Was just looking for other options as I dislike being in hock until the next meet and she implied she might take suggestions. Plus it seemed an interesting "technical" question.
Mailing anything without a PO Box is out - that would compromise her identity - and I don't really want to know. Bitcoin would be awesome, but it fails the simplicity test (spectacularly I might add and I say that as a geek) and the convert to cash fees appear to be relatively exorbitant. I gave some thought to Money Orders... but without a bank they can be hard to cash. Additionally, without the lady be willing to accept it with something tied to her real identity (which is what I myself would want), there don't appear to be any decent, "fundamentally easy", online, electronic options. Paypal, square/cash.me, simple, etc all appear to want an ID/SSN to get back to cashSo, life happened and I now owe a provider a cancellation fee. She doesn't have a method pre-setup.
Are there any quick-setup, lightweight methods to accomplish this, safely, anonymously and preferably electronically that are known good by the community?
Assume the provider doesn't have a PO Box and for an additional curve ball prefers not to use banks.
Thanks!
Regular gift cards (amazon, iTunes, Omaha Steaks) that you buy with cash at the brick and mortar stores can be scammed. See many recent discussions about "gift card scams".
You can also buy PP GC with cash but they can only be transferred to someone's PP account, so it's harder for a scammer to crack it and not leave a trail ... for now.
Buy PP GC anonymously with cash.
Either give her the physical card (a problem in this case) or
Email her the card info so she can deposit the "cash" into her PP account.
And hope for the best.
Bitcoin is another option, if she uses bitcoin
She'd would need a PO Box, or be cool with giving out her address.
You'd have to have total control over the checkbook too
I wouldn't use a personal check. Consider a bank check or money order.
I wouldn't use Traveler's Checks, either. They also have your name on them.
What about a Western Union money transfer kind of thing? Does it require a real name and ID to do that? Overseas, for sure, I would think. Domestic sending of small amounts? I don't know.
But 702 has a good point: she has to come up with a reasonable way to make it work without you having to jump thru hoops.
And kudos to you for paying the fee
she has a cancellation fee but no way for you to send it to her?...i would wait till she has a secure one...that is her responsibility not yours...my two cents
There are quite a few providers who will take the cancellation fee in cash at the start of the next session. Don't know if it's an option with your provider or not, but something to think about. Of course, that assumes that you actually want another session with her and that you could do it relatively soon, which may or may not be the case in your situation.
Bitcoin could be a good option, but I've yet to see a provider who took Bitcoin. There are some blender/mixer services that can improve the anonymity factor, but those may be overkill for this situation.
Western Union generally requires name and some personal info.
Pre-paid credit card? I've heard of those being used for anonymous transactions with some success, but don't have personal experience there.
Either, she is still willing to see you, and your willing to include her cancellation fee in your next visit.
Or she isn't willing to see you...in which case, why would give her any money at all???!!
(For providers about to flame me..I tip my regular girls an extra $100 on the next visit when I have to reschedule at the last minute for whatever reason
If it's substantial, you could buy her coffee & hand her an envolupe. If you plan to reschedule, include it with her donation.
Ask her how she wants to handle it... if she really collects a fee, she must have a plan.
Was just looking for other options as I dislike being in hock until the next meet and she implied she might take suggestions. Plus it seemed an interesting "technical" question.
Mailing anything without a PO Box is out - that would compromise her identity - and I don't really want to know.
Bitcoin would be awesome, but it fails the simplicity test (spectacularly I might add and I say that as a geek) and the convert to cash fees appear to be relatively exorbitant.
I gave some thought to Money Orders... but without a bank they can be hard to cash.
Additionally, without the lady be willing to accept it with something tied to her real identity (which is what I myself would want), there don't appear to be any decent, "fundamentally easy", online, electronic options. Paypal, square/cash.me, simple, etc all appear to want an ID/SSN to get back to cash
She may want the cancellation fee before she'll be comfortable booking you again.
Steph xoxo
it's quick, shows up as a Visa deposit/purchase on your bank statement and they normally deposit the money into your bank instantly
I've had it happen. I do not recommend. Same for paypal.
for various reasons. I go to the local drug store and will pay cash for an Amazon gift card and then email her the Serial # on the back. It's simple up to about $500. Beyond that you would need to split it in two I believe. I've never had a complaint about paying this way. You can also verify she received the funds by trying to add the card to your own Amazon account -- just give her plenty of time though because if she hasn't applied the funds yet they will be added to your account and she can't use the card (and you have to start over by purchasing a new card). Generally I wait a month to be safe, figuring if she didn't do it by then, it's probably not happening