But never tell a civilian date that you've seen
a provider.  There is no upside to doing it.  And
there is plenty of downside.

not should been I tell never trouth hobbie about. Got it?

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whi shood ewe ?

I have had the same problem hun, this hobby is very very difficult to explain to civilians, they will never understand!!!!  (unless of course, you fall madly in love and they likewise fall madly in love with you, or your love is totally unconditional- or openminded)  Yeah... call me a romantic but I still believe in  REAL love and a REAL connection/chemistry.....I guess Im just a product of the simple 70's!  LOL   Take a look at the movie "Pretty Woman."   Yeah I know.....its just "Hollywood" but you can create your own "Hollywood" if you find someone you "connect" with, and love and the feeling is mutual!  Just my two cents!  LOL Lisa of Boston    OK  rag me out here, go ahead, Im a romantic, but at least Im honest and I have HEART and I would never lie to someone about what I do!  Never!  The worst case senario is that they would not be able to accept it, but if its true love, they will, been there done that.......and something I am working on now, actually!  So..........(dot dot dot) lol ......whats the real deal?  lol hmmmmmmmm... ha ha ha lol.........Sorry to be SO realistic.....but.....love is LOVE....period! Lisa of Boston *smile*





























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Maybe she'd be open to seeing a provider with you, too.    

If you're hampered by low expectations, or for any other reason, don't feel you're in control of the women you date, this could be a problem.

Well first off, my 2 cents about your question is as follows,
If you really feel that she would find you gross and ungodly,
for having been with a provider, then I think that you have
to consider what your future is with her? how hopeful are you
to take the relationship to a more serious level?
and of course, honesty is always best, because love is accepting
someone for who they are, habits and all.
And don't let the those who are mighty with their pens put you
down, your ability to accept your limitations and yet still
put forth the effort to communicate, shows that you are a strong
person. Judge ye not least ye shall be judged.

Most providers do not respect the men who pay to see them despite what they may post on these discussion boards.  Even less regard any of the men that see them as relationship or marriage material.  

Why would you expect most civilian women to accept the fact that you have seen or are seeing providers?

I think you can figure out what you want to tell civilian women.

...when I tell them I'm married.