I've done a number of "first time overnight" dates, and I've always handled it basically as described above:
Make the initial contact/request for an overnight, and you can mention wanting to connect up later about details. (But, at this stage, be prepared to provide any information she might want to be comfortable. I was pretty open about me and where we'd be spending the night (Motel 8 is a bad idea...)) Once you're approved/verified propose a plan - it doesn't have to be to the hour, but something like "Meet at my hotel to get acquainted/drop off bag, then dinner/drinks/whatever-the-plan-is, afterward back to the hotel for the evening. After getting some sleep we can either grab breakfast in, out, or figure it out then." She'll come back to you either agreeing or getting more specific about hours/times and the plan in general. And then, you'll work it out.
Good luck!
I’m not a newbie to the hobby, but I am a newbie to extended dates—something I never gave a thought to until recently. So I have a couple of questions about the logistics of an overnight, as I am thinking about inviting a lady to a nice hotel for a night (close enough to our hometown that it would be considered an outcall and not a travel date).
First, how do I register at the hotel? I will make the arrangements and will be checking in before she arrives and out after she leaves, I assume. Do I book it for one person or two? If for two, would I need to give the hotel a name or any other information about her? Wondering how to deal with that.
Second, I am trying to figure out timing. I know this was touched on in a recent thread but I’m still curious about the expectations. Most girls advertise an overnight as 12 hours. But at the same time I’ve heard it described as including both dinner and breakfast, and maybe even playtime before dinner and also morning playtime. If we start at, say, 7:00 pm for drinks, then dinner, then BCD time, then sleep, how is breakfast supposed to work? Set the alarm and wake up at 5:00 am? That seems unappealing. Does she really jump out of bed and leave at 7:00 am, or is the 12-hour timeframe considered more loose for an overnight. I wouldn’t want to try to get more hours out of her than she bargained for, but it also seems odd that she would up and leave at the crack of dawn. Is this something I should outline with her beforehand so we’re both on the same page? For example, send an email saying that I was thinking we could meet for drinks at X time, followed by dinner . . . and I thought that we could end with breakfast in bed before I have to leave for my meeting at X time?
I’d appreciate any insight. Thanks
First, just register as a single.
As to the 12 hour deal, if you want breakfast, suggest room service for a half hour before the date ends.
If she's willing to be flexible on time, she'll suggest going downstairs for breakfast.
... "Is this something I should outline with her beforehand so we’re both on the same page?" The answer is, YES! Different providers approach overnights differently, so I think it's best to discuss expectations up front so you're both on that same page.
Be cautious as to how you do that. You don't want to get into details like that in your initial email. First, review the provider's web site (all of it), recent ads, and other sources eg P411 to see what if anything she says about overnights. Then send your request for the overnight date, using her preferred contact channel, and mention you'd like to sync up with her (words to that effect) on the details and ask her the best way to do that. She may say it's fine to use email, or she might want to use another method such as PM or even phone.
Personally I only do overnights with providers I've met and know pretty well, so I know we'll have a good time on the overnight and know I can trust her (and so she's comfortable spending all that time with me). But I've heard others say they'd done overnights as first dates with providers they've researched thoroughly and the dates went well, so to each his own.
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Some other things that have come up on the boards:
There is an expectation of getting some sleep! It is not continuous boinking from 11 PM til 6 AM. Some might even have specific (if flexible) limits. "Minimum 5 hours of sleep time." "No boinking from 2 AM to 5 AM." and so on.
Some Providers might even stipulate separate beds for the sleep time. (Some people can't sleep cuddled up or next to another warm body. They don't want to wake up with their belly button full of your sleep drool. Etc.)
In the extreme case (on multi-day travel dates) I have read on TER of some escorts asking for a separate room. That's partially to secure their down time (who can stand to be with a client non-stop for several days?), non-boinking time but also to take care of lady-things that we don't want to know about anyway, from grooming to personal hygiene to make-up (they don't want you to see them au naturel but only with some kind of post-sleep clean up and makeup.) And to take care of non-interfering personal matters (phone call to a friend or relative to keep them informed that she's OK, having a good time, see you next week, luv ya!) and even to cover a little bit of business that we don't need to know about (calling the plumber to see if he fixed the leak at her house; answering email, texts or VMs: "I am unavailable until next week. Thank you.")
As I traveled overseas a lot over the years, I did quite a few overnights. In general, while anything is possible, I suggest that you meet with the lady for 2-4+ hours first before considering an overnight. (Perhaps you already have.)
There was an English lady who I met overnight quite a few times who always requested that I book either a 2 BR suite or 2 adjoining rooms in two names. I found this best for both of us as we then had 2 bathrooms, etc. (And it also reduced the risk of Mrs. Hey Mikey calling my room when I was away, but this lady was a PRO and understood the rules.) She would basically treat it as a 6 hour evening (say from 7 PM to 1 AM), and a 4 hour morning (perhaps 7 AM to 11 AM, or later if I was able to). At that point she sometimes departed for home or elsewhere, and sometimes traveled with me to another city, or went to museums, shopping, spa, or pool for the day until we met again in the evening and would do it again.
Just remember this is supposed to be fun!
I've done a number of "first time overnight" dates, and I've always handled it basically as described above:
Make the initial contact/request for an overnight, and you can mention wanting to connect up later about details. (But, at this stage, be prepared to provide any information she might want to be comfortable. I was pretty open about me and where we'd be spending the night (Motel 8 is a bad idea...)) Once you're approved/verified propose a plan - it doesn't have to be to the hour, but something like "Meet at my hotel to get acquainted/drop off bag, then dinner/drinks/whatever-the-plan-is, afterward back to the hotel for the evening. After getting some sleep we can either grab breakfast in, out, or figure it out then." She'll come back to you either agreeing or getting more specific about hours/times and the plan in general.
And then, you'll work it out.
Good luck!
Which is up to 24 hours. The whole 12 hour thing is a good option to have, as traveling men sometimes really only have 12 hours. They aren't there for the amount of hours, but rather an evening date, (say 8-midnight or 1/late dinner and fun sexy time with pillow talk / fall asleep together,) wake up at 7, grab a coffee and donut, have a quickie and they run out the door.
If you have more time on your hands, might I suggest if it isn't much more, book a 24 hour, but treat it as an "up to 24 hours" date. Some ladies call that "clockless". With some ladies, for a few hundred bucks more, you are getting more of an open ended time frame/24 hours.
My 12-14 hour vs my 24 hour is a $500 difference, because I prefer the check in to check out option. Some will stay the full 24 hours, some will stay 15 or 16 hours, but it really just opens it up to feel more natural and real, with more stuff planned/more time to spend together.
Good luck - the best answer I have is, if you're looking for less of a regimen and more of a feel good slumber party, and it's not much more, just book the longer date and be more flexible. If you can't foot it, the best thing you can do is ask the lady.
Hotel, just check in as yourself. Honestly nobody cares at the hotel why you're there if you are respectful.
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Thanks for the advice everyone! I should have mentioned that I am definitely planning this with a provider I know. Hopefully that will make it easier to get on the same page first. Thanks again.