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On Sunday, I had my 250th date! Why it was a loser.confused_smile
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I keep a spreadsheet of every date I have gone on, what I paid and some notes about the experience.  My other hobby requires me to maintain a logbook so why shouldn't I maintain one for this hobby?  I figure when I have enough data, I'd do some analysis.  Thinking 250 is enough data...but that is a different post.  This post is a dissection of my date, where I went wrong and what I should have done for some of you newbies out there.  I consider myself experienced but I'm still a cautionary tale from time to time.  
 
Mistake 1:  I went back for more.  
 
Booker was known to me but I am on my guard with this group.  I have seen two of the bookers ladies; one was a good experience; one was a ok experience.  Neither had anything good to say about the booker; both claimed the booker was flighty and not trustworthy.  They were very open about not working with this booker again. I heard exactly the same thing twice, and yet I went back.  
 
Mistake 2:  Classic warning signs, and I did not turn around and walk out.  
 
My date opened the door and I walked in.  She had wet hair, turned her cheek when I went in for the opening light kiss on the lips, the TV was on and the lights were out.  She did not prepare for me, not ever putting a towel out.  The TV remaining on tells me she was not interested. Hell, If a close mouth kiss is off the table then nothing good is about to happen.  
 
Mistake 3:  More signs I was in trouble and I did not walk out the door.  
 
While I undressed and went to the shower, she crawled back into bed with no foreplay to watch more TV.  Form the point the door opened to the point I started to undress; we had no phyiscal contact to speak of, net even a hug.  Should have left then but I did not.  Went to the shower and the soap was unopened, all the stock towels were present and one wet towel was hanging on the door; the one she just used.  It was 6pm and it appears she had no other dates that day.  Ok, it's a Sunday but I still should have left then.  
 
Mistake 4:  Saying to myself, "This is not going to end well unless I can get her interested" when I should have walked out the door.  
 
OK, rookie mistake.  If she is not interested when you walk in the door, she is not going to be interested when she has hold of your junk.  I have found this to be a universal truth.  
 
Mistake 5:  While I was making mistake 4, I forgot to put out the money for her to count while I was in the shower.  
 
If I had walked out, this would not have been a mistake.  I did not walk out so it was.  
 
Critical Mistake 6:  I tried to make it all work without her because I was already there.  
 
TV stayed on but she graciously offered to mute it.  No kissing at all.  She called me out on the money and I put it on the counter.  My bad. Uninspired oral that did not get me interested.  Mostly laid there moaning with her eyes closed while I wondered what I should do next.  Kept asking if I was nervous.  Classic blame misdirection; it's not my fault, you must be the problem.  No, I was bored and wondering how to salvage the situation with an unwilling partner.  I am not new to people and that is a classic game.  Asked for a condom so I could try to get off and leave.  She took it out of the wrapper and dutifully handed it to me mumbling something I did not understand; then went back to her movie.  The situation was lost.  
 
Finally, I did what I KNEW I should have done in the first 5 minutes.  I got dressed and walked out.  I made sure she did not touch my cloths.  She made sure I did not touch the money.  
 
Remember gentleman.  You are allowed to walk out.  In the case of non-local bookers, they often have never met the women they are booking.  Unless she is well reviewed, be on your guard.  Think carefully before you put your money down.  If the first impression sucks; walk out.  Doesn't matter if the lady is known or not.  In my experience, It's not likely to get better.  Otherwise, you are paying to TOFTT.

Would you be so kind as to leave a review on this one. I had a similar experience with one I WISH I had read the review on before meeting.

Sorry if my subject line was somewhat provocative, but if you had posted this on GD board, you would get ripped to shreds.  Especially after your statistical post there a couple of days ago.   This is what may happen if you play at the lower end of the scale, rather than with the highly reviewed indies that make up the majority of the ladies that advertise and participate here.   Don't expect to get a high performance Beemer or Mercedes when you're only paying for a low priced model Chevy

I cannot see what provider he saw because I'm not VIP. I've seen lower end providers and higher end and I've gotten some poor service from the higher end too on occasion.  

I never get a girl that doesn't have manners enough to turn off the TV, but I've gotten girls that won't kiss. That I expressed in would appreciate her wearing something sexy and came to the door with unmatchable bra and panties. I've had a provideo offer a 3nr champagne package and ask ME to pick up champagne on my way. I've had providers that were just not into the date several times. All of which were higher end girls with good reviews.  

Cost and reviews does not always seem to equal quality.  

Posted By: Crazy Diamond
Sorry if my subject line was somewhat provocative, but if you had posted this on GD board, you would get ripped to shreds.  Especially after your statistical post there a couple of days ago.   This is what may happen if you play at the lower end of the scale, rather than with the highly reviewed indies that make up the majority of the ladies that advertise and participate here.   Don't expect to get a high performance Beemer or Mercedes when you're only paying for a low priced model Chevy.        
   
 

One bad apple brings down the hobby.     Let some one who does a good job make the money.

I feel like there are a few ways to determine if your provider will meet your needs. Because it's not just about if a provider works, but works for you/ your interests.  

1. Pictures/ video
2. TER/other reviewed sites
3. Social media/ FAQs -- some way to confirm you're interested in the same things.  

How else do you select providers?

--Elizabeth

Posted By: noname75
One bad apple brings down the hobby.     Let some one who does a good job make the money.

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