I took it as a compliment. I realized that I had her distracted, she felt like it was a boyfriend experience and forgot. Fortunately I reminded her before penetration, but it was clear she was in an erotic funk and lost her focus for a moment. I wouldn't get too worked up about it.
And as far as that other shit of her wanting your baby? Maybe, but I doubt that.
You didn't mention how many times you've been together and for how long. That will make a difference.
I recently had a great session with my ATF. From the first time I’ve been with her, she and I really hit it off. We just click together so well. She’s the first provider I’ve seen where I truly feel as if she were my girlfriend (if only for a couple of hours). We laugh, we talk, and we have stimulating intellectual conversations.
Last week she forgot to put a condom on me. Just as we were about to continue our session, I politely asked her to put one on me. At that moment I felt a bit strange. I didn’t want to ruin the moment by being upset or say anything to make her upset. I enjoyed the rest of the session, but felt really strange about the episode after I left.
What in the world would possess my ATF to do that? What was she thinking? I’m not naive to think that she trusts me so much and feels so comfortable that she would do this only for me. If she’s doing this for me is she doing this for other clients? As with all of us, safety should be our first concern. Not putting on a condom is like not putting on a jacket when its 10 degrees outside, you just don’t forget. Has anyone else had this happen? Does anyone have any advice or comments?
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She wants to have your baby. Good luck with that.
Her comfort level with you might have become too great. Some people are sentimentalists that do not use their head in critical situations.
If you choose to see her again, use your relationship with her to talk about the almost no condom incident and she what she says. It could be that she has done this before with others, or she could have simply made an error of omission with you.
You're right, whatever was going on in her head, she did not *forget* to put the condom on, she chose not to. You should talk to her about it and make your feelings clear on the subject. Otherwise, you'll be uneasy in future and will have to be looking out to make sure the condom's on rather than relaxing, safe in the knowledge she'll put it on at the right moment.
I didn't want to talk about it at that moment, but I certainly will the next time I see her...She is my ATF afterall.
Cowgirl, she reaches down at the bottom of the piston cycle and literally flicks it off just before the upstroke, without missing a beat.
Stunned and shocked is a mild description. There was no discussion, inquiry, or negotiation. In fact, I had my eyes closed tightly. One could speculate that a) she was getting a bit chafed, b) needed the real feel of a hot beefstick, c)she wanted a baby, or d) she wanted to move the evening along. d) is my guess, since I'd been inside her grinding away for quite some time by that point.
This is a fictional, hypothetical account, of course.
Any similar war stories?
Whether she did or didn't forget is not ascertainable to those of us who weren't there. She may have been caught up in the moment and did forget. She may have been trying to intentionally get preggers. She may be on the pill and felt comfortable about not catching a std b/c of her comfort level with the client (plausible yes, stupid HELL YES) and she just wanted to feel a hot uncovered dick inside her from someone she feels close to. Who knows? Or..., she may not have forgotten at all and was getting ready to whip one out. Our poster didn't specify how he knows she forgot. All he said was that he had to ask her for one. BIG DEAL! I've often had to ask for one...simply b/c I was ready to fuck sooner than she was.
However there was this one time, at band camp (o.k., j.k.), where I had a provider who had been sitting on my face grinding herself to a major O (sexier than all getout). After catching her breath she grabbed my uncovered dick and was attempting to mount me CG, when I stopped her. She HAD forgotten that she had not covered me. She was definitely caught up into what she was doing. Furthermore, I truly wonder what would have happened if I had let her slip me in. I'm pretty sure she would have noticed right away, but not all that sure she would have stopped. Maybe she would have stopped. I was there, but only she knows for sure...
BTW, the not putting on a jacket when it's 10 degrees outside to not putting on a condom is a stupid analogy.
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baby fever is powerful mojo... demolishes all sense of proportion and reason...
Same thing with me. Had several conversations about it with my atf. At first it was that she trusted me not to have any diseases. (I get tested regularly)Then she wanted me to try withdrawing when I came. Lately its been I want to have your baby. I insist on the condum of course, but she still offers bbfs when she feels like it. TER surveys indicate this is common and other discussion strings indicate that I'm a fool if I think she doesn't offer it to other regulars. Probably true, altho I don't like to think about it.
...from one of her clients? I mean, of all the possible choices available to her (friend, boyfriend, sperm bank etc.), a client? That sounds kind of scary.
Shes tried doing it with others.. Or did she maybe succeed doing it with others..
Scary
that anyone in the hobby would go there. But the burning question is: Why these guys question the condom issue when with DATY they don't bother using anything? I mean if it's STDs you worried about why not be worried when you are dining (ok, don't give me the speech about lowered risks)?
I am very amazed at all the BBFS offers. I agree with Ciara when she said if she tried it with you then she has tried it with others. I assume you went through with the BBFS. Will you continue? Someone mentioned a level of comfort with you but I have a level of comfort with many of my friends but no matter what I don't play without a cover. There are consequences for everything you do and the consequences of having BBFS are ones I would rather not deal with ever.
I absolutely DID NOT go though with the BBFS. I may be insane, but I'm not crazy. I'm paranoid enough about the possibility of catching something while everyone is being "safe". I need not greatly increase those chances by being stupid.
I don't want to make too big a deal of it (although it really is if you think about it) and ruin the mood. But if I can get an honest answer I love to know what the fuck she was thinking.
But my guess is that most or all of the guys wouldn't tell of such an episode. That attaches a stigma to the provider and the client.
You'd probably get some real answers. I've been trading stories with a guy in LA about women we've both seen, as well as ones the one has seen and the other has yet to. It's quite helpful.
I hear ya. I have the same thing going. We both have the same wishes in providers and share info on who fulfills them. Very helpful.
Yeah, I referred this topic to him, and we both admitted that we'd "go there" with the same lady, so long as the other one of us didn't. But we're both lying, so it's OK.
I had a provider tell me that she did not have any protection on the way to my outcall location. I always have protection. One time my ATF tried the same thing. I wound not let her get away with it. I quickly put the rubber on.
You have to be careful because sometimes they will talk about guys trying to get bbfs just to see what your reaction. Then they try to do BBFS.
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...why would any provider do that?
Many years ago, I was visiting with my ATF. After and intense session of DATY, she couldn't locate a condom, and practically begged me to ride her uncovered so that we would not lose our momemtum. Good sense won out, and after a second fractic search, we found one and continued. She was on the pill, and we had both known each other for several years......but still the risk factors really do out weigh the possible pleasure.
I took it as a compliment. I realized that I had her distracted, she felt like it was a boyfriend experience and forgot. Fortunately I reminded her before penetration, but it was clear she was in an erotic funk and lost her focus for a moment. I wouldn't get too worked up about it.
And as far as that other shit of her wanting your baby? Maybe, but I doubt that.
You didn't mention how many times you've been together and for how long. That will make a difference.