheApe. I really like your idea and this is my plan to. To find about 5 to 7 provides that we click well together. Thank you for the idea of rotating them. Great Idea.
