When you have sex don't you feel the best when you reach orgasm? There are many ways to achieve an orgasm and they don't all involve an erect penis. In fact the journey to bliss can be more rewarding that just sticking it in. If you tell a provider there is a problem most will accommodate and may show you what you have been missing!

I have seen a few references to threading. Typically I have seen them in relation to tantra and kama sutra. Threading is a technique use to put a non erect penis into the vagina. I wish there was more information on the technique!  

And what alyson said is so true and well spoken

You need to do the research to find the right provider who can give you what you're looking for.  

I started this hobby because I missed the feminine intimacy after my wife of 51 years died. It took me about 3 years before got comfortable with the idea of an escort. I made a very lucky choice of a 51 YO lady for my first. I was barely able to get an erection but her talented lips and tongue made an orgasm a sure thing. It has been about 2 years since that beginning but recently I has a psa flair up and my neurologist gave me a shot of a chemical that cuts off the production of testosterone which left me chemically castrated. When it came time for another shot I refused. I had decided I didn't want to conti nue  life without sex. I'm nearly 82. Since making that decision I have had some success with three of my favorites. No erection but some orgasms, some dry or with a tiny bit of ejaculate, some by way of a vibrator and some with no orgasm but all were successes in my mind because of the intimacy with the lady. Orally and/or with a vibrator I have been able to give them pleasure. My doctor says the effects of the shot I had are reversible with time. What happens then with the PSA and cancer is uncertain. In the words of Jim Valvano, "Never give up." In my words cherish the women who make life worth living.

Yeah, some guys do through in the towel, but you don't need to if you're motivated enough.

For ED its much more common for pills to fail to work than Big Pharma will admit.  Goto www.franktalk.org and you will find lots of guys who use solutions other than pills, including lots who've had prostate removed.  There are injections. Yeah right where you don't want to think about injecting, but its not bad at all, and it works really well about 80% of the time pills fail.  There are also VEDs. aka Vacuum erection devices, medical grade.  aka penis pumps in sex shops, not medical grade.  Plenty of guys use these too, and they work even more often than injections, if you can stand to use them.

Finally, there is surgery, the penile implant.  When the surgery is well done (and you want to be very sure to get a really really top notch surgeon) the results are fantastic.  Almost every guy, and guys partners (if they even know, some single guys don't tell their partners and they never know) are totally pleased.  The ones who are less than totally pleased almost always had the surgeon screw up one way or the other. You get an erection any time, for as long as you want, as often as you want, and you even can totally control the hardness.  That last feature is popular with partners, since most guys can get harder than they ever were, and most gals prefer less than maximum hardness. Your erection is totally natural looking and feeling.  If you can orgasm before you have surgery, you can do it after too, usually more easily.  Some guys do have problem with orgasm, but that's usually due to issues that existed pre-surgery that carry over.  But, this surgery is not for the fainthearted, and the issue is how motivated are you?

As far as incontinence, this often gets better over time when the prostate is removed.  Can take up to a year to improve.  But again, if the problem stays bad enough, and you're motivated enough, you can pretty much totally fix it with surgery, with an AUS, or artificial urinary sphincter.  It gives you complete mechanical control since they install a mechanical clamp around your urethra that you unclamp when you need to urinate.  Some guys get an AUS and penile implant all in one surgery.

Also, most guys who have total ED can still orgasm.  Might take a lot more effort, and BJ often is the answer.  Or BJ plus vibrator.

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I have nerve damage...  partial spinal cord injury.  The reason is unimportant.  One of my favorites, when I explained the situation she said "that won't be a problem" & it hasn't been.  She is primarily a FBSM provider + extras.  Our understanding is we start with a massage on a bed with mutual touching...  goes into a lovely make out.  Probably some DATY in there before she gives me a BJ (no hands allowed) the objective is to see how much sensation she can inflict on me without anything happening.  We move on to Intercourse.  I'm fond of CG & if she's good & can squeeze in the right place, I'll pop.  I used to like Lazy doggie BUT my arms aren't strong enough now.  Another good position is the T with legs intertwined...  because both bodies are on the bed.  
If it's not happening in a reasonable amount of time, back to a bj, porn style with hands allowed now, to a HJ.  Once I "need to cum"...  I let her take control...  but the flip side is her promise that she won't quit, we started out to get a pop & it will happen.  A gal who knows me well can make me cum surprisingly quickly if she hits the right spot.  
Since my incident...  sex feels different.  It feels good but different.  I don't feel the building intensity until the last couple of seconds (I warn my partners that I'm unable to give normal notice).  If I go to say "I'm going to cum!"  I am before it's finished.