I would never do a deposit. They're reasonable if you're booking an extended period of time or asking the lady to travel long distance. But I never do that.
I am new and understand sometimes providers require a deposit. I am ok with making a deposit and have no problem is this is required. Does the deposit go towards the donation? Thank you for the responses.
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Generally speaking, yes the deposit is credited towards the overall fee for her time and companionship. A lot of popular porn star providers require deposits. Occasionally, providers will require deposits if you are asking them to do something like travel, in which case the deposit may not cover the donation for her time. In any specific case, you can always read the providers website or ask the provider (or her booking assistant) if you need to clarify.
The deposit & fee policy is often clearly explained, and in my opinion it is alright to ask for clarification if you're not sure. 
Where you might want to watch out for variances from provider to provider, is how the deposit is handled should you need to cancel. Some will refund all or a portion of your deposit if you cancel X amount of days prior to your appointment, while others keep that $ no matter when you cancel.
It might be credited towards a future date, but then again it might not. Or they might even ask you for MORE $ if you cancel with short notice.
I'm about to start requiring deposits for longer-length dates and have been working on making the wording of it as easy-to-understand as possible. Even so, I know I'll still be questioned about it and that's totally acceptable!
Yes, discussing the donation is generally frowned-upon, but I think the deposit issue is one case where "talking about money" SHOULD be okay. 
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No a deposit is not necessary. Lol carful here. We want to be safe and happy. Not to manny provider ask for deposit unless you cancle a lot. Then usually no one will see you if your a canceler. It just scewd up the day scedule completly.
I you have done the research and found you eye candy call and schedule a for sure time without a deposit and everything can go smoothly normally that is the situation .
I you have done the research and found you eye candy call and schedule a for sure time without a deposit and everything can go smoothly normally that is the situation .
Every lady is different but here's how it works for me to help you understand
I typically require a deposit in extended dates that are 24hrs or longer or if I am traveling. The deposit does go towards our time together. My deposit is refundable if you follow the cancellation guidelines, and of course I'm always flexible with circumstances and willing to apply it to a rescheduled date.
I only request a deposit for shorter dates if someone has a reputation of not showing for the most part. It's always best to ask the lady you are interested in seeing what her policy is and how the deposit is applied. She shouldn't have an issue with that.
Many ladies I know also require deposits for longer engagements. Just make sure you do your homework and make sure she is reputable and you should be ok.
Good luck!
Sophia.
I have never made any date requiring a deposit but that won't stop me from tossing in my non-refundable 2 cents.
Your main Q was about the deposit and its relation to the total fee. That is usually made very clear in her ad or can be clarified during set-up. The total amount is for her TIME and TRAVEL and she might ask for "50% deposit" or "$X deposit"; you know the total so you pay half now and half the day of or $X now and $(total - X) the day of.
I don't recall any ads that break it out as "TIME only" = regular hourly fee; "DEPOSIT REQUIRED" to cover other expenses, but that, too, should be obvious or clarified via email or phone.
A Provider incurs certain costs in the course of setting up any meeting and some of those must be paid whether or not the party of the second part shows up. So, for longer dates or travel dates and some other cases, the Provider wants to make certain that her effort and expenses are paid in advance with a deposit. You can sort of guess along with me which expenses she wants guaranteed to be covered:
new outfit - no, she can use that on many other occasions and recover the expense over time.
2 hours getting ready, makeup, etc. - that's 2 hours NOT used for some other purpose; lost opportunity cost; some might factor that in to a deposit, some might not.
hotel room - used or not, the hotel must get paid - USUALLY asked for as part of a deposit. This is an actual $ expense. (No one adds up the cost of shampoo, soap, dry cleaning, manicure, ... to get an exact dollar cost of "getting ready" but there is a feel for it.)
air fare - if travel is involved, it is also often requested as a deposit before agreeing to set a foot out the door. If she is a touring Provider who normally travels to that city and books clients to cover those expenses, then travel is built-in to her fee. Air fare or travel: dollars out of her pocket that she wants to guarantee.
Consider your own preparations for a meeting and costs involved. ("I left work early and drove two hours ... ") You can keep adding up the costs and that's why some Providers ask for a deposit
I would never do a deposit. They're reasonable if you're booking an extended period of time or asking the lady to travel long distance. But I never do that.
The exceptions: if you are asking her to travel to you, or block off an over night or weekend.
The problem is scammers who will take the deposit & then become hard to reach or impossible to schedule with. It just should not be necessary for typical dates.
