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Swimtrekr and GaGambler gave good advice in one or both of...
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...the threads you asked about this in. I'd say read those again and decide which you want to go with. Considering her less than acceptable response to you I definitely think others need to know.

Hey does anyone know if it's proper to post a review of a provider if she stood me up? I didn't actually have a session with her, but I drove 20 miles to see her and I waited in the hotel lobby for 1 hour and 45 minutes waiting for her to text me her room. She completely blacked-out communications on me.  

Don't know how I would rate the experience or her looks since I didn't even experience that!

What you can do if you wish to is talk about it on your local board. If you don't want drama, IMO save naming her for PMs, which you will surely get.  Lay the details out, don't be angry, stick to the facts. If you choose to name her on the board, which is certainly within your right, if she is a well reviewed and active  on the board, be prepared for  rebuttal, and possibly some white knighting.  

I understand your frustration completely. Take your $$$ your had in reserve for that date and book someone who will respect you and have a ball and write and review! ;-)

Steph xoxo

as JD said below. The OP should reach out to the provider and if no reasonable acceptable reply is received within say 24-48 hours, then he should proceed.

Reason I ask is that there are occasions where peeps do have an emergency situation pop up last minute and I do like to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Give her a few days to contact you. If she is even minimally professional, she will make an attempt to make this right with you with a free hour or whatever.  

I understand you may not want to see her though as you feel like you have been burned once already.

I have been in this situation where it has worked out quite well i.e. the girl made it right with me, but more times than not, it does not. But waiting a few days also allows you time to cool down and put it in its proper perspective.

At that point, feel free to follow Steph's (maturegfe) suggestions, but as she said, be prepared to take some serious shit from her WK's (i.e. friends/clients of hers) and possibly her as well, and those types of situations can get ugly fast.

the others said is good advice.  It's actually what I did when I got NS'd by a local (to me) provider some months back.  I had about 2 dozen guys PM me for her name, which I gladly gave them.

LLAP,
Swim

Thanks for the response everyone. This provider doesn't have many reviews here but all three of her reviews are raving and positive so I'm shocked that she did this (this past Saturday July 9).

Thanks for the heads up, Steph. I believe she DOES have many fans.  I DID text her again when I got home, saying I was tempted to share my experience on the boards but I was hesitant because I didn't really know why she stood me up. Did she slip in the shower? Break her phone? As of now, no response from her.

If she did break her phone it's odd her ad is still being updated. But maybe it's her manager or booker doing he updating.

I will cool my heels for a couple of days and give her a chance to text me back.  

Thanks again!

GaGambler234 reads

That person should no she no showed on you and reached out to you to explain.

Personally, I think you have been patient enough. I think you have every right to blast her on your local board.

Thanks!

She actually isn't local, but is from Central California but visits Los Angeles frequently

Thanks everyone. I texted her once more. I'm going to give her one more day to respond, then I will share my experience on the board as objectively as possible.

Why did you wait in a hotel lobby?

Posted By: grahamlee
Hey does anyone know if it's proper to post a review of a provider if she stood me up? I didn't actually have a session with her, but I drove 20 miles to see her and I waited in the hotel lobby for 1 hour and 45 minutes waiting for her to text me her room. She completely blacked-out communications on me.  
   
 Don't know how I would rate the experience or her looks since I didn't even experience that!

It was the hotel she directed me to.  It was a largish hotel so I wanted to get a head start on figuring out where the elevators were because sometimes it's not obvious. (I didn't want to have to ask the hotel people, because then they would know I was just "visiting."  Also, I understand it's suspicious to sit in your car. Plus, it was a warm day and the lounge was more comfortable.

Okay, on Monday 7/11/16 at 6:20pm, the provider FINALLY texted back 48 hours later.  Here is her text VERBATIM.

"Because something happened. I'm not obligated to explain. Get over it. Shit happens."

Seems a little rough to me. I understand if she doesn't want to get into specifics but she doesn't seem apologetic at all.  

Am I justified in sharing my experience with her on hobbyist boards now? Is it proper if I were to post her verbatim text to me?  (Yeah, I know I'm already sharing it with you all, but I haven't mentioned her name yet.)

souls_harbor227 reads

Well, that was heartfelt.

Posted By: grahamlee
"Because something happened. I'm not obligated to explain. Get over it. Shit happens."

...the threads you asked about this in. I'd say read those again and decide which you want to go with. Considering her less than acceptable response to you I definitely think others need to know.

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