It happens, though. As I wrap up a five year relationship with a brilliant girl I met on the job so to speak... had incredible ups and absurd downs, give us both credit, we surely tried our dead level best to make it work the best we knew how. It was the real deal, we had a major constructive influence on each other. She straightened me out about certain of my foibles, I coaxed her into dressing better, showed her how conservative could be a heck of a lot sexier than putting too much out there for the world to see, helped her with her life issues, saw and did many things together.... it was cool, really was... then we hit the deep issues stuff, everyone eventually will, the stuff you have to work through, you can't keep putting it off 'til tomorrow, core identity things you will face, one way or another. Finally had to say, we can't go on, this isn't functional at the level it has to be functional on for us to be 100% real.... plead with her to get professional help... I think the idea of confronting her deep personal issues was to frightening, or she just wasn't ready, or it would make her see her life in a way that she wasn't prepared for... don't know the answer... the ball's in her court and it's her choice what she wants to do with it...

It happens!!!  We click like best friends, have steamy, hot sex, and connect on so many levels, common backgrounds, etc. So what do you do at the end of all that?

If you've ever had an experience like that in any context, you know you can't just walk away....  and when the other seems to feel the same way......  So you go for it, and see how things progress!!

I love being in love, and always eager to take (safe, esp physically) chances!!  Only concern is, I don't want to hurt anyone again... so men must take things slowly!!!!

Know guys will say anything to get what they want!!!  Will always stay ultra-safe.....

The way you expressed the word "trust" and implied to use IT to keep him "hooked" sounds a bit devious, no? I mean people can have a genuine interest in each other depsite the labels that either may carry, but that starts with "honesty." Trust grows from honesty, not manipulation or keeping someone hooked on you. I know of a provider/hobby relationship where he continues to make regular donations but more for mutual trips, dinners, gifts etc. He continues to be married, she continues to work her biz. It can happen and yes they probably "love" each other on some level too. To be successful in ANY relationship each party must first give up their need to control/change the other person and what they do or what they don't do. People who are not sure about themselves make the worst partners. To be interdependent one must first know love of self. From there, it follows that you can join with another without the need to be anything but who you are.