A very highly rated and attractive gal drove three hours one way to see me for the first time with nothing more from me than my polite request, a bit of personal info, and a reference from awhile ago.
She didn't at all need to take that chance to come and see me, and certainly she could have asked for a deposit. Three years later, we both still talk about that. I will never forget her trust.
So, my opinion is that a deposit request may be not only unnecessay, but a turn off as well. How could it be otherwise
Suppose she drove those three hours, booked a hotel, turned down other date requests, etc. only to have you cancel at the last minute? Then she's stuck with a wasted tank of gas, hotel room, and tons of time.
So while paying a deposit may be a "turn off" to some, it sucks WAY more to be left high and dry after investing time and money into a date that never comes to fruition.
She didn't at all need to take that chance to come and see me, and certainly she could have asked for a deposit. Three years later, we both still talk about that. I will never forget her trust.
So, my opinion is that a deposit request may be not only unnecessay, but a turn off as well. How could it be otherwise?
Just read the post by sljackson below. I'm in the school of "never" give a deposit. I have no problem seeing anyone that I want to. But, then again I never put a provider in a situation where she would request a deposit. I don't request extended dates on a first meeting and don't ask anyone to travel exclusively to meet me.
Btw did you read the thread by Dr Joe on the over 60 board ? Most responses were against giving deposits.
Btw, I have no problem with an escort asking for a deposit, after all, it's her business and can run it anyway she wants to.
So while paying a deposit may be a "turn off" to some, it sucks WAY more to be left high and dry after investing time and money into a date that never comes to fruition.
She didn't at all need to take that chance to come and see me, and certainly she could have asked for a deposit. Three years later, we both still talk about that. I will never forget her trust.
So, my opinion is that a deposit request may be not only unnecessay, but a turn off as well. How could it be otherwise?
Personally, I don't require a deposit unless there's exclusive travel involved, but I can certainly understand why some ladies require them in other instances. I can also understand why some clients will never book with someone who requires deposits (particularly if they don't book dates that would necessitate them). My response to smallsteps was specifically geared towards his example of a lady driving three hours to him on good faith, and his determination that deposits are therefore unnecessary.
Once you've been burned on either side of the transaction, it's understandable that some would develop a "never again" attitude. No one deserves to be screwed over.
One thing I like to do when touring is to offer a deposit incentive. In other words, I'll offer a discount for those who send a deposit by a certain date. Lots of guys take advantage of such offers and I'll have my traveling expenses covered ahead of time. It's a great win-win.
Btw did you read the thread by Dr Joe on the over 60 board ? Most responses were against giving deposits.
Btw, I have no problem with an escort asking for a deposit, after all, it's her business and can run it anyway she wants to.
So while paying a deposit may be a "turn off" to some, it sucks WAY more to be left high and dry after investing time and money into a date that never comes to fruition.
She didn't at all need to take that chance to come and see me, and certainly she could have asked for a deposit. Three years later, we both still talk about that. I will never forget her trust.
So, my opinion is that a deposit request may be not only unnecessay, but a turn off as well. How could it be otherwise?
Exactly the instance where a deposit or other consideration would be appropriate.
She didn't at all need to take that chance to come and see me, and certainly she could have asked for a deposit. Three years later, we both still talk about that. I will never forget her trust.
So, my opinion is that a deposit request may be not only unnecessay, but a turn off as well. How could it be otherwise?
I once booked a date with a provider is really wanted to see. We decided on a time and I started to prepare for her arrival. I literally get out of the shower to receive a text from her saying she had something come up that she couldn't ignore and had to cancel. I was a bit disappointed but I understood. She asked me if I can book tomorrow, I told her I didn't think I would be free and to text me though.
Just as anticipated I couldn't get free so when I received her text I explained we would have to do it another night. So then she was disappointed. I told her I was very serious about meeting her and offered her a deposit which she of course accepted. I was clear and told her I probably wouldn't be free until the following week. When I texted or called I got no response. I've texted her a few times and still no response.
Now I do understand that it was me that offered the deposit thinking I was securing my seriousness and maybe adding a little attraction to when we would eventually meet, but I think this is why hobbyist are reluctant to pay deposits because she could simply just not assertive the phone and keep the money.
Providers make their own rules, some of them on a case by case basis. Because of that they could choose to be dishonest if they want with this work that is sort of in the shadows. So to some degree dishonesty is to be expected.